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6 Tips to Boost Your Self-Confidence

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6 Tips to Boost Your Self-Confidence

A lack of self-confidence can have a strong negative impact on your life. It can keep you from doing the things you would really love to do. It can also keep you from going after many of your dreams and aspirations. Self-confidence is key when it comes to taking control of your life and feeling that you can achieve almost anything that you put your mind to.

Unfortunately, for some people, gaining more confidence can seem easier said than done. It doesn’t have to be that way! The good news is, boosting your self-confidence doesn’t have to be a total life changing undertaking or a massive project. In fact, there are some small things that you can do each day to help give yourself a wonderful boost of confidence. By implementing some of the tips in this article, you can start to gain more self-confidence, feel better about yourself, and go after the things you have always wanted to.

1. Dress for Success

This might sound like a very ‘cliché’ line, but there is some truth in looking your best and feeling your best. When you take care of your appearance, you tend to feel better about yourself no matter what. Buy clothes that fit well and make you feel happy with your appearance when you look in the mirror. But, you don’t have to stop with what you wear! Proper grooming can also help to give your confidence a boost, too. A fresh haircut or some spa-like pampering can make a big difference not only in how you carry yourself, but how you feel on the inside.

2. Think Positive

If you want to have more self-confidence, you have to destroy the negative thoughts that creep into your mind on a regular basis and replace them with positive ones. This can be hard to do at first, since it is so easy for us to focus on the things that are hard, or the things that might be holding us back. It is even easier to focus on things we don’t like about ourselves rather than the things we love.

Negative self-talk can have a bigger impact on you than you may realize, and you might not even know how often you are doing it! That’s why it is so important to be more conscious of your thoughts. When you are able to do that, you can replace the negative thoughts with positive ones that will continue to push you forward.

3. Learn More About Yourself

One of the best ways to boost your self-confidence and generally feel better about yourself is to get to know yourself better. This might sound silly at first. But, have you ever really thought about why you struggle with self-confidence in the first place? You could be your own worst enemy without even taking the time to realize it.

One great way to approach this is to start journaling every day. Write down how you feel about yourself each day, and then try to analyze why you feel this way. After a while you will become more aware of your feelings and how certain things in your life trigger either positive or negative thoughts. The more you actually get to know about yourself, the easier it can be to follow the previous step and think more positive thoughts!

4. Be Kind To Others

This tip may sound simple, but it is not always easy. Most of us like to think of ourselves as kind and generous people. But, if we are being honest, we all know we could do better. Think about how you feel when you are truly kind and generous with someone. For example, when was the last time you made a donation to a charitable cause? Even if it was only a small amount, there is a good chance it made you feel a bit better.

Or, how do you feel when you simply hold the door open for someone, or smile at someone walking down the street? An act of kindness costs nothing and can help you feel great for the rest of the day. Not only can you boost your self-confidence each day with simple acts of kindness, but you can make someone else’s day, too!

5. Set Small Goals

While it is great to have big exciting goals for ourselves. Unfortunately, if we don’t reach those goals, it is easy to feel like we have not succeeded and start doubting ourselves. The problem sometimes with these big goals is that they only focus on the bigger picture and the long term. Instead, try to focus on making small, more achievable goals. You don’t have to sell yourself short, but by focusing on smaller goals that will eventually get you towards your bigger goals, you can create more achievements and wins for yourself. As a result, each small goal you achieve will boost your self confidence more, making it that much easier to move towards the bigger dream and goals you had in the first place.

Going ‘slow and steady’ with your dreams will take some patience and discipline. But, it is better for your overall mindset, and can really help you to become more confident every step of the way.

6. Be More Active

Don’t let yourself be idle for too long. When we sit around and do nothing for long periods of time, we begin to feel the effects both physically and mentally. Doing something, no matter how small it may be, can make you feel more accomplished and proud of yourself. Get off the couch and go for a walk or take a run to get some exercise and get the muscles working and the heart pumping. You can also do some chores around the house to keep you active or take some work home with you to get ahead of yourself.

Staying active physically and mentally will keep you from falling into negative self-talk traps and will make it easier for your self-confidence to remain on a higher level.

As you can see, it doesn’t have to be too difficult to give your self-confidence a boost each day. It is all about changing your mindset and making more conscious choices about how you think and what you do. By using some of these tips above, you will boost your self-confidence and you will start to feel better about yourself and how the rest of the world sees you.

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

Have you ever had moments where you feel completely inadequate? Maybe a specific situation comes up and you think there is no way that you would ever be good enough to do what is needed. Or, maybe you feel that way all the time and you can’t seem to get past it.

Thinking that you are not good enough and having low self-esteem tend to go hand-in-hand, but they are slightly different.

Thankfully, you can work on both of them by changing your thinking habits and banishing some of that negative self-talk from your mindset. Whether you think you are not good enough in certain situations or you have a hard time believing that you are good enough for almost anything, it doesn’t have to be that way forever.

Let’s look at a few things you should always keep in mind when those thoughts come in, and how you can start to convince yourself of your true worth.

1. You Are Not Alone

Thinking that you are not good enough can cause a lonely existence. You might not want to put your burdens on others, so you don’t talk about it. You might also think that everyone else is perfectly happy with who they are, and are confident in everything that they do.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

The reality is, you never know what other people are fully thinking/feeling. What you can count on, though, is that there are so many others who feel just like you, and are constantly wondering if they are “enough”. Knowing that you are not alone can help you to work through your feelings without feeling so isolated.

2. You Have Your Own Skills

A common reason why people tend to think they are not good enough is because they don’t have a specific talent or skill that someone else has. But you probably have something that person doesn’t, too.

Everyone has their own abilities and things that make them unique. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, keep your mind on your talents and what makes you special.

“If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you!” – T. Harv Eker

3. You Can’t Be Perfect

Perfection is a fruitless thing to chase. Many people who question their self-worth do so because they are perfectionists.

But, if you set such a high standard for yourself, you will always be disappointed. Perfection doesn’t exist, and while you can strive to be your best, it is important to understand human error and limits. That doesn’t mean the things you do are some how “less” than great. But, striving for perfection is something that can make you feel inadequate.

4. You Are Worthy of Loving Yourself

Love tends to be the answer for so many things, including any pain or turmoil that you might be going through. Thinking that you are not good enough is an easy way to cause yourself sadness and pain. Those thoughts can quickly snowball and you might start to think about more negative things about yourself.

Instead of fueling those negative thoughts, choose love. Love is like a permanent band-aid for the pain that you are going through. It is a great way to comfort yourself, provide reassurance, and get a clearer picture of who you really are and all of the wonderful things that you can offer the world. By choosing self-love, you can start to see yourself in a more positive light, and push those negative thoughts away.

“We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself.” – Mae West

5. Mistakes Can Be a Good Thing

Do you ever find yourself feeling especially inadequate when you “fail”? While that is not uncommon, that word should really be removed from your vocabulary.

Everyone “fails” at times, because again, perfection is not attainable. When you start to consider anything less than perfection to be a failure, it is easy to beat yourself up and think that you will never amount to the things that you truly want.

But, when you start to view your failures and mistakes as good things and stepping stones, you can completely shift your perspective and realize that not only are you good enough, but you are also resilient and strong. Some of the biggest “failures” in history went on to be the most successful people because they learned from their mistakes. They looked at the things that went wrong and considered how they could change them.

It is important to use your mistakes as a way to learn and grow. When you are able to do that, you will find a greater sense of fulfillment when things finally come together and you get it “right”.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordon

6. Gratitude Goes a Long Way

It might not always feel easy to accept and be grateful for who you are. But, it is incredibly important. Instead of thinking about the things you don’t have or areas where you are not “good enough”, choose to actively think about and pursue the positive. Focus on what you are grateful for. The more that you do that, the easier it will be to banish those thoughts of doubt and insecurity. I like to start every day by using my journal and begin by writing down three things that I am grateful for.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie

Once you really start to think about it, you will find that you have more to be grateful for than you may have initially realized, and that way of thinking can help you to establish healthier, more positive thoughts about yourself that will last a lifetime.

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

What are existential questions?

Existential questions are usually deep, philosophical questions that question just that — our very existence.

They can be great conversation starters and they can also sometimes make for a passionate discussion. The following existential questions can be a great way to get to know someone better and perhaps even learn new things about yourself.

The word existential comes from the Latin word “existentia”, which means to exist. Existential questions challenge our way of thinking, our beliefs and our perspective.

Is there a right or wrong answer to an existential question? Perhaps not, as each question usually just asks more questions.

I have put together the following list of thought provoking existential questions so that you can perhaps start an internal conversation with yourself or start an interesting debate with your friends.

50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

 

1. Are there limits to human creativity?

2. What makes something beautiful?

3. How do we know if we’re doing the right thing?

4. Who am I?

5. What is one thing that every human should get to experience in their life?

6. Do you believe in a power greater than humanity?

7. Are we given enough time?

8. Is privacy a right?

9. What is the best way for a person to attain happiness?

10. Are we alone in the universe?

11. What is love?

12. How would you define genius?

13. What do you think your purpose is?

14. If babies are considered innocent, when do people cease to be innocent?

15. Is it better to expand your knowledge or to deepen it?

16. Why do you think we are here?

17. How important is ‘play’ in living a healthy and fulfilling life?

18. Do you have a right to be happy, or should you earn it?

19. What happens when I die?

20. What worries me the most about the future?

21. What is a person? Is it the mind, or the body?

22. Would the world be a better place if all leaders were women? If you answered yes, why?

23. What activity have I done that has made me feel the most alive?

24. Does truth exist without evidence?

25. If I had to instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would I give?

26. Does a person have a soul? If so, where is it?

27. Is intelligence or wisdom more useful?

28. Is it more important to love or be loved?

29. What would make the world a better place?

30. How should we measure our lives? In years? In moments? In accomplishments? Something else?

31. What is the difference between living and simply existing?

32. If you died today, would you be satisfied with the life you’ve lived?

33. What advice would you tell your younger self?

34. Which is worse: failing or never trying?

35. Is a minimum wage a good idea? What about a maximum wage?

36. What is the most important goal every person should have?

37. Can anything ever really be considered ‘true’ or is everything subjective?

38. Is the world a better place with humans in it?

39. If extra-terrestrial life was discovered, how do you think humanity would react?

40. Is happiness just a mixture of chemicals circulating through our bodies?

41. Where do you think we go when we die?

42. Have I done anything lately worth remembering?

43. Can you ever have full control over your own life?

44. How do you know that you are not dreaming right now?

45. Is one lifetime enough?

46. What matters most in my life?

47. Is a person ever truly evil? If so, are they born that way?

48. What is the meaning of life?

49. Is humanity going in the right or wrong direction?

50. What does it mean to live a good life?

I hope that you enjoyed these thought provoking existential questions. I hope that they perhaps made you think about your beliefs, yourself and the world around you (the bigger picture). If you discuss these questions with a friend, remember, there is probably no right and wrong answers, usually just a matter of opinion.

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

I clearly remember when I was 18, then 25 and in then what seems like a flash, I have recently celebrated by 50th birthday. While some people might dread the thoughts of hitting such a milestone. (more…)

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