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7 Life Changing Questions To Ask Yourself In Your Thirties

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7 Life Changing Questions To Ask Yourself In Your Thirties

Many of us sail through most of our twenties without a care in the world. Some go to college, some get a job straight away, and some of us of travel the world…but whatever we decide to do, there always seems to be a sense of fun, exploration, and adventure behind it. Somewhere along the line, turning thirty became the new cutting off point of reaching adulthood, and the assumption is that once you’re in your thirties, it is time to officially ‘grow up.’ That can be a good thing for some, and a scary thing for others.

 

While a lot of us would like to say that we have everything figured out in our thirties, that is not always the case. Sometimes, we still need to take the time to sit down and think, and ask ourselves some serious questions. It is not always easy, but it can actually be very beneficial when it comes to your overall emotional health, and really appreciating where you are in your life. Go ahead and ask yourself these seven life changing questions, I hope that you will come up with some great answers and who knows you might be inspired to take some exciting action in your life today!

 1. What are my goals now?

It is natural to have goals as you grow up. From graduating high school, to getting into college, finding a good job, being in a relationship, having kids, etc. Everyone has their own personal goals, and they usually change over time. But by the time you’re in your thirties, many of those goals that you created a long time ago have likely either been achieved, or maybe even forgotten about. Ask yourself what short, medium and long-term goals do you have now, and how are you going to achieve them? Setting exciting goals for yourself is a great way to feel refreshed and excited about your future. So, instead of focusing on things you haven’t yet accomplished, figure out what do you want to achieve and how are you going to achieve them.

2. What am I passionate about?

There are very few people who get to work in the careers they truly love. But, life doesn’t have to revolve solely around work. Whether you love your job or not, could you say that you’re passionate about it? If not your job, then what? Perhaps you have a few hobbies, collections, or interests, or maybe you are passionate about your relationship, or your family. These passions can fuel a lot of emotion and desires for moving forward, so it is important to know what truly makes you tick on a day to day basis.

3. Who are my real friends?

In high school, and in our early twenties (especially in college), it seems all too easy to have a ton of friends, and be surrounded by people all of the time. As we get later into our twenties, those friendships can dwindle as people began to branch off into their own lives. By the time we are in our thirties, it is more important to count on a few strong friends in your life, than having a big group at all time.

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn

 

4. Where do I want to live?

Whether you ended up somewhere completely new for work after college, or if you moved back to your hometown, your thirties are the perfect time to decide where you really want to plant your roots, whether that’s for the rest of your life, or just for a few years. You are still young enough to make this decision and have a long, happy life in one location that makes you happy. If you don’t love where you live, maybe it is time to consider moving somewhere new!

5. How can I improve my health?

In your teenage years and in your twenties you almost feel invincible. You feel that you need less sleep, you are full of energy, and the importance of being in good health can be sometimes far down on our list of priorities. As we turn thirty, some of us start to feel more aches and pains where we didn’t before; we feel the need for more sleep, and we are less able for the late nights at the weekend. Improving your health through a balanced diet and regular exercise will pay off huge dividends now and in the future. If you want to be full of vitality ask yourself this important question today!

6. Do I want to be in a relationship?

People are now getting married later and later in life, and it’s certainly not uncommon or ‘taboo’ in any way for someone in their thirties to be single. But, it is also a good time to ask yourself what do you really want, as far as love goes. Do you want to be in a committed relationship? Do you want something more casual? Would you like to get married and have a family someday? This is a particular question that will undoubtedly be a springboard for more questions, but they’re all equally important, and something no one can decide for you.

7. What will make me happy?

While no one actually knows the ultimate secret and key to undying happiness, it is important to ask yourself, especially in your thirties, what makes you happy. With the fun and exciting glow of college and your twenties behind you, most people have a life of work to look forward to, but what’s going to make you really happy, either in your career field, or elsewhere? Maybe you won’t have the answer for right away, and maybe it will take several more years of self-discovery, and similar questions, but this may be the most important thing to ask yourself, and keep asking yourself, until you are sure of the answer. Then, you can go out there and capture that happiness!

 

If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree. – Jim Rohn

 

Your thirties can be a really wonderful time, and you don’t have to automatically think that just because you are out of your twenties that the fun and excitement stops. Life is truly what you make of it, and while all of us will be questioning ourselves and our lives forever, truly sitting down and thinking about these particular questions, and how you answer them in your thirties can give you some insight into your current life, and how your life might live your life in the future. Don’t be afraid to ask the tough questions, and don’t be worried if you can’t come up with the answers just yet. You have your whole wonderful life ahead of you to find the answers!

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

Have you ever had moments where you feel completely inadequate? Maybe a specific situation comes up and you think there is no way that you would ever be good enough to do what is needed. Or, maybe you feel that way all the time and you can’t seem to get past it.

Thinking that you are not good enough and having low self-esteem tend to go hand-in-hand, but they are slightly different.

Thankfully, you can work on both of them by changing your thinking habits and banishing some of that negative self-talk from your mindset. Whether you think you are not good enough in certain situations or you have a hard time believing that you are good enough for almost anything, it doesn’t have to be that way forever.

Let’s look at a few things you should always keep in mind when those thoughts come in, and how you can start to convince yourself of your true worth.

1. You Are Not Alone

Thinking that you are not good enough can cause a lonely existence. You might not want to put your burdens on others, so you don’t talk about it. You might also think that everyone else is perfectly happy with who they are, and are confident in everything that they do.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

The reality is, you never know what other people are fully thinking/feeling. What you can count on, though, is that there are so many others who feel just like you, and are constantly wondering if they are “enough”. Knowing that you are not alone can help you to work through your feelings without feeling so isolated.

2. You Have Your Own Skills

A common reason why people tend to think they are not good enough is because they don’t have a specific talent or skill that someone else has. But you probably have something that person doesn’t, too.

Everyone has their own abilities and things that make them unique. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, keep your mind on your talents and what makes you special.

“If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you!” – T. Harv Eker

3. You Can’t Be Perfect

Perfection is a fruitless thing to chase. Many people who question their self-worth do so because they are perfectionists.

But, if you set such a high standard for yourself, you will always be disappointed. Perfection doesn’t exist, and while you can strive to be your best, it is important to understand human error and limits. That doesn’t mean the things you do are some how “less” than great. But, striving for perfection is something that can make you feel inadequate.

4. You Are Worthy of Loving Yourself

Love tends to be the answer for so many things, including any pain or turmoil that you might be going through. Thinking that you are not good enough is an easy way to cause yourself sadness and pain. Those thoughts can quickly snowball and you might start to think about more negative things about yourself.

Instead of fueling those negative thoughts, choose love. Love is like a permanent band-aid for the pain that you are going through. It is a great way to comfort yourself, provide reassurance, and get a clearer picture of who you really are and all of the wonderful things that you can offer the world. By choosing self-love, you can start to see yourself in a more positive light, and push those negative thoughts away.

“We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself.” – Mae West

5. Mistakes Can Be a Good Thing

Do you ever find yourself feeling especially inadequate when you “fail”? While that is not uncommon, that word should really be removed from your vocabulary.

Everyone “fails” at times, because again, perfection is not attainable. When you start to consider anything less than perfection to be a failure, it is easy to beat yourself up and think that you will never amount to the things that you truly want.

But, when you start to view your failures and mistakes as good things and stepping stones, you can completely shift your perspective and realize that not only are you good enough, but you are also resilient and strong. Some of the biggest “failures” in history went on to be the most successful people because they learned from their mistakes. They looked at the things that went wrong and considered how they could change them.

It is important to use your mistakes as a way to learn and grow. When you are able to do that, you will find a greater sense of fulfillment when things finally come together and you get it “right”.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordon

6. Gratitude Goes a Long Way

It might not always feel easy to accept and be grateful for who you are. But, it is incredibly important. Instead of thinking about the things you don’t have or areas where you are not “good enough”, choose to actively think about and pursue the positive. Focus on what you are grateful for. The more that you do that, the easier it will be to banish those thoughts of doubt and insecurity. I like to start every day by using my journal and begin by writing down three things that I am grateful for.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie

Once you really start to think about it, you will find that you have more to be grateful for than you may have initially realized, and that way of thinking can help you to establish healthier, more positive thoughts about yourself that will last a lifetime.

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

What are existential questions?

Existential questions are usually deep, philosophical questions that question just that — our very existence.

They can be great conversation starters and they can also sometimes make for a passionate discussion. The following existential questions can be a great way to get to know someone better and perhaps even learn new things about yourself.

The word existential comes from the Latin word “existentia”, which means to exist. Existential questions challenge our way of thinking, our beliefs and our perspective.

Is there a right or wrong answer to an existential question? Perhaps not, as each question usually just asks more questions.

I have put together the following list of thought provoking existential questions so that you can perhaps start an internal conversation with yourself or start an interesting debate with your friends.

50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

 

1. Are there limits to human creativity?

2. What makes something beautiful?

3. How do we know if we’re doing the right thing?

4. Who am I?

5. What is one thing that every human should get to experience in their life?

6. Do you believe in a power greater than humanity?

7. Are we given enough time?

8. Is privacy a right?

9. What is the best way for a person to attain happiness?

10. Are we alone in the universe?

11. What is love?

12. How would you define genius?

13. What do you think your purpose is?

14. If babies are considered innocent, when do people cease to be innocent?

15. Is it better to expand your knowledge or to deepen it?

16. Why do you think we are here?

17. How important is ‘play’ in living a healthy and fulfilling life?

18. Do you have a right to be happy, or should you earn it?

19. What happens when I die?

20. What worries me the most about the future?

21. What is a person? Is it the mind, or the body?

22. Would the world be a better place if all leaders were women? If you answered yes, why?

23. What activity have I done that has made me feel the most alive?

24. Does truth exist without evidence?

25. If I had to instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would I give?

26. Does a person have a soul? If so, where is it?

27. Is intelligence or wisdom more useful?

28. Is it more important to love or be loved?

29. What would make the world a better place?

30. How should we measure our lives? In years? In moments? In accomplishments? Something else?

31. What is the difference between living and simply existing?

32. If you died today, would you be satisfied with the life you’ve lived?

33. What advice would you tell your younger self?

34. Which is worse: failing or never trying?

35. Is a minimum wage a good idea? What about a maximum wage?

36. What is the most important goal every person should have?

37. Can anything ever really be considered ‘true’ or is everything subjective?

38. Is the world a better place with humans in it?

39. If extra-terrestrial life was discovered, how do you think humanity would react?

40. Is happiness just a mixture of chemicals circulating through our bodies?

41. Where do you think we go when we die?

42. Have I done anything lately worth remembering?

43. Can you ever have full control over your own life?

44. How do you know that you are not dreaming right now?

45. Is one lifetime enough?

46. What matters most in my life?

47. Is a person ever truly evil? If so, are they born that way?

48. What is the meaning of life?

49. Is humanity going in the right or wrong direction?

50. What does it mean to live a good life?

I hope that you enjoyed these thought provoking existential questions. I hope that they perhaps made you think about your beliefs, yourself and the world around you (the bigger picture). If you discuss these questions with a friend, remember, there is probably no right and wrong answers, usually just a matter of opinion.

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

I clearly remember when I was 18, then 25 and in then what seems like a flash, I have recently celebrated by 50th birthday. While some people might dread the thoughts of hitting such a milestone. (more…)

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