You work hard, you’re constantly busy, you have a very active life, but… Are you really as happy as you want to be? Many people achieve outer success and have very busy, even productive lives and yet they feel there’s something missing.
Sometimes people feel guilty because from the outside their lives look really great. They think they should feel happier than they do. So they conclude that there has to be something wrong with them because they’re not quite as happy as they should be.
You deserve to be happy. You deserve to feel wonderful about yourself and the life you’re living. These simple tips will help you increase the amount of happiness and joy you feel on a daily basis.
1. Say goodbye to toxic relationships
Few things can affect your mood and the amount of joy you feel than negative people. Surround yourself with positive people who support, encourage and motivate you. Stay away from people who are constantly negative and who leave you feeling depressed and/or stressed. Stay away from people who live in a constant state of chaos.
2. Release perfectionism
It’s okay to have high standards and to believe in excellence, but if you try to be perfect all the time at everything, you can never be truly happy. You will put so much pressure on yourself that you’ll never be able to live up to it. This creates stress and limits your ability to really enjoy life. When you’re constantly striving to be perfect, other people won’t be able to connect with you. They know they can never live up to your impossible expectations. And for that matter, neither can you!
3. Let go of expectations
If you have unreasonably high expectations for yourself, you’ll also have those same expectations for other people, which means you’ll spend a lot of time feeling disappointed. Other people are not just like you, so don’t expect them to be. Releasing your unreasonably high expectations of yourself and others and unreasonably high expectations for yourself will allow you to relax and tap into happiness.
4. Stop comparing yourself[clickandtweet handle=”” hashtag=”” related=”” layout=”” position=””]Oscar Wilde said “Be yourself, everyone else is taken.”[/clickandtweet] Your job is to be the best you that you can be. That’s it. It doesn’t matter what other people have or what other people do, you are not them. You will never be truly happy if you constantly compare yourself to others because in many ways you’ll often feel that you don’t measure up.
5. Do more of what you love
What brings you joy? What do you love to do so much that time flies when you’re doing it? Bring more of this into your life. When you spend more time doing what you love you will naturally begin to feel more joyful.
6. Help someone else
It feels good to help others, but you must be careful to do so from a place of strength and not of weakness. Make sure your energy is good and positive when you’re reaching out to help someone else, and then you’ll feel good and not depleted. If your energy is off and you feel angry, upset or frustrated, you may end up feeling worse, and will perhaps transfer some of your negative energy to the person you’re trying to help.
7. Put yourself first
Contrary to popular belief, putting yourself first is not selfish. It can be if you do it at the expense of others, but making sure your needs are met means you’ll have more positive energy to share with others simply because you’ll feel good. Stop putting yourself last on the list! Instead, put yourself first and then notice the balance you’ll feel when you give to others.
8. Know yourself
What energizes you? What drains you? What makes you feel good? What doesn’t? What brings you joy? What is most important to you? The more you know yourself, the more you can share yourself and the more confident and empowered you become.
9. Learn to embrace change
Life is constantly changing. Nothing stays the same forever. When you resist change or fear it, you’ll feel stress and anxiety. When you learn to embrace change and go with the flow of life you open yourself up to more possibilities and more happiness.
10. Allow others to help you
When you try to do everything by yourself and you shut others out you put too much pressure on yourself and you’ll never be able to relax. Other people want to help you and they will feel good when they do. Be gracious enough to allow them that golden opportunity. When you take the pressure off yourself by allowing others to help, you can relax and enjoy life so much more.
You might think it’s the big events in life that make you happy, but what we see time and time again is that it’s the little things you do that bring you the most joy. Take each of these tips and decide to apply them to your life a little more each day. All those small things add up and you’ll start finding yourself experiencing greater happiness, joy and well-being each day.
50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions
What are existential questions?
Existential questions are usually deep, philosophical questions that question just that — our very existence.
They can be great conversation starters and they can also sometimes make for a passionate discussion. The following existential questions can be a great way to get to know someone better and perhaps even learn new things about yourself.
The word existential comes from the Latin word “existentia”, which means to exist. Existential questions challenge our way of thinking, our beliefs and our perspective.
Is there a right or wrong answer to an existential question? Perhaps not, as each question usually just asks more questions.
I have put together the following list of thought provoking existential questions so that you can perhaps start an internal conversation with yourself or start an interesting debate with your friends.
50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions
1. Are there limits to human creativity?
2. What makes something beautiful?
3. How do we know if we’re doing the right thing?
4. Who am I?
5. What is one thing that every human should get to experience in their life?
6. Do you believe in a power greater than humanity?
7. Are we given enough time?
8. Is privacy a right?
9. What is the best way for a person to attain happiness?
10. Are we alone in the universe?
11. What is love?
12. How would you define genius?
13. What do you think your purpose is?
14. If babies are considered innocent, when do people cease to be innocent?
15. Is it better to expand your knowledge or to deepen it?
16. Why do you think we are here?
17. How important is ‘play’ in living a healthy and fulfilling life?
18. Do you have a right to be happy, or should you earn it?
19. What happens when I die?
20. What worries me the most about the future?
21. What is a person? Is it the mind, or the body?
22. Would the world be a better place if all leaders were women? If you answered yes, why?
23. What activity have I done that has made me feel the most alive?
24. Does truth exist without evidence?
25. If I had to instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would I give?
26. Does a person have a soul? If so, where is it?
27. Is intelligence or wisdom more useful?
28. Is it more important to love or be loved?
29. What would make the world a better place?
30. How should we measure our lives? In years? In moments? In accomplishments? Something else?
31. What is the difference between living and simply existing?
32. If you died today, would you be satisfied with the life you’ve lived?
33. What advice would you tell your younger self?
34. Which is worse: failing or never trying?
35. Is a minimum wage a good idea? What about a maximum wage?
36. What is the most important goal every person should have?
37. Can anything ever really be considered ‘true’ or is everything subjective?
38. Is the world a better place with humans in it?
39. If extra-terrestrial life was discovered, how do you think humanity would react?
40. Is happiness just a mixture of chemicals circulating through our bodies?
41. Where do you think we go when we die?
42. Have I done anything lately worth remembering?
43. Can you ever have full control over your own life?
44. How do you know that you are not dreaming right now?
45. Is one lifetime enough?
46. What matters most in my life?
47. Is a person ever truly evil? If so, are they born that way?
48. What is the meaning of life?
49. Is humanity going in the right or wrong direction?
50. What does it mean to live a good life?
I hope that you enjoyed these thought provoking existential questions. I hope that they perhaps made you think about your beliefs, yourself and the world around you (the bigger picture). If you discuss these questions with a friend, remember, there is probably no right and wrong answers, usually just a matter of opinion.
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