You work hard, you’re constantly busy, you have a very active life, but… Are you really as happy as you want to be? Many people achieve outer success and have very busy, even productive lives and yet they feel there’s something missing.
Sometimes people feel guilty because from the outside their lives look really great. They think they should feel happier than they do. So they conclude that there has to be something wrong with them because they’re not quite as happy as they should be.
You deserve to be happy. You deserve to feel wonderful about yourself and the life you’re living. These simple tips will help you increase the amount of happiness and joy you feel on a daily basis.
1. Say goodbye to toxic relationships
Few things can affect your mood and the amount of joy you feel than negative people. Surround yourself with positive people who support, encourage and motivate you. Stay away from people who are constantly negative and who leave you feeling depressed and/or stressed. Stay away from people who live in a constant state of chaos.
2. Release perfectionism
It’s okay to have high standards and to believe in excellence, but if you try to be perfect all the time at everything, you can never be truly happy. You will put so much pressure on yourself that you’ll never be able to live up to it.
This creates stress and limits your ability to really enjoy life. When you’re constantly striving to be perfect, other people won’t be able to connect with you. They know they can never live up to your impossible expectations. And for that matter, neither can you!
3. Let go of expectations
If you have unreasonably high expectations for yourself, you’ll also have those same expectations for other people, which means you’ll spend a lot of time feeling disappointed. Other people are not just like you, so don’t expect them to be. Releasing your unreasonably high expectations of yourself and others and unreasonably high expectations for yourself will allow you to relax and tap into happiness.
4. Stop comparing yourself
Your job is to be the best you that you can be. That’s it. It doesn’t matter what other people have or what other people do, you are not them. You will never be truly happy if you constantly compare yourself to others because in many ways you’ll often feel that you don’t measure up.
5. Do more of what you love
What brings you joy? What do you love to do so much that time flies when you’re doing it? Bring more of this into your life. When you spend more time doing what you love you will naturally begin to feel more joyful.
6. Help someone else
It feels good to help others, but you must be careful to do so from a place of strength and not of weakness. Make sure your energy is good and positive when you’re reaching out to help someone else, and then you’ll feel good and not depleted. If your energy is off and you feel angry, upset or frustrated, you may end up feeling worse, and will perhaps transfer some of your negative energy to the person you’re trying to help.
7. Put yourself first
Contrary to popular belief, putting yourself first is not selfish. It can be if you do it at the expense of others, but making sure your needs are met means you’ll have more positive energy to share with others simply because you’ll feel good. Stop putting yourself last on the list! Instead, put yourself first and then notice the balance you’ll feel when you give to others.
8. Know yourself
What energizes you? What drains you? What makes you feel good? What doesn’t? What brings you joy? What is most important to you? The more you know yourself, the more you can share yourself and the more confident and empowered you become.
9. Learn to embrace change
Life is constantly changing. Nothing stays the same forever. When you resist change or fear it, you’ll feel stress and anxiety. When you learn to embrace change and go with the flow of life you open yourself up to more possibilities and more happiness.
10. Allow others to help you
When you try to do everything by yourself and you shut others out you put too much pressure on yourself and you’ll never be able to relax. Other people want to help you and they will feel good when they do. Be gracious enough to allow them that golden opportunity. When you take the pressure off yourself by allowing others to help, you can relax and enjoy life so much more.
You might think it’s the big events in life that make you happy, but what we see time and time again is that it’s the little things you do that bring you the most joy. Take each of these tips and decide to apply them to your life a little more each day. All those small things add up and you’ll start finding yourself experiencing greater happiness, joy and well-being each day.