You have probably heard before that one of the keys to success is to focus on your strengths. While there is absolutely nothing wrong with expanding on the things that you are already good at, you could be missing an important ingredient in your life that might be holding you back:
Not focusing on your weaknesses.
No one wants to think about the things they struggle with, but think about it this way; you can work hard by adding new, healthy habits to your life. But, if you are ignoring the ‘bad’ habits or the things that are weakening you, you will never reach your full potential. Those habits can work against your mental strength. Mentally strong people don’t do certain things, and don’t fall into some of these habits. With that in mind, let’s look at eight things mentally strong people don’t do, so you can start to shed some of your own habits that might be holding you back.
1. Waste Time on Their Sorrows
Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry for themselves, no matter what their circumstances may be. Failures and setbacks will happen. It is how you respond to them that will make a difference. Exaggerating your problems or throwing a pity party will only make things worse. Choose to have a more positive attitude even in times of struggle in order to boost your mental fitness.
2. Feel Like a Victim
When you tell yourself that other people have a direct impact on how you feel, you are giving them the power and taking it away from yourself. For example, if you believe that your boss ruins your day, you are giving them the power. You are playing the victim. You cannot choose what happens to you in a day but you can choose your attitude towards it. Take back the power in your own life and don’t let others steal it from you.
3. Try to Prevent Change
Change happens whether we like it or not. Mentally strong individuals don’t shy away from change. Rather, they focus on their ability to adapt. The more you can adapt to change with a positive attitude, the more you will be able to encourage change and growth within yourself. Don’t get stuck in your old ways, especially when change can make things better.
4. Worry About Things Out of Their Control
Things will happen every day that you cannot control. Mentally strong people don’t waste their time or energy worrying about those things, because there is simply no point. Again, the only thing you can really control is your attitude and reaction in response to different situations – whether they are good or bad. Wasting your energy worrying over things that are out of your hands will only deplete you, and make you feel weaker.
5. Try to Please Everyone
It is human nature to want people to like you and accept you. Unfortunately, it is impossible to please everyone all of the time. If you spend all of your energy trying to make everyone else happy while ignoring your own needs, you are going to burn out quickly. Plus, it is a fruitless effort, because there will always be someone who will be unsatisfied. Others might even start to take advantage of you if they know that you will do whatever they want. While it is good to care for others, don’t try to please everyone, and make sure to focus on what you need, too.
6. Stay Stuck in the Past
Getting stuck in the past can prevent you from moving forward and growing. Everyone has experiences they might like to forget or things from their past that can be hard to get over. While you can learn from the past, you don’t have to dwell on it. Choose to find peace with your own past and accept the things that it taught you. Use those lessons as you look toward your future and make the most of the present.
7. Get Jealous About the Success of Others
You should never resent someone who finds success. This habit can lead to more negative thinking, and you might even start to criticize yourself even more. When you start to stir up feelings of jealousy or resentment, you are taking your focus away from your own success. That uses a lot of energy and can cause you to become mentally weak. Stay committed to reaching your own level of success without resenting how other people might have achieved theirs. We all view success differently, so concentrating on your own goals and dreams without being envious of others will help you to stay focused.
8. Expect Instant Gratification
Typically, the best things in life take time. When you are trying to grow as an individual, it takes time. You can’t expect overnight changes, results and success. Doing so will result in nothing but frustration, and you might be tempted to give up. Will you experience setbacks in your mental growth? Yes. But, you can use them as learning experiences and become even stronger as you move forward. The stronger you become, mentally, the more resilient you will also become to those hardships. So, when they keep coming up in life, you will be able to handle them more effectively each time.
Anyone can become mentally stronger. Like any other muscle, it takes time, effort, and dedication to increase your mental fitness. So, while you should pay attention to your strengths, you also should not ignore your weaknesses. By working on those weaknesses, you can improve your mental strength and get rid of the things that could be confining your success.
50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions
What are existential questions?
Existential questions are usually deep, philosophical questions that question just that — our very existence.
They can be great conversation starters and they can also sometimes make for a passionate discussion. The following existential questions can be a great way to get to know someone better and perhaps even learn new things about yourself.
The word existential comes from the Latin word “existentia”, which means to exist. Existential questions challenge our way of thinking, our beliefs and our perspective.
Is there a right or wrong answer to an existential question? Perhaps not, as each question usually just asks more questions.
I have put together the following list of thought provoking existential questions so that you can perhaps start an internal conversation with yourself or start an interesting debate with your friends.
50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions
1. Are there limits to human creativity?
2. What makes something beautiful?
3. How do we know if we’re doing the right thing?
4. Who am I?
5. What is one thing that every human should get to experience in their life?
6. Do you believe in a power greater than humanity?
7. Are we given enough time?
8. Is privacy a right?
9. What is the best way for a person to attain happiness?
10. Are we alone in the universe?
11. What is love?
12. How would you define genius?
13. What do you think your purpose is?
14. If babies are considered innocent, when do people cease to be innocent?
15. Is it better to expand your knowledge or to deepen it?
16. Why do you think we are here?
17. How important is ‘play’ in living a healthy and fulfilling life?
18. Do you have a right to be happy, or should you earn it?
19. What happens when I die?
20. What worries me the most about the future?
21. What is a person? Is it the mind, or the body?
22. Would the world be a better place if all leaders were women? If you answered yes, why?
23. What activity have I done that has made me feel the most alive?
24. Does truth exist without evidence?
25. If I had to instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would I give?
26. Does a person have a soul? If so, where is it?
27. Is intelligence or wisdom more useful?
28. Is it more important to love or be loved?
29. What would make the world a better place?
30. How should we measure our lives? In years? In moments? In accomplishments? Something else?
31. What is the difference between living and simply existing?
32. If you died today, would you be satisfied with the life you’ve lived?
33. What advice would you tell your younger self?
34. Which is worse: failing or never trying?
35. Is a minimum wage a good idea? What about a maximum wage?
36. What is the most important goal every person should have?
37. Can anything ever really be considered ‘true’ or is everything subjective?
38. Is the world a better place with humans in it?
39. If extra-terrestrial life was discovered, how do you think humanity would react?
40. Is happiness just a mixture of chemicals circulating through our bodies?
41. Where do you think we go when we die?
42. Have I done anything lately worth remembering?
43. Can you ever have full control over your own life?
44. How do you know that you are not dreaming right now?
45. Is one lifetime enough?
46. What matters most in my life?
47. Is a person ever truly evil? If so, are they born that way?
48. What is the meaning of life?
49. Is humanity going in the right or wrong direction?
50. What does it mean to live a good life?
I hope that you enjoyed these thought provoking existential questions. I hope that they perhaps made you think about your beliefs, yourself and the world around you (the bigger picture). If you discuss these questions with a friend, remember, there is probably no right and wrong answers, usually just a matter of opinion.
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