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8 Things You Need To Stop Doing To Be Successful

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8 Things You Need To Stop Doing To Be Successful

Success can mean different things to different people. We all have different values, goals and dreams for the future. What is most important, is what success means to you. Not what your boss thinks, or your friends, or your neighbors, or even your family members. Yes, getting positive input from others outlining what success means for them is a good thing as none of us have all of the right answers.

At the end of the day, the best definition of success is the one that you give to it. In my opinion, success is having a healthy balance of a number of things, such as my level of personal health, my on going personal development, my personal happiness, my contribution to society, my personal relationship, traveling and experiencing new things and my financial health.

I have found that the following 8 things can have a negative effect and can hold most people back from achieving success in their lives.

1. Hanging Around Negative People

Did you ever speak to a person only to feel totally drained afterwards? Do you know anyone who has never a positive thing to say about anyone? These people can leave you feeling drained both mentally and physically. If you cannot avoid these negative people altogether, limit the amount of time that you spend with them. These people enjoy spreading negativity, bad news and gossip. You don’t need this in your life. Instead, surround yourself with positive minded people who speak well of others and have similar goals and dreams as you. Connect with people who push you and want to see you succeed.

2. Not Exercising

We all know by now the many wonderful benefits that exercise has on both our body and our mind. Regular exercise will have you looking better and feeling great about yourself and you will find that you will have more energy. Start off with 30 minutes of light exercise a few times a week and you will start to reap the positive rewards in no time. Exercise doesn’t have to be torture or feel like a chore. Find a type of exercise that you will enjoy and have fun doing; you could take dance lessons, join your local Yoga studio or set up a small exercise area at home.

3. Stop Using Your Smartphone

Smartphones are a wonderful invention. They are an organizer, a communication device, a music player, they allow you to network with people from all over the world, you can use them to take photographs of memories from your Summer vacation and you can use them to search for information on any subject in seconds. I think we can all agree that smartphone use has got out of hand. Dinner tables are starting to resemble phone stores. People are constantly checking Facebook updates, Tweets and the latest Pins during a conversation. Make the conscious habit to limit your daily usage of your smartphone. Put it out of reach when you come hone. Don’t use your smartphone at the dining table or during a conversation. Pay more attention to what is going on around you and start enjoying good conversation.

4. Not Planning Your Day

Do you wake up every morning with just enough time to take a shower, get dressed and have a quick cup of coffee before running out the door? Do you press the snooze button to get another 5 minutes of rest? Do you wake up dreading the thoughts of another day? This was me a few years ago. This all changed when I started using a journal ever morning. When I started journaling, I began to feel excited each day reading my list of goals. I planned essential tasks for each day to keep me on track with my goals, and I also wrote down what I was grateful for every day. I spend no more than five minutes journaling in the morning, but it has helped to change my life in many ways. Waking up with gratitude, feeling motivated by your goals and planning a road map to get you were you want to be is a fantastic way to start each day.

5. Watching Too Much TV

According to Statista, in 2016 the average American watched over 270 minutes of television a day. This equates to over 31 hours a week! Soap operas, talent shows, reality TV, catching up on box sets, it is easy to see how the time can go by. I enjoy watching a good documentary or movie like anyone else, but I limit the amount of time that I spend watching TV. If I find myself channel hopping, I just switch the TV off and put some music on and read a book or watch something educational online. Try to limit the amount of time that you spend watching TV, start reading again, listen to music or call a friend or family member.

6. Stop Ignoring Your Goals

Throughout our lives we have always had goals. From making the team in school, getting good grades in college, what career we wanted to have, and perhaps what type of life we wanted to live in the future. Goals excite us and push us to grow and change as a person. Have goals that give you reasons to take action and strive everyday to become a better person. Stop ignoring your goals; get passionate about life and about your future. Write down a list of your short, medium and long-term goals and plan a road map to achieve them.

7. Stop Giving Up

Most of are guilty of this one. Have you ever started an exercise program only to give up after a few days or weeks? Have you tried to eat a healthy diet only to slip back to your old ways? Have you ever made a New Years resolution only to give up a few days later? If you are going to exercise, improve your diet, read more, learn a skill, start a hobby give yourself enough reasons why you want to start this habit. Make the habit as enjoyable as possible and organize the time needed each week to do your new habit. Use your daily journal to keep you on track in a positive way. Stop giving up! Start living life and make the most of your time. Get passionate about YOU!

8. Stop Living In The Past

The person who you were 5 or 10 years ago was probably a different person than who you are now. Our values can change over time, as well as sometimes our friends and our goals for the future. If you have made mistakes in the past, join the club, we all have. None of us are perfect. The thing is to acknowledge and learn from past mistakes.

Remember, you are NOT defined by your past. What is most important is the person who you are today. Start living in the now and make every day count. Now is the perfect time to turn the page and start writing a new chapter in your life.

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

Have you ever had moments where you feel completely inadequate? Maybe a specific situation comes up and you think there is no way that you would ever be good enough to do what is needed. Or, maybe you feel that way all the time and you can’t seem to get past it.

Thinking that you are not good enough and having low self-esteem tend to go hand-in-hand, but they are slightly different.

Thankfully, you can work on both of them by changing your thinking habits and banishing some of that negative self-talk from your mindset. Whether you think you are not good enough in certain situations or you have a hard time believing that you are good enough for almost anything, it doesn’t have to be that way forever.

Let’s look at a few things you should always keep in mind when those thoughts come in, and how you can start to convince yourself of your true worth.

1. You Are Not Alone

Thinking that you are not good enough can cause a lonely existence. You might not want to put your burdens on others, so you don’t talk about it. You might also think that everyone else is perfectly happy with who they are, and are confident in everything that they do.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

The reality is, you never know what other people are fully thinking/feeling. What you can count on, though, is that there are so many others who feel just like you, and are constantly wondering if they are “enough”. Knowing that you are not alone can help you to work through your feelings without feeling so isolated.

2. You Have Your Own Skills

A common reason why people tend to think they are not good enough is because they don’t have a specific talent or skill that someone else has. But you probably have something that person doesn’t, too.

Everyone has their own abilities and things that make them unique. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, keep your mind on your talents and what makes you special.

“If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you!” – T. Harv Eker

3. You Can’t Be Perfect

Perfection is a fruitless thing to chase. Many people who question their self-worth do so because they are perfectionists.

But, if you set such a high standard for yourself, you will always be disappointed. Perfection doesn’t exist, and while you can strive to be your best, it is important to understand human error and limits. That doesn’t mean the things you do are some how “less” than great. But, striving for perfection is something that can make you feel inadequate.

4. You Are Worthy of Loving Yourself

Love tends to be the answer for so many things, including any pain or turmoil that you might be going through. Thinking that you are not good enough is an easy way to cause yourself sadness and pain. Those thoughts can quickly snowball and you might start to think about more negative things about yourself.

Instead of fueling those negative thoughts, choose love. Love is like a permanent band-aid for the pain that you are going through. It is a great way to comfort yourself, provide reassurance, and get a clearer picture of who you really are and all of the wonderful things that you can offer the world. By choosing self-love, you can start to see yourself in a more positive light, and push those negative thoughts away.

“We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself.” – Mae West

5. Mistakes Can Be a Good Thing

Do you ever find yourself feeling especially inadequate when you “fail”? While that is not uncommon, that word should really be removed from your vocabulary.

Everyone “fails” at times, because again, perfection is not attainable. When you start to consider anything less than perfection to be a failure, it is easy to beat yourself up and think that you will never amount to the things that you truly want.

But, when you start to view your failures and mistakes as good things and stepping stones, you can completely shift your perspective and realize that not only are you good enough, but you are also resilient and strong. Some of the biggest “failures” in history went on to be the most successful people because they learned from their mistakes. They looked at the things that went wrong and considered how they could change them.

It is important to use your mistakes as a way to learn and grow. When you are able to do that, you will find a greater sense of fulfillment when things finally come together and you get it “right”.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordon

6. Gratitude Goes a Long Way

It might not always feel easy to accept and be grateful for who you are. But, it is incredibly important. Instead of thinking about the things you don’t have or areas where you are not “good enough”, choose to actively think about and pursue the positive. Focus on what you are grateful for. The more that you do that, the easier it will be to banish those thoughts of doubt and insecurity. I like to start every day by using my journal and begin by writing down three things that I am grateful for.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie

Once you really start to think about it, you will find that you have more to be grateful for than you may have initially realized, and that way of thinking can help you to establish healthier, more positive thoughts about yourself that will last a lifetime.

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

What are existential questions?

Existential questions are usually deep, philosophical questions that question just that — our very existence.

They can be great conversation starters and they can also sometimes make for a passionate discussion. The following existential questions can be a great way to get to know someone better and perhaps even learn new things about yourself.

The word existential comes from the Latin word “existentia”, which means to exist. Existential questions challenge our way of thinking, our beliefs and our perspective.

Is there a right or wrong answer to an existential question? Perhaps not, as each question usually just asks more questions.

I have put together the following list of thought provoking existential questions so that you can perhaps start an internal conversation with yourself or start an interesting debate with your friends.

50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

 

1. Are there limits to human creativity?

2. What makes something beautiful?

3. How do we know if we’re doing the right thing?

4. Who am I?

5. What is one thing that every human should get to experience in their life?

6. Do you believe in a power greater than humanity?

7. Are we given enough time?

8. Is privacy a right?

9. What is the best way for a person to attain happiness?

10. Are we alone in the universe?

11. What is love?

12. How would you define genius?

13. What do you think your purpose is?

14. If babies are considered innocent, when do people cease to be innocent?

15. Is it better to expand your knowledge or to deepen it?

16. Why do you think we are here?

17. How important is ‘play’ in living a healthy and fulfilling life?

18. Do you have a right to be happy, or should you earn it?

19. What happens when I die?

20. What worries me the most about the future?

21. What is a person? Is it the mind, or the body?

22. Would the world be a better place if all leaders were women? If you answered yes, why?

23. What activity have I done that has made me feel the most alive?

24. Does truth exist without evidence?

25. If I had to instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would I give?

26. Does a person have a soul? If so, where is it?

27. Is intelligence or wisdom more useful?

28. Is it more important to love or be loved?

29. What would make the world a better place?

30. How should we measure our lives? In years? In moments? In accomplishments? Something else?

31. What is the difference between living and simply existing?

32. If you died today, would you be satisfied with the life you’ve lived?

33. What advice would you tell your younger self?

34. Which is worse: failing or never trying?

35. Is a minimum wage a good idea? What about a maximum wage?

36. What is the most important goal every person should have?

37. Can anything ever really be considered ‘true’ or is everything subjective?

38. Is the world a better place with humans in it?

39. If extra-terrestrial life was discovered, how do you think humanity would react?

40. Is happiness just a mixture of chemicals circulating through our bodies?

41. Where do you think we go when we die?

42. Have I done anything lately worth remembering?

43. Can you ever have full control over your own life?

44. How do you know that you are not dreaming right now?

45. Is one lifetime enough?

46. What matters most in my life?

47. Is a person ever truly evil? If so, are they born that way?

48. What is the meaning of life?

49. Is humanity going in the right or wrong direction?

50. What does it mean to live a good life?

I hope that you enjoyed these thought provoking existential questions. I hope that they perhaps made you think about your beliefs, yourself and the world around you (the bigger picture). If you discuss these questions with a friend, remember, there is probably no right and wrong answers, usually just a matter of opinion.

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

I clearly remember when I was 18, then 25 and in then what seems like a flash, I have recently celebrated by 50th birthday. While some people might dread the thoughts of hitting such a milestone. (more…)

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