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How to Make a New Year’s Resolution and Stick to It

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How to Make a New Year’s Resolution and Stick to It

As we enter into a new year, the idea of making some New Year’s resolutions has probably entered your thoughts at least once. But, even with the best of intentions, we often do not stick to the goals and promises that we made to ourselves at the beginning of the year.

Common statistics show that only 8% of people who make a New Year’s resolution actually keep it. Whether it is to lose some weight, quit smoking, or be more productive, it is not always easy to keep the lofty goals we set for ourselves. We might be able to do it for a few weeks, but after that, many of our resolutions start to fade away for another year.

So, is it possible to make a resolution and actually keep it throughout the year? Absolutely! It doesn’t matter what you want to do or what your goals are – the process for keeping them is relatively the same. Use the tips listed below to keep whatever resolution you make for yourself this year. By this time next year rolls around, you will feel more confident and accomplished than ever before.

Don’t Overdo It

One of the biggest mistakes people make in starting a resolution is that they reach for something really big right away. Starting small will feel less overwhelming, and you will be more likely to stick to it. If you have multiple goals, this is completely fine. Just make sure you focus on one at a time, instead of trying to stack everything into one major task that you have to complete.

The goal is to make realistic resolutions: Things you know that you will be able to do and keep with a little bit of effort. It is not a bad thing to have bigger dreams and ambitions, but by starting small, you won’t burn out right away and you’ll be able to keep working toward those larger exciting goals over time.

Don’t Keep It to Yourself

You might think your resolution has to be completely private and personal, but that’s not true! If you have had trouble keeping your goals in the past, then why not talk to someone about it? The more people that you talk about your resolution, the more likely it is that you’ll keep it up. People will ask you about it as a topic of conversation, so you’ll want to have something to tell them! Consider it a bit of subtle motivation.

You can also ask others to hold you accountable when it comes to your resolutions. Find someone to support you in your goals. This could be a family member, friend, or even a specific support group of people who want to achieve something similar to you. By keeping a resolution to yourself, it’s far too easy to ignore it. When others know about it, you will feel more motivated to get it done.

Expect and Embrace Setbacks

One big reason people don’t always stick to their resolutions is because if they have one minor setback, and they give up completely. Hiccups will happen. You will make mistakes throughout the year, and you won’t always stay on track with your goals the way you thought that you might. The important thing is not to let these small setbacks stop you from staying on the larger course.

Embrace setbacks when they happen, and use them as learning tools to move forward with your resolutions. Recovering from your mistakes will be half the battle, as once you have learned how to do that, staying on track to meet your big goals will be so much easier.

Give Yourself a Time-Frame

It’s easy to say something like, “I want to do this by the end of the year.” Unfortunately, it is also easy to ignore that goal for the entire year and realize at the end of it that you haven’t accomplished what you set out to do.

Giving yourself an entire year to actually work on a resolution can easily lead to procrastination. Instead, give yourself a time-frame, or several of them. Set goals based on time periods. This can be incredibly motivating, since you will want to be able to achieve certain milestones by a certain point in time. It gives you several ‘mini goals’ to look forward to, and lets you know officially when you need to have everything done. A time-frame might seem like added pressure, but it can actually work wonders in helping you to stick to your resolutions.

Use a Journal

Get into the wonderful habit of using a journal everyday. I found that once I started to use a journal I started to achieve more of my goals. Using a journal for just a few minutes every morning, is a great way to keep you on track with your exciting goals that you have set for yourself. I use my journal as a reminder to keep my goals fresh in my mind. I also use my journal to map out tasks that I must do each day to stay on course to achieve my goals. A journal is also a great way to think on paper. Record your thoughts, ideas, goals and inspiring quotes. A journal is also a great motivational tool to see just how much you have achieved over a period of time. Keeping a record of your progress will also motivate you to strive on to achieve even more.

Never Give Up

Not giving up goes along with embracing your setbacks. But, it also means you get to celebrate your victories and keep moving forward. It’s okay to recognize your accomplishments throughout the year and feel good about them. Each one is a step closer to your ultimate goal. But, don’t get complacent with these small victories. Instead, recognize them for what they are and continue down the right path.

The bottom line? You can’t get too hung up on any setbacks or lapse. The most important thing you can do when sticking to a resolution is to keep moving forward. Dust yourself off and start again immediately if you do slip up, and use any small successes as motivation to keep you moving towards your bigger goals.

A New Year’s resolution isn’t as overwhelming as we can often make it out to be. Let this year finally be the one that whatever resolution you make, becomes a lifelong habit, or a goal that you will absolutely stick to and achieve.

I hope these tips inspire you to have your best year ever.

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

Have you ever had moments where you feel completely inadequate? Maybe a specific situation comes up and you think there is no way that you would ever be good enough to do what is needed. Or, maybe you feel that way all the time and you can’t seem to get past it.

Thinking that you are not good enough and having low self-esteem tend to go hand-in-hand, but they are slightly different.

Thankfully, you can work on both of them by changing your thinking habits and banishing some of that negative self-talk from your mindset. Whether you think you are not good enough in certain situations or you have a hard time believing that you are good enough for almost anything, it doesn’t have to be that way forever.

Let’s look at a few things you should always keep in mind when those thoughts come in, and how you can start to convince yourself of your true worth.

1. You Are Not Alone

Thinking that you are not good enough can cause a lonely existence. You might not want to put your burdens on others, so you don’t talk about it. You might also think that everyone else is perfectly happy with who they are, and are confident in everything that they do.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

The reality is, you never know what other people are fully thinking/feeling. What you can count on, though, is that there are so many others who feel just like you, and are constantly wondering if they are “enough”. Knowing that you are not alone can help you to work through your feelings without feeling so isolated.

2. You Have Your Own Skills

A common reason why people tend to think they are not good enough is because they don’t have a specific talent or skill that someone else has. But you probably have something that person doesn’t, too.

Everyone has their own abilities and things that make them unique. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, keep your mind on your talents and what makes you special.

“If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you!” – T. Harv Eker

3. You Can’t Be Perfect

Perfection is a fruitless thing to chase. Many people who question their self-worth do so because they are perfectionists.

But, if you set such a high standard for yourself, you will always be disappointed. Perfection doesn’t exist, and while you can strive to be your best, it is important to understand human error and limits. That doesn’t mean the things you do are some how “less” than great. But, striving for perfection is something that can make you feel inadequate.

4. You Are Worthy of Loving Yourself

Love tends to be the answer for so many things, including any pain or turmoil that you might be going through. Thinking that you are not good enough is an easy way to cause yourself sadness and pain. Those thoughts can quickly snowball and you might start to think about more negative things about yourself.

Instead of fueling those negative thoughts, choose love. Love is like a permanent band-aid for the pain that you are going through. It is a great way to comfort yourself, provide reassurance, and get a clearer picture of who you really are and all of the wonderful things that you can offer the world. By choosing self-love, you can start to see yourself in a more positive light, and push those negative thoughts away.

“We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself.” – Mae West

5. Mistakes Can Be a Good Thing

Do you ever find yourself feeling especially inadequate when you “fail”? While that is not uncommon, that word should really be removed from your vocabulary.

Everyone “fails” at times, because again, perfection is not attainable. When you start to consider anything less than perfection to be a failure, it is easy to beat yourself up and think that you will never amount to the things that you truly want.

But, when you start to view your failures and mistakes as good things and stepping stones, you can completely shift your perspective and realize that not only are you good enough, but you are also resilient and strong. Some of the biggest “failures” in history went on to be the most successful people because they learned from their mistakes. They looked at the things that went wrong and considered how they could change them.

It is important to use your mistakes as a way to learn and grow. When you are able to do that, you will find a greater sense of fulfillment when things finally come together and you get it “right”.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordon

6. Gratitude Goes a Long Way

It might not always feel easy to accept and be grateful for who you are. But, it is incredibly important. Instead of thinking about the things you don’t have or areas where you are not “good enough”, choose to actively think about and pursue the positive. Focus on what you are grateful for. The more that you do that, the easier it will be to banish those thoughts of doubt and insecurity. I like to start every day by using my journal and begin by writing down three things that I am grateful for.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie

Once you really start to think about it, you will find that you have more to be grateful for than you may have initially realized, and that way of thinking can help you to establish healthier, more positive thoughts about yourself that will last a lifetime.

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

What are existential questions?

Existential questions are usually deep, philosophical questions that question just that — our very existence.

They can be great conversation starters and they can also sometimes make for a passionate discussion. The following existential questions can be a great way to get to know someone better and perhaps even learn new things about yourself.

The word existential comes from the Latin word “existentia”, which means to exist. Existential questions challenge our way of thinking, our beliefs and our perspective.

Is there a right or wrong answer to an existential question? Perhaps not, as each question usually just asks more questions.

I have put together the following list of thought provoking existential questions so that you can perhaps start an internal conversation with yourself or start an interesting debate with your friends.

50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

 

1. Are there limits to human creativity?

2. What makes something beautiful?

3. How do we know if we’re doing the right thing?

4. Who am I?

5. What is one thing that every human should get to experience in their life?

6. Do you believe in a power greater than humanity?

7. Are we given enough time?

8. Is privacy a right?

9. What is the best way for a person to attain happiness?

10. Are we alone in the universe?

11. What is love?

12. How would you define genius?

13. What do you think your purpose is?

14. If babies are considered innocent, when do people cease to be innocent?

15. Is it better to expand your knowledge or to deepen it?

16. Why do you think we are here?

17. How important is ‘play’ in living a healthy and fulfilling life?

18. Do you have a right to be happy, or should you earn it?

19. What happens when I die?

20. What worries me the most about the future?

21. What is a person? Is it the mind, or the body?

22. Would the world be a better place if all leaders were women? If you answered yes, why?

23. What activity have I done that has made me feel the most alive?

24. Does truth exist without evidence?

25. If I had to instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would I give?

26. Does a person have a soul? If so, where is it?

27. Is intelligence or wisdom more useful?

28. Is it more important to love or be loved?

29. What would make the world a better place?

30. How should we measure our lives? In years? In moments? In accomplishments? Something else?

31. What is the difference between living and simply existing?

32. If you died today, would you be satisfied with the life you’ve lived?

33. What advice would you tell your younger self?

34. Which is worse: failing or never trying?

35. Is a minimum wage a good idea? What about a maximum wage?

36. What is the most important goal every person should have?

37. Can anything ever really be considered ‘true’ or is everything subjective?

38. Is the world a better place with humans in it?

39. If extra-terrestrial life was discovered, how do you think humanity would react?

40. Is happiness just a mixture of chemicals circulating through our bodies?

41. Where do you think we go when we die?

42. Have I done anything lately worth remembering?

43. Can you ever have full control over your own life?

44. How do you know that you are not dreaming right now?

45. Is one lifetime enough?

46. What matters most in my life?

47. Is a person ever truly evil? If so, are they born that way?

48. What is the meaning of life?

49. Is humanity going in the right or wrong direction?

50. What does it mean to live a good life?

I hope that you enjoyed these thought provoking existential questions. I hope that they perhaps made you think about your beliefs, yourself and the world around you (the bigger picture). If you discuss these questions with a friend, remember, there is probably no right and wrong answers, usually just a matter of opinion.

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

I clearly remember when I was 18, then 25 and in then what seems like a flash, I have recently celebrated by 50th birthday. While some people might dread the thoughts of hitting such a milestone. (more…)

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