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Turning Your Troubles Into Triumphs



Turning Your Troubles Into Triumphs

Turning Troubles Into Triumphs – How to Find Strength In Your Struggles

At the end of each year, many people start to reflect on the past 12 months and focus on what they want to achieve in the new year. We make resolutions, we set goals, and we strive to do better. But, that is not always easy to do with things that you have struggled with in the past.

If you go into each new year understanding just one thing, let it be this: You can turn your troubles into triumphs and your struggles into strengths!

When you have struggles in life, it can sometimes feel like as though you will never get through them. But, it is through those struggles that you can actually grow and become better than ever before. Many of the most successful people in the world are the ones who have experienced failure again and again.

If you are not sure how to turn your troubles into triumphs, keep reading for some practical tips you can take with you into the new year.

Look At Your Troubles From a Different Perspective

Changing your perspective can make a big difference in how you see your struggles. It is not always easy to take yourself out of your own headspace, though. If you are having a hard time separating yourself from your own troubles, one of the best things that you can do is to put them down on paper.

Use a journal to write down your troubles and struggles. When you look back on what you wrote you can gain a different perspective, which can actually give you new insight into how you can overcome those struggles. When you see your troubles as some kind of story, you then become a character in that story who can overcome them, and find your strength.


Turning Your Troubles Into Triumphs


Acknowledge the Reason for Your Struggles

Discovering the underlying cause(s) of your troubles can be a big help in getting through them. Many times, we choose to ignore the things that are holding us back or causing turmoil in our lives. This is because it is usually easier to push things down inside of us or avoid them all together, rather than facing them head on.

Unfortunately, that doesn’t work forever. It can make your troubles even worse in the long term, and will make it harder for you to dig yourself out of that hole.

By identifying what causes your troubles, you can begin to tackle them head on, and face them. For some people, that can be very difficult and painful, but in the long run, it will allow you to overcome those struggles and move forward.

Find Something to Ground Yourself in the Present

Often, our strengths and troubles plague us because we start thinking about the “what ifs” of the future, or we are consumed by the trials and tribulations of the past.

Instead of falling into these negative traps, try to find something that grounds you in the present. This should be an actual physical or mental act you can rely on to bring you back to your current reality. Some great options include exercise, meditation or deep breathing exercises. For some people, things like yoga, going for a walk or even watching a sunset on the beach can help.

Whatever works to bring you back to the present will allow you to fully connect with yourself. This will make it easier to focus on your struggles and work through them.


Turning Your Troubles Into Triumphs


Stop Comparing Yourself

We live in a world where almost everything people do is publicized in one way or another. The biggest culprit of such a thing is social media. Unfortunately, social media can do more harm than good, depending on how it is viewed.

Think of it this way: Most people who post something on social media are only giving you a snapshot of their lives. It is something they want to publish because they know it looks good. But, we don’t often think about that in the moment, so it makes it easy to compare your life to their ‘perfect’ world and feel inadequate.

Make the commitment to stop comparing yourself to others, both in the digital world and the real one! If you start to get hung up on the idea that your life isn’t as good as someone else’s, or you don’t have the strengths someone else has, you will drag yourself down quickly.

Instead, focus on your own strengths, and even your weaknesses. When you stop comparing yourself to others, you will be able to capitalize on your strengths and take positive steps toward bettering yourself.


Turning Your Troubles Into Triumphs


There is something very positive about having troubles in life and going through hardships. It may not seem like it at the time, but it is what you do with those struggles that actually makes a difference. Without any struggles, you would never be able to grow. Getting through them gives you valuable learning experience, and ends up making you a stronger person.

Don’t feel as though you have to go through any of this alone. In fact, having a strong support system can make getting through your troubles easier, and will ensure you are held accountable for your actions so you don’t fall into familiar negative traps.

So, whether you have had a rough year up until now or you have been dealing with troubles for a long time, you don’t have to stay there forever.

Follow some of these suggestions, and start to turn those troubles into triumphs, and you’ll come out on the other side stronger than ever before.


6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough



6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

Have you ever had moments where you feel completely inadequate? Maybe a specific situation comes up and you think there is no way that you would ever be good enough to do what is needed. Or, maybe you feel that way all the time and you can’t seem to get past it.

Thinking that you are not good enough and having low self-esteem tend to go hand-in-hand, but they are slightly different.

Thankfully, you can work on both of them by changing your thinking habits and banishing some of that negative self-talk from your mindset. Whether you think you are not good enough in certain situations or you have a hard time believing that you are good enough for almost anything, it doesn’t have to be that way forever.

Let’s look at a few things you should always keep in mind when those thoughts come in, and how you can start to convince yourself of your true worth.

1. You Are Not Alone

Thinking that you are not good enough can cause a lonely existence. You might not want to put your burdens on others, so you don’t talk about it. You might also think that everyone else is perfectly happy with who they are, and are confident in everything that they do.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

The reality is, you never know what other people are fully thinking/feeling. What you can count on, though, is that there are so many others who feel just like you, and are constantly wondering if they are “enough”. Knowing that you are not alone can help you to work through your feelings without feeling so isolated.

2. You Have Your Own Skills

A common reason why people tend to think they are not good enough is because they don’t have a specific talent or skill that someone else has. But you probably have something that person doesn’t, too.

Everyone has their own abilities and things that make them unique. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, keep your mind on your talents and what makes you special.

“If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you!” – T. Harv Eker

3. You Can’t Be Perfect

Perfection is a fruitless thing to chase. Many people who question their self-worth do so because they are perfectionists.

But, if you set such a high standard for yourself, you will always be disappointed. Perfection doesn’t exist, and while you can strive to be your best, it is important to understand human error and limits. That doesn’t mean the things you do are some how “less” than great. But, striving for perfection is something that can make you feel inadequate.

4. You Are Worthy of Loving Yourself

Love tends to be the answer for so many things, including any pain or turmoil that you might be going through. Thinking that you are not good enough is an easy way to cause yourself sadness and pain. Those thoughts can quickly snowball and you might start to think about more negative things about yourself.

Instead of fueling those negative thoughts, choose love. Love is like a permanent band-aid for the pain that you are going through. It is a great way to comfort yourself, provide reassurance, and get a clearer picture of who you really are and all of the wonderful things that you can offer the world. By choosing self-love, you can start to see yourself in a more positive light, and push those negative thoughts away.

“We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself.” – Mae West

5. Mistakes Can Be a Good Thing

Do you ever find yourself feeling especially inadequate when you “fail”? While that is not uncommon, that word should really be removed from your vocabulary.

Everyone “fails” at times, because again, perfection is not attainable. When you start to consider anything less than perfection to be a failure, it is easy to beat yourself up and think that you will never amount to the things that you truly want.

But, when you start to view your failures and mistakes as good things and stepping stones, you can completely shift your perspective and realize that not only are you good enough, but you are also resilient and strong. Some of the biggest “failures” in history went on to be the most successful people because they learned from their mistakes. They looked at the things that went wrong and considered how they could change them.

It is important to use your mistakes as a way to learn and grow. When you are able to do that, you will find a greater sense of fulfillment when things finally come together and you get it “right”.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordon

6. Gratitude Goes a Long Way

It might not always feel easy to accept and be grateful for who you are. But, it is incredibly important. Instead of thinking about the things you don’t have or areas where you are not “good enough”, choose to actively think about and pursue the positive. Focus on what you are grateful for. The more that you do that, the easier it will be to banish those thoughts of doubt and insecurity. I like to start every day by using my journal and begin by writing down three things that I am grateful for.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie

Once you really start to think about it, you will find that you have more to be grateful for than you may have initially realized, and that way of thinking can help you to establish healthier, more positive thoughts about yourself that will last a lifetime.

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions



50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

What are existential questions?

Existential questions are usually deep, philosophical questions that question just that — our very existence.

They can be great conversation starters and they can also sometimes make for a passionate discussion. The following existential questions can be a great way to get to know someone better and perhaps even learn new things about yourself.

The word existential comes from the Latin word “existentia”, which means to exist. Existential questions challenge our way of thinking, our beliefs and our perspective.

Is there a right or wrong answer to an existential question? Perhaps not, as each question usually just asks more questions.

I have put together the following list of thought provoking existential questions so that you can perhaps start an internal conversation with yourself or start an interesting debate with your friends.

50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions


1. Are there limits to human creativity?

2. What makes something beautiful?

3. How do we know if we’re doing the right thing?

4. Who am I?

5. What is one thing that every human should get to experience in their life?

6. Do you believe in a power greater than humanity?

7. Are we given enough time?

8. Is privacy a right?

9. What is the best way for a person to attain happiness?

10. Are we alone in the universe?

11. What is love?

12. How would you define genius?

13. What do you think your purpose is?

14. If babies are considered innocent, when do people cease to be innocent?

15. Is it better to expand your knowledge or to deepen it?

16. Why do you think we are here?

17. How important is ‘play’ in living a healthy and fulfilling life?

18. Do you have a right to be happy, or should you earn it?

19. What happens when I die?

20. What worries me the most about the future?

21. What is a person? Is it the mind, or the body?

22. Would the world be a better place if all leaders were women? If you answered yes, why?

23. What activity have I done that has made me feel the most alive?

24. Does truth exist without evidence?

25. If I had to instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would I give?

26. Does a person have a soul? If so, where is it?

27. Is intelligence or wisdom more useful?

28. Is it more important to love or be loved?

29. What would make the world a better place?

30. How should we measure our lives? In years? In moments? In accomplishments? Something else?

31. What is the difference between living and simply existing?

32. If you died today, would you be satisfied with the life you’ve lived?

33. What advice would you tell your younger self?

34. Which is worse: failing or never trying?

35. Is a minimum wage a good idea? What about a maximum wage?

36. What is the most important goal every person should have?

37. Can anything ever really be considered ‘true’ or is everything subjective?

38. Is the world a better place with humans in it?

39. If extra-terrestrial life was discovered, how do you think humanity would react?

40. Is happiness just a mixture of chemicals circulating through our bodies?

41. Where do you think we go when we die?

42. Have I done anything lately worth remembering?

43. Can you ever have full control over your own life?

44. How do you know that you are not dreaming right now?

45. Is one lifetime enough?

46. What matters most in my life?

47. Is a person ever truly evil? If so, are they born that way?

48. What is the meaning of life?

49. Is humanity going in the right or wrong direction?

50. What does it mean to live a good life?

I hope that you enjoyed these thought provoking existential questions. I hope that they perhaps made you think about your beliefs, yourself and the world around you (the bigger picture). If you discuss these questions with a friend, remember, there is probably no right and wrong answers, usually just a matter of opinion.

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self



30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

I clearly remember when I was 18, then 25 and in then what seems like a flash, I have recently celebrated by 50th birthday. While some people might dread the thoughts of hitting such a milestone. (more…)

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