When you start liking yourself you are not being narcissistic, instead you simply like who you are, and the person you are striving to become. Also, by liking yourself you accept what an amazing and unique individual that you are. When you start liking yourself, it will help to make important life choices easier, because you will trust yourself and your own judgments.
As you learn and practice to like yourself more, you will empower yourself to become more confident and comfortable with the person you are. Liking yourself will also allow you to create more experiences that you want, not just for yourself, but also for the people around you that you love.
Try these seven ways to start liking yourself more today and see what a wonderful difference it will make to you and those around you.
1. Make a list of your strengths.
Make a list of everything that you can do well such as your skills, talents, personal traits, etc. Write all of them down in your journal. You will find that once you start writing, you will discover that you have more strengths than you thought you had. Start with ten today and keep adding to your list over time. Challenge yourself to add at least one personal strength to your list every month. You will notice that as your list grows, so too will your positive thoughts/feelings about yourself. Appreciating yourself is a major step in your personal development and growth.
2. Rid yourself of negative thinking.
Negative thinking does nothing but drain you. It drains you of your energy, it drains you of your dreams, and it will drain you from taking positive action The more you let a negative mindset take up your thoughts, the harder it is for positive thinking to break through. One way of ridding yourself from negative thinking is by changing the vocabulary that you use. Change “I can’t” to “I can”, change “I won’t” to “I will”, and change “why bother trying” to “I will give it my best shot”. Many of us are programmed from an early age of things; that we cannot do, what we should not do, and what we must not do, instead of being instilled and empowered with the confidence to go for it, to have more belief in ourselves, and all the amazing things that we are capable of.
3. Accept your positives as well as negatives.
Know that you are a work in progress. No one is perfect. By accepting who you are and the mistakes that you have made will allow you to grow and to develop as a person. Accept that sometimes good people make bad choices. It does not mean they are bad people; it just means that they are human. So forgive yourself for your past; it is over. Forgive yourself for the things that you think you did or didn’t do, and instead focus on what you will start doing today.
4. Focus on doing your very best.
Instead of just doing enough at home, or in your relationship, why not step it up and go all out to do your very best. Why not approach everything that you do with more enthusiasm and excitement. I know this can be difficult at first, but at least give it a try. Many people get too comfortable in their daily habits, in both their personal and professional life, they go through the motions and then wonder why they are bored in their job or why their relationship has lost its spark. Doing your very best has the power to bring the passion back into your life.
5. Show gratitude for who you are and what you have.
Many of you have made it through college, have a career, have a roof over your head and you have put food on the table. Many of you are also striving to improve and better yourself through books, articles and constant learning. Think of all the wonderful things that you have accomplished in your life up until now, think of all the experiences and achievements in your life. By getting into this positive habit of showing more gratitude you pave the way for more wonderful things to flow into your life.
6. Do the things YOU love to do.
Your life will be more fun and enjoyable when you choose to do the things that you love to do. Instead of doing the things other people think you should do, search deep within your heart and see what it is you really want to do in your life. What are you passionate about? What excites you? Once you find what you would love to do, just do it!
7. Accept who you are.
The more you accept yourself for who you are, the easier you will find that you will accept others. The more you look for your likable qualities, the easier it will become to see the likable qualities in others also. Learn to like yourself and to enjoy the life that you have been given. Embrace each new day with open arms as the best version of you. I read the following quote and I turned it into a daily morning ritual.
“I AM are two of the most powerful words, for what you put after them shapes your reality.”
This might seem a little strange or even uncomfortable at first, but in the morning stand in front of the mirror and say, “I am”
Then add different positive words after. For example:
This is your morning mantra; you decide what words to say. Don’t rehearse it, just let your positivity flow. This positive habit in the morning has the power to change you both mentally and physically. Mentally you will get yourself in a positive and empowering state of mind, and physically you will begin to stand a little straighter, look more confident and smile at yourself as you accept the wonderful unique person that you are.
What are you going to do starting today to start liking yourself more?