Most people will tell you that they would do just about anything to be happier. Even happy people could always use a little more joy and cheer in their lives. After all, there is no such thing as ‘too much’ happiness, right?
We are often quick to blame other people, situations, or external factors for our unhappiness. While it is true that these things can sometimes contribute to how we feel, did you ever stop to think that maybe your unhappiness is perhaps a result of something that you are/not doing? It can be very easy to sabotage your own happiness. Unfortunately, you might not even realize that you are doing it.
This article will focus on six different ways you may be sabotaging your happiness. if you recognize any of these habits, you can take positive action and put a stop to them. Once you do that, you will quickly realize that you may have been holding yourself back from true happiness – it’s out there for the taking, so don’t stop yourself from grabbing it!
1. You Are Your Own Worst Critic – And You Believe It!
We all have moments of self-doubt, and sometimes it can hard to ignore that little voice in our head that wants to fill us with negative thoughts about ourselves. Whether it’s about our looks, our abilities, or something entirely different, negative self-talk can be brutal when it comes to our happiness.
It might be almost impossible to ignore this inner-critic altogether. But, by trying to decipher what you actually mean when you are criticizing yourself, you may be able to get it under control. Start by accepting yourself for who you are! Change the way that you speak to yourself. Stop beating yourself up and give yourself a break. Remind yourself that you ARE good enough and that you are doing your best.
You may have been able to get away with procrastinating in high school or college when you had a big paper due. In life, though, you can’t wait until the last minute before getting something important done, or you will be putting yourself in a consistently stressful situation.
Most of the time when you procrastinate on something, it is not because you’re lazy. It might be a lack of motivation or fear. Identify what might be making you procrastinate, and learn how to combat those thoughts to get things done in a timely matter. Use a journal every morning and plan your day ahead. Use a to-do list and tick each task off when completed. As the slogan goes “Just do it!”
3. Fear of Failure
No one wants to fail, or sets out to do so in their endeavors. But, failure is inevitable throughout life. This is harder for some people to accept than others. A fear of failure can really hold you back from doing the things that will make you happy. It can also destroy whatever happiness you do have by taking over your thoughts.
Sometimes it can be difficult at first to just ‘get over’ the fear of failure. If you try something and you are not successful, see it as a learning experience and ask yourself what you can do differently the next time.
4. You Can’t Let It Go
There are plenty of old stereotypes about how hard it is to forgive other people. Do you know what’s harder? Forgiving yourself! This ties in with the first self-sabotaging characteristic in this article. We are our own worst critics at times.
If you make a mistake, forgive yourself and move on. You would want others to do that for you, so why not do it for yourself? It is unproductive to sit there and think about all of the mistakes that you made in the past. Feeling constant guilt will undoubtedly lead to feelings of self doubt, and a lack of motivation to do anything more.
Everyone makes mistakes. It sounds cliché, but it’s true. Release those feelings of negativity that you might have toward yourself, and focus on moving forward with your life. Learning from your mistakes is hugely important, dwelling on them is not.
5. Shifting the Blame
Taking accountability is an incredibly important characteristic to have. If you make a mistake or you don’t want to own up to something, it might seem easy to pass the blame onto someone else. Whether that blame is justified or not, you are not doing yourself any favors in the long run.
Eventually, you might start to feel guilty for shifting the blame onto others. Blaming others for the way you are or certain aspects of your life isn’t going to get you anywhere, and it certainly isn’t going to make you feel better about yourself. The sooner that you start taking accountability for your own actions, the better. In fact, when you recognize that some things may actually be your fault, you can work toward fixing them and live a happier life.
6. Being a Perfectionist
Not everything will always go according to plan. It’s okay to have high expectations about certain things, but if they don’t always go your way, or end up ‘perfectly,’ you can’t let it bring you down. Being a perfectionist has its place, and it can be considered a positive trait in small doses. But, if you let perfection take over, it becomes a debilitating habit that will never leave you fulfilled. When you are a perfectionist to a fault, nothing will ever be good enough, and those thoughts can keep getting worse and worse. Give yourself a break, don’t be your worst critic. Not everything can be perfect.
If you struggle with unhappiness in any area of your life, try looking at these six possible reasons why. Sometimes, we can be our own worst enemies, and you may be keeping yourself from a life with more happiness and joy. Once you are able to let some things go and move on with your life in a positive direction, you can take control of your own happiness!
50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions
What are existential questions?
Existential questions are usually deep, philosophical questions that question just that — our very existence.
They can be great conversation starters and they can also sometimes make for a passionate discussion. The following existential questions can be a great way to get to know someone better and perhaps even learn new things about yourself.
The word existential comes from the Latin word “existentia”, which means to exist. Existential questions challenge our way of thinking, our beliefs and our perspective.
Is there a right or wrong answer to an existential question? Perhaps not, as each question usually just asks more questions.
I have put together the following list of thought provoking existential questions so that you can perhaps start an internal conversation with yourself or start an interesting debate with your friends.
50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions
1. Are there limits to human creativity?
2. What makes something beautiful?
3. How do we know if we’re doing the right thing?
4. Who am I?
5. What is one thing that every human should get to experience in their life?
6. Do you believe in a power greater than humanity?
7. Are we given enough time?
8. Is privacy a right?
9. What is the best way for a person to attain happiness?
10. Are we alone in the universe?
11. What is love?
12. How would you define genius?
13. What do you think your purpose is?
14. If babies are considered innocent, when do people cease to be innocent?
15. Is it better to expand your knowledge or to deepen it?
16. Why do you think we are here?
17. How important is ‘play’ in living a healthy and fulfilling life?
18. Do you have a right to be happy, or should you earn it?
19. What happens when I die?
20. What worries me the most about the future?
21. What is a person? Is it the mind, or the body?
22. Would the world be a better place if all leaders were women? If you answered yes, why?
23. What activity have I done that has made me feel the most alive?
24. Does truth exist without evidence?
25. If I had to instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would I give?
26. Does a person have a soul? If so, where is it?
27. Is intelligence or wisdom more useful?
28. Is it more important to love or be loved?
29. What would make the world a better place?
30. How should we measure our lives? In years? In moments? In accomplishments? Something else?
31. What is the difference between living and simply existing?
32. If you died today, would you be satisfied with the life you’ve lived?
33. What advice would you tell your younger self?
34. Which is worse: failing or never trying?
35. Is a minimum wage a good idea? What about a maximum wage?
36. What is the most important goal every person should have?
37. Can anything ever really be considered ‘true’ or is everything subjective?
38. Is the world a better place with humans in it?
39. If extra-terrestrial life was discovered, how do you think humanity would react?
40. Is happiness just a mixture of chemicals circulating through our bodies?
41. Where do you think we go when we die?
42. Have I done anything lately worth remembering?
43. Can you ever have full control over your own life?
44. How do you know that you are not dreaming right now?
45. Is one lifetime enough?
46. What matters most in my life?
47. Is a person ever truly evil? If so, are they born that way?
48. What is the meaning of life?
49. Is humanity going in the right or wrong direction?
50. What does it mean to live a good life?
I hope that you enjoyed these thought provoking existential questions. I hope that they perhaps made you think about your beliefs, yourself and the world around you (the bigger picture). If you discuss these questions with a friend, remember, there is probably no right and wrong answers, usually just a matter of opinion.
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