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How Pain and Our Emotions Go Hand In Hand

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How Pain and Our Emotions Go Hand In Hand

 

We often think of the pain that we have in our bodies as nothing more than a physical function. Pain happens to everyone at some point, whether you experience an aching back every day, or you feel it as a result of some type of injury. But what we don’t often consider is that pain can go far beyond just the ‘physical’ aspect of things. In reality, pain starts from within us on a completely different level.

Think about it this way: Pain itself is really just a form of energy. It is how our body perceives that energy, and allows it to manifest that allows us to feel different discomforts that we associate with physical pain. But very often, pain can be a result of a specific emotional state we might be experiencing at any given time.

While there are some exceptions to this rule, you might be surprised to find out that by essentially ‘decoding’ the cause of your pain by determining what emotional state you are in, you can start to control it. And, when you are able to better control your pain, you will finally be able to experience less of it.

Let’s take a closer look at some common body aches and pains that many people experience, so that you can see what emotional state relates to them, and how you can take better control of those emotions to perhaps help heal your pain.

Back Pain & Hip Pain

Back pain is one of the most common forms of ache or pain. People attribute it to aging or too much strenuous activity, etc. In reality, there are plenty of emotions tied to different areas of the back that could be causing you discomfort, and it is important to get to the bottom of each possible situation that could be causing you back pain.

For example, if you experience lower back pain, it is typically a sign that you might lacking some kind of support in your life. This could be from another person, or even financially. Try stepping up to whatever you view as your support system by confronting them, or asking for a raise at work. As you feel more supported, one way or another, the pain can start to disappear. Pain in the tailbone can also be caused by essentially ‘sitting’ on an issue, instead of confronting it. Clearing the air with any unresolved issues will allow your back to ease up.

Hip pain can be excruciating, but it doesn’t always come from bad genetics, or sitting down for too many hours every day. Instead, hip pain could be a sign that you are too resistant to making an important change in your life – even one that could be extremely healthy for you! Consider your options, make a decision, and stand firm on it, and your hips will be able to relax.

Head, Shoulder, & Neck Pain

People get headaches all of the time, and we often equate it to stress – this is one of the instances where that notion is partially true. Headaches can often be caused by our inability to make decisions, which leaves us even more stressed out. Sometimes, just by taking a break to relax, and not think about those decisions can help to clear things up for you, making the choice itself easier, and allowing the headache to essentially disappear.

Have you ever heard the phrase, ‘that person is a pain in the neck?’ Well, based on how you think about someone, you could be the one causing your own neck pain. Pain can manifest in the neck when we are having trouble forgiving someone (including ourselves!). This can create a lot of tension, even if we don’t think it’s on our mind all the time. Practice letting things go, don’t hold grudges, and be active in your forgiveness to reduce neck pain.

Another common phrase has to do with carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders – that’s an age-old saying for a reason; it can be true, when it comes to experiencing pain! If you have regular shoulder discomfort, you could be holding onto a heavy emotional burden. Take a look at what you are latched onto, and figure out ways to let it go, so you can get rid of that weight, and give your shoulders a break.

Pain From Fatigue

Many people believe that feeling fatigued is just an overall sense of tiredness, but so many also feel actual pain from fatigue; a sort of exhaustion that takes over the entire body and makes it ache. Chances are, this is happening from more than a lack of sleep and overall rest. Pain from fatigue can occur when we are bored with what we are doing, but are not taking active steps to move forward. We are resistant to trying new experiences, and our body works against us when we do that.

Listen to your inner voice when it comes to trying new things and taking chances. You will be surprised at how much energy will come into your life.

Making the Most of Emotions

From your feet, to your stomach, and even from your teeth to your joints, there is virtually no area of the body that isn’t directly associated to an emotional state. It’s just a matter of understanding those emotions, and how to control them that can keep the pain of any part of your body in check.

The best thing that you can do to control these common pains? Take more positive action. Be more aware of your possible emotional states, and how they could relate to the pain that you are in will allow you a real opportunity to ‘control’ everything. Take notice of what you are feeling physically, and think about how it could be connected to how you’re feeling emotionally. From there, you can make the decision on how to change the pain from the inside out, on both an emotional, and physical level.

How Pain and Our Emotions Go Hand In Hand

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

Have you ever had moments where you feel completely inadequate? Maybe a specific situation comes up and you think there is no way that you would ever be good enough to do what is needed. Or, maybe you feel that way all the time and you can’t seem to get past it.

Thinking that you are not good enough and having low self-esteem tend to go hand-in-hand, but they are slightly different.

Thankfully, you can work on both of them by changing your thinking habits and banishing some of that negative self-talk from your mindset. Whether you think you are not good enough in certain situations or you have a hard time believing that you are good enough for almost anything, it doesn’t have to be that way forever.

Let’s look at a few things you should always keep in mind when those thoughts come in, and how you can start to convince yourself of your true worth.

1. You Are Not Alone

Thinking that you are not good enough can cause a lonely existence. You might not want to put your burdens on others, so you don’t talk about it. You might also think that everyone else is perfectly happy with who they are, and are confident in everything that they do.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

The reality is, you never know what other people are fully thinking/feeling. What you can count on, though, is that there are so many others who feel just like you, and are constantly wondering if they are “enough”. Knowing that you are not alone can help you to work through your feelings without feeling so isolated.

2. You Have Your Own Skills

A common reason why people tend to think they are not good enough is because they don’t have a specific talent or skill that someone else has. But you probably have something that person doesn’t, too.

Everyone has their own abilities and things that make them unique. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, keep your mind on your talents and what makes you special.

“If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you!” – T. Harv Eker

3. You Can’t Be Perfect

Perfection is a fruitless thing to chase. Many people who question their self-worth do so because they are perfectionists.

But, if you set such a high standard for yourself, you will always be disappointed. Perfection doesn’t exist, and while you can strive to be your best, it is important to understand human error and limits. That doesn’t mean the things you do are some how “less” than great. But, striving for perfection is something that can make you feel inadequate.

4. You Are Worthy of Loving Yourself

Love tends to be the answer for so many things, including any pain or turmoil that you might be going through. Thinking that you are not good enough is an easy way to cause yourself sadness and pain. Those thoughts can quickly snowball and you might start to think about more negative things about yourself.

Instead of fueling those negative thoughts, choose love. Love is like a permanent band-aid for the pain that you are going through. It is a great way to comfort yourself, provide reassurance, and get a clearer picture of who you really are and all of the wonderful things that you can offer the world. By choosing self-love, you can start to see yourself in a more positive light, and push those negative thoughts away.

“We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself.” – Mae West

5. Mistakes Can Be a Good Thing

Do you ever find yourself feeling especially inadequate when you “fail”? While that is not uncommon, that word should really be removed from your vocabulary.

Everyone “fails” at times, because again, perfection is not attainable. When you start to consider anything less than perfection to be a failure, it is easy to beat yourself up and think that you will never amount to the things that you truly want.

But, when you start to view your failures and mistakes as good things and stepping stones, you can completely shift your perspective and realize that not only are you good enough, but you are also resilient and strong. Some of the biggest “failures” in history went on to be the most successful people because they learned from their mistakes. They looked at the things that went wrong and considered how they could change them.

It is important to use your mistakes as a way to learn and grow. When you are able to do that, you will find a greater sense of fulfillment when things finally come together and you get it “right”.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordon

6. Gratitude Goes a Long Way

It might not always feel easy to accept and be grateful for who you are. But, it is incredibly important. Instead of thinking about the things you don’t have or areas where you are not “good enough”, choose to actively think about and pursue the positive. Focus on what you are grateful for. The more that you do that, the easier it will be to banish those thoughts of doubt and insecurity. I like to start every day by using my journal and begin by writing down three things that I am grateful for.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie

Once you really start to think about it, you will find that you have more to be grateful for than you may have initially realized, and that way of thinking can help you to establish healthier, more positive thoughts about yourself that will last a lifetime.

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

What are existential questions?

Existential questions are usually deep, philosophical questions that question just that — our very existence.

They can be great conversation starters and they can also sometimes make for a passionate discussion. The following existential questions can be a great way to get to know someone better and perhaps even learn new things about yourself.

The word existential comes from the Latin word “existentia”, which means to exist. Existential questions challenge our way of thinking, our beliefs and our perspective.

Is there a right or wrong answer to an existential question? Perhaps not, as each question usually just asks more questions.

I have put together the following list of thought provoking existential questions so that you can perhaps start an internal conversation with yourself or start an interesting debate with your friends.

50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

 

1. Are there limits to human creativity?

2. What makes something beautiful?

3. How do we know if we’re doing the right thing?

4. Who am I?

5. What is one thing that every human should get to experience in their life?

6. Do you believe in a power greater than humanity?

7. Are we given enough time?

8. Is privacy a right?

9. What is the best way for a person to attain happiness?

10. Are we alone in the universe?

11. What is love?

12. How would you define genius?

13. What do you think your purpose is?

14. If babies are considered innocent, when do people cease to be innocent?

15. Is it better to expand your knowledge or to deepen it?

16. Why do you think we are here?

17. How important is ‘play’ in living a healthy and fulfilling life?

18. Do you have a right to be happy, or should you earn it?

19. What happens when I die?

20. What worries me the most about the future?

21. What is a person? Is it the mind, or the body?

22. Would the world be a better place if all leaders were women? If you answered yes, why?

23. What activity have I done that has made me feel the most alive?

24. Does truth exist without evidence?

25. If I had to instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would I give?

26. Does a person have a soul? If so, where is it?

27. Is intelligence or wisdom more useful?

28. Is it more important to love or be loved?

29. What would make the world a better place?

30. How should we measure our lives? In years? In moments? In accomplishments? Something else?

31. What is the difference between living and simply existing?

32. If you died today, would you be satisfied with the life you’ve lived?

33. What advice would you tell your younger self?

34. Which is worse: failing or never trying?

35. Is a minimum wage a good idea? What about a maximum wage?

36. What is the most important goal every person should have?

37. Can anything ever really be considered ‘true’ or is everything subjective?

38. Is the world a better place with humans in it?

39. If extra-terrestrial life was discovered, how do you think humanity would react?

40. Is happiness just a mixture of chemicals circulating through our bodies?

41. Where do you think we go when we die?

42. Have I done anything lately worth remembering?

43. Can you ever have full control over your own life?

44. How do you know that you are not dreaming right now?

45. Is one lifetime enough?

46. What matters most in my life?

47. Is a person ever truly evil? If so, are they born that way?

48. What is the meaning of life?

49. Is humanity going in the right or wrong direction?

50. What does it mean to live a good life?

I hope that you enjoyed these thought provoking existential questions. I hope that they perhaps made you think about your beliefs, yourself and the world around you (the bigger picture). If you discuss these questions with a friend, remember, there is probably no right and wrong answers, usually just a matter of opinion.

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

I clearly remember when I was 18, then 25 and in then what seems like a flash, I have recently celebrated by 50th birthday. While some people might dread the thoughts of hitting such a milestone. (more…)

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