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6 Ways to Break Free from Your Fears

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6 Ways to Break Free from Your Fears

Everyone experiences fear sometimes. It is a completely normal emotion, and it can be warranted during certain situations. But for some people, fear can become debilitating, and play an active role in their everyday life. This is when fear becomes a big problem. It can completely grab hold of how you live your life, and cause issues in your relationships, career, self-image and even your health.

The worst part? Fear is unpredictable. Everyone has their own ‘triggers,’ and it is not always clear what they are. Mostly, we fear the unknown or the ‘what ifs.’ You might consistently have a fear of perhaps losing your job, your health or the current state of the world. If these thoughts constantly run through your head all day, it can feel like you are waging a war on your thoughts.

Thankfully, there are ways that you can deal with fear and break free from the confines it tries to put you in. Let’s look at six helpful tips that you can use to release those chains of fear, and start living your life freely.

1. Don’t Feed Your Fears

If you know what makes you worry, don’t constantly feed it. What does that mean? The answer is different for everyone, since we all have different fears. For example, if you are worried about the current state of affairs in the country, don’t spend all your free time watching the news or seeking out negative world stories. While you shouldn’t altogether avoid things like this, you shouldn’t let them consume your schedule. The less you feed your fears, the more you can keep them under control.

You likely know your triggers better than anyone, so take a look at what they are, and consider what you can do to give them less fuel.

2. Get the Facts

Many times, our fears are based on our perceptions of things. We worry about things by guessing, or without concrete evidence. Rumors are terrible triggers for fear. You can find reassurance by getting more of the facts. For example, if you are worried about medical issues, don’t do a quick search for your symptoms on Google. Instead, go to a doctor and get whatever tests might be necessary to assuage your fears or give you some concrete answers.

3. Change Your Focus

When you focus for too long on your fears, they can become a reality. That is when it becomes easy for them to take over your life completely. Instead, do what you can to change your mindset and focus on something positive. A good place to start is by focusing on your goals. Create exciting goals for yourself and make them crystal clear and easy to follow, so you have a pathway to focus on. The more attentive you are toward those goals, the less room fear will have inside your head to take over.

4. Find Support

One of the most important things to keep in mind if you are struggling with your fears is that you don’t have to do it alone. You might be worried that your fears seem irrational or silly, so you want to keep them to yourself. Unfortunately, that will likely only make things worse.

The people closest to you, like family or friends, may be able to help you see things from a different perspective. If you’re fearful of something but you know you have a support system, that particular worry may not seem so daunting. Even being able to talk to someone about what you are scared of can make that fear seem less overwhelming and give it less weight. You don’t have to struggle with the suffocation of fear on your own. Having people who care about you to talk to can make a big difference.

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5. Get Moving

Exercise is truly a huge key to dealing with a lot of mental health and wellbeing issues. While it cannot solve every problem in the world, it can certainly help when it comes to calming down your fears. Exercise helps to increase blood flow throughout your body, including your brain. Getting physical can boost your energy levels and your mood.

On top of the scientific benefits of exercise, it also works as a great distraction. Sometimes, the best way to stop fear from taking over is to get it off our minds for awhile. When you are working up a sweat, you are probably not going to be thinking about what you’re scared of.

You don’t have to get in extremely intense workouts in order for exercise to be effective. Things like yoga, or even meditation can make a big difference in how you feel, and they can calm down your mind and body significantly.

6. Face Your Fears

Do you want to really get over a specific fear for once and for all? Try facing it head on. This is an age-old piece of advice, but it stands the test of time because it is so effective. You can clear the uncertainties swirling around your thoughts by giving yourself a concrete answer one way or another.

Acts of doing nothing lets your mind become clouded and lets fear take over. By taking action against it, you are also taking control of your thoughts once again.

Breaking Free and Moving On

The idea of getting over the fears you face in life can feel intimidating at first. But, it isn’t fair to allow yourself to be held captive by your own thoughts and worries. Fear can become a crippling thing if you allow it to grow and fester, no matter what it is you may be fearful of.

By using the resources in this article, you can overcome your fears, and live beyond the chains of your own worries. Again, a little bit of fear – even fear of the unknown – is normal in life. But, if you struggle with fear taking over almost every aspect of your thinking, it is time to break free. The good news? You are not alone, and letting go of these fears is not impossible.

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

Have you ever had moments where you feel completely inadequate? Maybe a specific situation comes up and you think there is no way that you would ever be good enough to do what is needed. Or, maybe you feel that way all the time and you can’t seem to get past it.

Thinking that you are not good enough and having low self-esteem tend to go hand-in-hand, but they are slightly different.

Thankfully, you can work on both of them by changing your thinking habits and banishing some of that negative self-talk from your mindset. Whether you think you are not good enough in certain situations or you have a hard time believing that you are good enough for almost anything, it doesn’t have to be that way forever.

Let’s look at a few things you should always keep in mind when those thoughts come in, and how you can start to convince yourself of your true worth.

1. You Are Not Alone

Thinking that you are not good enough can cause a lonely existence. You might not want to put your burdens on others, so you don’t talk about it. You might also think that everyone else is perfectly happy with who they are, and are confident in everything that they do.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

The reality is, you never know what other people are fully thinking/feeling. What you can count on, though, is that there are so many others who feel just like you, and are constantly wondering if they are “enough”. Knowing that you are not alone can help you to work through your feelings without feeling so isolated.

2. You Have Your Own Skills

A common reason why people tend to think they are not good enough is because they don’t have a specific talent or skill that someone else has. But you probably have something that person doesn’t, too.

Everyone has their own abilities and things that make them unique. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, keep your mind on your talents and what makes you special.

“If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you!” – T. Harv Eker

3. You Can’t Be Perfect

Perfection is a fruitless thing to chase. Many people who question their self-worth do so because they are perfectionists.

But, if you set such a high standard for yourself, you will always be disappointed. Perfection doesn’t exist, and while you can strive to be your best, it is important to understand human error and limits. That doesn’t mean the things you do are some how “less” than great. But, striving for perfection is something that can make you feel inadequate.

4. You Are Worthy of Loving Yourself

Love tends to be the answer for so many things, including any pain or turmoil that you might be going through. Thinking that you are not good enough is an easy way to cause yourself sadness and pain. Those thoughts can quickly snowball and you might start to think about more negative things about yourself.

Instead of fueling those negative thoughts, choose love. Love is like a permanent band-aid for the pain that you are going through. It is a great way to comfort yourself, provide reassurance, and get a clearer picture of who you really are and all of the wonderful things that you can offer the world. By choosing self-love, you can start to see yourself in a more positive light, and push those negative thoughts away.

“We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself.” – Mae West

5. Mistakes Can Be a Good Thing

Do you ever find yourself feeling especially inadequate when you “fail”? While that is not uncommon, that word should really be removed from your vocabulary.

Everyone “fails” at times, because again, perfection is not attainable. When you start to consider anything less than perfection to be a failure, it is easy to beat yourself up and think that you will never amount to the things that you truly want.

But, when you start to view your failures and mistakes as good things and stepping stones, you can completely shift your perspective and realize that not only are you good enough, but you are also resilient and strong. Some of the biggest “failures” in history went on to be the most successful people because they learned from their mistakes. They looked at the things that went wrong and considered how they could change them.

It is important to use your mistakes as a way to learn and grow. When you are able to do that, you will find a greater sense of fulfillment when things finally come together and you get it “right”.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordon

6. Gratitude Goes a Long Way

It might not always feel easy to accept and be grateful for who you are. But, it is incredibly important. Instead of thinking about the things you don’t have or areas where you are not “good enough”, choose to actively think about and pursue the positive. Focus on what you are grateful for. The more that you do that, the easier it will be to banish those thoughts of doubt and insecurity. I like to start every day by using my journal and begin by writing down three things that I am grateful for.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie

Once you really start to think about it, you will find that you have more to be grateful for than you may have initially realized, and that way of thinking can help you to establish healthier, more positive thoughts about yourself that will last a lifetime.

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

What are existential questions?

Existential questions are usually deep, philosophical questions that question just that — our very existence.

They can be great conversation starters and they can also sometimes make for a passionate discussion. The following existential questions can be a great way to get to know someone better and perhaps even learn new things about yourself.

The word existential comes from the Latin word “existentia”, which means to exist. Existential questions challenge our way of thinking, our beliefs and our perspective.

Is there a right or wrong answer to an existential question? Perhaps not, as each question usually just asks more questions.

I have put together the following list of thought provoking existential questions so that you can perhaps start an internal conversation with yourself or start an interesting debate with your friends.

50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

 

1. Are there limits to human creativity?

2. What makes something beautiful?

3. How do we know if we’re doing the right thing?

4. Who am I?

5. What is one thing that every human should get to experience in their life?

6. Do you believe in a power greater than humanity?

7. Are we given enough time?

8. Is privacy a right?

9. What is the best way for a person to attain happiness?

10. Are we alone in the universe?

11. What is love?

12. How would you define genius?

13. What do you think your purpose is?

14. If babies are considered innocent, when do people cease to be innocent?

15. Is it better to expand your knowledge or to deepen it?

16. Why do you think we are here?

17. How important is ‘play’ in living a healthy and fulfilling life?

18. Do you have a right to be happy, or should you earn it?

19. What happens when I die?

20. What worries me the most about the future?

21. What is a person? Is it the mind, or the body?

22. Would the world be a better place if all leaders were women? If you answered yes, why?

23. What activity have I done that has made me feel the most alive?

24. Does truth exist without evidence?

25. If I had to instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would I give?

26. Does a person have a soul? If so, where is it?

27. Is intelligence or wisdom more useful?

28. Is it more important to love or be loved?

29. What would make the world a better place?

30. How should we measure our lives? In years? In moments? In accomplishments? Something else?

31. What is the difference between living and simply existing?

32. If you died today, would you be satisfied with the life you’ve lived?

33. What advice would you tell your younger self?

34. Which is worse: failing or never trying?

35. Is a minimum wage a good idea? What about a maximum wage?

36. What is the most important goal every person should have?

37. Can anything ever really be considered ‘true’ or is everything subjective?

38. Is the world a better place with humans in it?

39. If extra-terrestrial life was discovered, how do you think humanity would react?

40. Is happiness just a mixture of chemicals circulating through our bodies?

41. Where do you think we go when we die?

42. Have I done anything lately worth remembering?

43. Can you ever have full control over your own life?

44. How do you know that you are not dreaming right now?

45. Is one lifetime enough?

46. What matters most in my life?

47. Is a person ever truly evil? If so, are they born that way?

48. What is the meaning of life?

49. Is humanity going in the right or wrong direction?

50. What does it mean to live a good life?

I hope that you enjoyed these thought provoking existential questions. I hope that they perhaps made you think about your beliefs, yourself and the world around you (the bigger picture). If you discuss these questions with a friend, remember, there is probably no right and wrong answers, usually just a matter of opinion.

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

I clearly remember when I was 18, then 25 and in then what seems like a flash, I have recently celebrated by 50th birthday. While some people might dread the thoughts of hitting such a milestone. (more…)

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