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The Power Of Affirmations

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The Power Of Affirmations

 

We all know what it means to “affirm” something: The dictionary definition of an affirmation is ‘an act of saying or showing that something is true.’ However, not all of us know or understand the concept or true power of affirmations.

Many people shrug them off as strange mantras some people use to calm their nerves, or mentally prepare themselves for something. And while this is true of affirmations, they actually go far beyond that, as they can really change our everyday lives, not just for those ‘big’ moments, but the possible outcome and your attitude of every passing day.

A Closer Look At The Power Of Affirmations.

Affirmations as you now know are declarative statements that you are labelling to be true. Let’s say that you looked at yourself in the mirror tomorrow, and repeated to yourself with total belief; ‘I am feeling totally positive and confident about myself.’ Affirming it would allow you to take that positive feeling with you through the entire day. For someone who struggles with low self-esteem, or doesn’t typically like the way that they feel, allowing yourself to believe a statement like that can make a big difference in how you feel for the rest of your day. You are actually declaring the affirmation not only to yourself, but also to the universe!

Affirmations are not necessarily goals, and they are not just things that we say to ourselves to trick our brains into thinking something about ourselves that isn’t true. They actually help to send messages to our brain, letting us know what we need to do in order to become the declarations that we have said out loud.

What Can Affirmations Do?

Some people swear by the power of affirmations, and for others, it can take some time to get used to the idea of repeating a sort of ‘mantra’ over and over again and expect to see results. There are a few essential steps that you need to take if you are new to the power of affirmations:

First, decide on the transformation that you are looking for. This could be anything from improving your health, (ie: “I feel fit and healthy today,” to having more confidence, (ie: “I am feeling powerful, confident, energetic, and on top of the world.).

If you don’t have a particular transformation goal in mind, what kind of attitudes, or characteristics would you like to further develop within yourself? Using affirmations does not necessarily mean that you want to ‘change’ something from bad to good. It can also mean that you are looking to make a good quality you already like about yourself even better!

A lot of people find more success when they add an emotion into their affirmation, allowing them to connect with, and actually feel the emotion as they say it (ie: “I am feeling happy to go to my job today.”)

Always make your affirmations positive, instead of focusing on any negative aspects, even if they come from the past. The point is to develop positive habits instead of even considering the idea of looking back on where you might have come from. While that can be effective in other ways, including self-reflection, it is important to keep affirmations positive and uplifting.

In reality, every single thought that you have is a sort of affirmation – or, self-talk. The problem arises in the fact that we have been self-talking since we were children, and we don’t always learn how to talk to ourselves in a positive and productive way. That might seem silly to some, but you are affirming everything in your life through the experiences you have, and through self-talk. Maybe you went for a job interview once that didn’t go so well, and your thought was something like, “I hate interviews.” It’s not that job interviews in general are bad, or that you don’t like job interviews, it just might be that one particular job interview did not go as well as you had hoped. But, by using self-talk like that over and over again throughout our lives, which can be more detrimental than helpful. You may have the idea that you hate job interviews forever, and in reality, it is just not true.

Working Affirmations Into Your Day

If you are interested in the power of affirmations, and you want to try them for yourself, an easy way to get started is by bringing them into your morning and night-time routine. This way, they become more of a habit, and less of a ‘chore’ that you have to think about. Decide on your affirmations, and say them to yourself in the bathroom as you are getting ready in the morning or before you go to bed at night. You can decide how many times you would like to repeat your phrase, but a minimum of three times is best.

It usually takes a few days before your affirmations really ‘sink in,’ which might be frustrating at first, but once you stick with it for a few days, the habits you are forming in declaring something to be true will be more powerful than you can possibly realize.

I like to start and end each day by reading the 21 Powerful Affirmations that I have included at the bottom of this article. These powerful messages are the perfect way to start and end each day, and are perfect for putting you into a positive, confident mindset.

I then say four or five personal affirmations out loud in front of the mirror. “What?” You might say. Trust me, when I started saying my affirmations in front of the mirror, I noticed something happen straight away. While speaking, I began to stand straighter, speak with more confidence, smile and feel much more enthusiastic and confident in myself.

When you create your own affirmations and say them out loud in front of the mirror with passion, belief and enthusiasm, it becomes a powerful way of super charging yourself both mentally and physically.

A great exercise is to get a blank piece of paper and write the title Areas To Work On; you need to write down what areas of your life you want to change or improve. This is a wonderful time for some self-reflection and honesty with yourself. You might write down for example:

Have more self-confidence.

Have more belief in myself.

Have more compassion.

Take more action.

Show more gratitude.

Improve my health.

Be a better spouse.

Have less stress.

Be happier.

On another blank page you need to take what you have written from the Areas to Work On list and put them into positive specific statements under the title Daily Affirmations. Use the present tense as if the change or improvement that you are seeking has already happened to you. Use short powerful sentences that are easy to remember. Remember, these are your affirmations, the more that they come from you and that you feel totally passionate about them, the stronger and more powerful that they will be.

Remember, to make your affirmations extra powerful, repeat them in front of the mirror in the morning and in the evening as a part of your daily routine. Say them with total belief, confidence and with passion. Talking to yourself in front of the mirror might feel unusual at first, but I promise you the feeling is great. You will instantly feel better both physically and mentally.

Click on the image below for 21 powerful affirmations that I hope will make significant changes to your daily life.

The Power Of Affirmations

The Power Of Affirmations

 

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Are You Working For A Tyrant Boss? (And what you can do about it)

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Multiple studies have indicated that a large percentage of people are unhappy with their jobs. Research carried out by Microsoft in 2021, showed that 41% of the workforce are considering leaving their employer. Sometimes, this dissatisfaction comes from working long hours. Other times, it is about not making enough money.

On occasion, however, the source of unhappiness is the person that you work for. Working for a tyrant boss is draining and stressful. It can have a negative impact on nearly every area of your life, because the stress that it causes makes it hard to “let go” of your workday even when you are at home.

So, how do you know if you are working for a tyrant boss? And if you are, what can you do about it?

A Boss That Is Never Wrong

You have heard of the phrase “the customer is always right,” but do you work for someone who never seems to think that you are ever right?

A tyrant in the workplace is often a dictator. This means that they don’t listen to anyone else’s opinion or ideas, and if they do, they are instantly shut down. A tyrant boss can “never be wrong,” and they have the final authority on everything.

Unfortunately, they are often the ones who will suffer in the end. No one is perfect, no matter how much your boss thinks that they are. If they do not take other people’s input into consideration, they are going to burn out and end up making poor choices, which will impact the business in the long run.

Help people reach their full potential, catch them doing something right. Ken Blanchard

They Expect Carbon Copies Of Themselves

Does your boss seem to gravitate toward employees who are just like them?

Narcissistic people tend to be kinder to those who have the same characteristics. The problem with that? It takes a diverse group of people with different skill sets to make a great team.

If your boss favors people just like them and expects everyone to conform to certain unreasonable expectations, you should see this as a huge red flag.

Additionally, pay attention to how your boss’ personality changes around certain people. If they tend to play favorites, it might be another sign that they are running a tyrannical operation. Everyone in a business should be treated equally. Favoritism doesn’t belong in a professional setting.

Coming together is a beginning, staying together is progress, and working together is a success. Henry Ford

They Don’t Respect Your Work-Life Balance

Work-life balance has become an important topic of conversation over the last year. With more people working remotely, it has been harder for some to strike a healthy balance between their work life and their home life.

While, in many cases, you can find ways to manage this balance, some bosses simply won’t allow it.

For example, does your boss frequently call you on your day off? Do they email you or message you after working hours, or first thing in the morning?

If your boss cannot respect that you have a life and that you deserve some free time, they are running their business like a dictatorship. Good employers know how important it is for their employees to have free time, whether it is for self-care or socialization. When a worker constantly feels like they are “on the clock,” they are more likely to get burnt out quickly, and their performance will suffer.

They Are Master Micro-Managers

Does your boss lurk over you more often than not? Do you find it hard to get anything done in a day because they are micromanaging everything that you do?

Micro-managers want a play-by-play of everything that you are doing throughout the day. They will try to take charge of your projects and overlook everything so you can’t be as productive as you could be.

You can work to diffuse a micro-managing boss by giving them more information than they ask for. Beat them at their own game by giving them detailed information about what you are working on. If they feel like they are not able to be “on top” of you anymore, they will likely give up and let you work in peace.

Great things in business are never done by one person; they’re done by a team of people. Steve Jobs

They Want All Of The Credit

Typically, when a business sees any kind of success, it is a good sign of a strong, dynamic team. One person cannot hold up an entire company on their own.

But, if your boss tends to take the credit for everything and loves being in the spotlight, it can often feel like your efforts are unnoticed and unappreciated. There are children’s books about people doing all the work and someone else taking all of the credit. Some adults just never seem to learn the “moral of the story”.

What Can You Do About It?

So, what can you do if you are working for a tyrant boss? Aside from resigning, which is sometimes the only option, there are a few ways that you can manage things on a daily basis.

First, try not to let your boss’ behavior affect you. Yes, they can be frustrating. They will get to you, at times. It is important for you to take the high road and be the bigger person. No matter where you work, everything that you do is a reflection of who you are – your personal brand. Don’t give in to your frustrations, and don’t fuel your boss’ attitude by snapping back at them. If you do, chances are, their behaviors will become even more exaggerated.

Your overall well-being should be your top priority. If you don’t see any signs of a changing environment, you don’t need to stay in a toxic workplace. Understand some of these signs, and trust your gut when it comes to how you should respond. Many of us have had bad experiences with tyrant bosses in the past, I know I have. In my experience, tyrant bosses very rarely change. They have either moved on or I have.

Life is too short to be stressed out by your boss. Thankfully there are plenty of great bosses out there too who will respect and value you and they are a real joy to work with.

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How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

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How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

We live in a world where other people’s triumphs, successes, and even their vanity are constantly in our faces. Digital influencers and social media make it seem easy to look perfect and feel amazing all of the time. Even your friends and family members might appear to having more success, happiness and fun.

If you stop to think about it, you can probably list off a handful of people you have compared yourself to in the past last week. Maybe a co-worker got a promotion at work, or maybe your friend has just flown off on vacation. Maybe someone you have not seen in years posted a photo online that made you envious of their lifestyle. When you start comparing yourself to others, it is easy to lose your sense of self-esteem and self-worth. If you let your guard down, you can fall into the trap of chasing after other people’s lives and not appreciating who you are and what you have achieved.

Theodore Roosevelt famously said, “comparison is the thief of joy”. How true those words remain today – perhaps even more so!

How can you stop the endless scrolling, or looking at the lives of people you know and feeling like you’re somehow less important?

Let’s look at a few tips and techniques that can help you to stop comparing yourself to others.

Know Your Triggers

Maybe a co-worker getting a promotion doesn’t affect you, but a friend getting married does. You might be single or recently divorced. Or, maybe you have been in a relationship for a while but your partner doesn’t want to get married. As a result, you start comparing yourself and the things you want to what someone else has. The things that cause you to compare are your “triggers”. Sometimes, you might not care whether someone has more than you, but other times it can really sting and make you feel low.

Understanding your triggers and accepting them will make it easier to stop making those comparisons. First, you can avoid triggers as much as possible until they do not impact you as much. Maybe cut down on your social media usage. Do you pick up your phone out of habit and constantly refresh your Instagram feed? Perhaps get into the habit of keeping your phone out of reach and taking a social media fast from time to time. As you work on that, try to think about why comparing yourself in those specific situations is a waste of time. Once you convince yourself that it is “no big deal,” you are less likely to be triggered.

Remind Yourself That It May Not Be Real

Because of the social media-saturated world that we live in, it is easy for everyone to make their lives seem better than they are. No one is going to post a photo that doesn’t paint them in a positive light. Even in the real world, everything is not always what it seems. Your friend getting married? Maybe they are struggling with something else, like a health condition or money troubles. That co-worker that seems to get all the credit? Maybe they are going through relationship issues at home.

Most of the time, you will only see what people want you to see. You never really know what is going on beneath the surface and behind closed doors. So, when you start comparing yourself to someone else, pause for a moment and remind yourself that no one’s life is perfect. You don’t know what other people are going through, and you may actually be doing better than they are in other areas of life.

Practice Gratitude

When you compare yourself to others, you lose sight of everything you have and everything you can do. Practicing gratitude each day is a great way to stop making comparisons. Think of at least five things you are grateful for every morning to start your day on a positive note.

Alternatively, carry a small notebook around with you and write down something that you are thankful for every time you think of it throughout the day. The best part about this method is being able to look back on your gratitude moments, especially if you are feeling down. It serves as a wonderful reminder of the wonderful things in your life.

Use it as a Motivational Tool

Sometimes, comparison can be a healthy thing. If the thing that you “want” is something that you can work towards, you can let your comparison motivate you to get it. For example, if someone in your life is incredibly kind and charitable, why let their generosity make you feel less important? You do not have to be extremely wealthy to give back. Try volunteering, or donate what you can. If someone at work seems to be getting all the glory, use that as a motivational tool to work harder and get your achievements noticed too.

When you start to work toward the things that make you admire others, it becomes less about comparison and more about who you really want to be. When done “correctly,” comparison can actually push you to be the best possible version of yourself.

So, don’t waste anymore time scrolling through social media and wishing for a different life. Don’t feel sorry for yourself because you think you will never have as much. When you use comparison in a negative way, it will make you feel negative and envious. Instead of comparing yourself to others, let certain people inspire you to do more, be more and achieve more.

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5 Ways To Know Your Self Worth

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5 Ways To Know Your Self Worth

Focusing on your sense of “self” is very important in so many different ways. When you think about it, you are probably surrounded by the word “self” each day more than you realize. From self-care, self-esteem and self-belief to self-confidence, self-respect and self-worth, people are constantly trying to find ways to better themselves in different areas of their lives.

If you ask most people if they know their self-worth, they will probably be quick to say yes. But, if you took that question further and asked them how they know it, you will likely be met with some hesitation. The reality is, most people think they know about self-worth, but do not fully understand what it is or how it differs from other areas of “self”.

So, how can you truly know your self-worth? What can you do to increase it? What are your strengths, gifts and abilities? Let’s take a look at a few ways to have a better understanding of what really is your self-worth.

1. Don’t Judge Your Own Emotions

You can boost your sense of self-worth by accepting your thoughts and feelings. You might not always like them, and you might find yourself at odds with them from time to time. But, whatever thoughts and emotions come into your head, let them in. Then, you can work through them effectively. Emotions demand to be felt. It is how you respond to them that matters. Don’t ignore them and limit your true value. Embrace the wonderful unique person who you are.

 

Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.Robert Tew

 

2. Question Your “Shoulds”

When you think about the things you “should” do, it might leave you feeling unmotivated and overwhelmed. For example, if you say to yourself, “I should go for a run this evening,” and then you don’t end up doing it, how do you think you will feel? Chances are, you will struggle with some level of guilt. This can snowball into not feeling good about yourself and questioning how much that you value yourself and your self-worth.

Instead, fill your life with things that you “will” do. The word “will” implies that it is more of a promise and a commitment, rather than a burden. Saying “I will run a mile this evening” is much more motivating and allows you to prove exactly who you are and what you can do.

 

Anything is possible when you have a path, a plan, and a desire to take action. Dean Graziosi

 

3. Don’t Worry About the Acceptance of Others

It seems all too natural to worry about what other people think of us. Social media can make things even worse. If you find yourself constantly “looking for likes” or some kind of validation from friends, family, or even strangers, you are looking at your self-worth in the wrong place by looking through someone else’s lens and standards.

It can be hard to give up this habit. Everyone wants to be accepted. But, you won’t find what you are worth in the opinions of others. You have the power to see yourself for how great you really are. When you are able to internalize this power and recognize your true value and self-worth, you won’t put so much emphasis on what others think of you. You will get to know who you are, what you are really worth, and you can be confident in that.

4. Let Yourself Off The Hook

Many times, people cannot see their true self-worth because they are holding on to past guilt. Almost everyone has regrets. Whether you did something when you were young that you should not have, or perhaps you wronged someone in some way, the past is the past.

You need to learn to forgive yourself and let yourself off the hook. By holding onto that guilt, you will never be able to see what you are really worth. It will feel like a ball and chain holding you back. But, you have the key to break free, if you just give yourself the chance. If you would be willing to show someone else forgiveness and acceptance for their wrongdoings, you owe it to yourself to do the same. Give yourself a break.

5. Look at Your Gifts

If you are still having a hard time understanding your self-worth, take a look at your natural skills. Everyone has certain gifts in life. Your talents are going to be different from someone else’s – that’s what makes the world work!

Think about a few things that you are really good at. Or, something that you really enjoy doing. Go even further by creating a list of your talents and skills. They don’t need to be huge. In fact, writing a list of several “little things” can make you see just how important and valuable that you are. Take a look at that list whenever you are feeling down or devalued, and practice those talents and skills as often as possible.

By keeping these skills and talents of yours in mind, you can start to celebrate your self-worth. When you have a better understanding of your real value, you are more likely to prioritize other things like self-care, self-esteem and self belief. Each of which are different, but they are all connected in some way. But, it starts with knowing your self-worth. And, chances are, it is much more than you might think.

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