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The Power Of Affirmations

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The Power Of Affirmations

 

We all know what it means to “affirm” something: The dictionary definition of an affirmation is ‘an act of saying or showing that something is true.’ However, not all of us know or understand the concept or true power of affirmations.

Many people shrug them off as strange mantras some people use to calm their nerves, or mentally prepare themselves for something. And while this is true of affirmations, they actually go far beyond that, as they can really change our everyday lives, not just for those ‘big’ moments, but the possible outcome and your attitude of every passing day.

A Closer Look At The Power Of Affirmations.

Affirmations as you now know are declarative statements that you are labelling to be true. Let’s say that you looked at yourself in the mirror tomorrow, and repeated to yourself with total belief; ‘I am feeling totally positive and confident about myself.’ Affirming it would allow you to take that positive feeling with you through the entire day. For someone who struggles with low self-esteem, or doesn’t typically like the way that they feel, allowing yourself to believe a statement like that can make a big difference in how you feel for the rest of your day. You are actually declaring the affirmation not only to yourself, but also to the universe!

Affirmations are not necessarily goals, and they are not just things that we say to ourselves to trick our brains into thinking something about ourselves that isn’t true. They actually help to send messages to our brain, letting us know what we need to do in order to become the declarations that we have said out loud.

What Can Affirmations Do?

Some people swear by the power of affirmations, and for others, it can take some time to get used to the idea of repeating a sort of ‘mantra’ over and over again and expect to see results. There are a few essential steps that you need to take if you are new to the power of affirmations:

First, decide on the transformation that you are looking for. This could be anything from improving your health, (ie: “I feel fit and healthy today,” to having more confidence, (ie: “I am feeling powerful, confident, energetic, and on top of the world.).

If you don’t have a particular transformation goal in mind, what kind of attitudes, or characteristics would you like to further develop within yourself? Using affirmations does not necessarily mean that you want to ‘change’ something from bad to good. It can also mean that you are looking to make a good quality you already like about yourself even better!

A lot of people find more success when they add an emotion into their affirmation, allowing them to connect with, and actually feel the emotion as they say it (ie: “I am feeling happy to go to my job today.”)

Always make your affirmations positive, instead of focusing on any negative aspects, even if they come from the past. The point is to develop positive habits instead of even considering the idea of looking back on where you might have come from. While that can be effective in other ways, including self-reflection, it is important to keep affirmations positive and uplifting.

In reality, every single thought that you have is a sort of affirmation – or, self-talk. The problem arises in the fact that we have been self-talking since we were children, and we don’t always learn how to talk to ourselves in a positive and productive way. That might seem silly to some, but you are affirming everything in your life through the experiences you have, and through self-talk. Maybe you went for a job interview once that didn’t go so well, and your thought was something like, “I hate interviews.” It’s not that job interviews in general are bad, or that you don’t like job interviews, it just might be that one particular job interview did not go as well as you had hoped. But, by using self-talk like that over and over again throughout our lives, which can be more detrimental than helpful. You may have the idea that you hate job interviews forever, and in reality, it is just not true.

Working Affirmations Into Your Day

If you are interested in the power of affirmations, and you want to try them for yourself, an easy way to get started is by bringing them into your morning and night-time routine. This way, they become more of a habit, and less of a ‘chore’ that you have to think about. Decide on your affirmations, and say them to yourself in the bathroom as you are getting ready in the morning or before you go to bed at night. You can decide how many times you would like to repeat your phrase, but a minimum of three times is best.

It usually takes a few days before your affirmations really ‘sink in,’ which might be frustrating at first, but once you stick with it for a few days, the habits you are forming in declaring something to be true will be more powerful than you can possibly realize.

I like to start and end each day by reading the 21 Powerful Affirmations that I have included at the bottom of this article. These powerful messages are the perfect way to start and end each day, and are perfect for putting you into a positive, confident mindset.

I then say four or five personal affirmations out loud in front of the mirror. “What?” You might say. Trust me, when I started saying my affirmations in front of the mirror, I noticed something happen straight away. While speaking, I began to stand straighter, speak with more confidence, smile and feel much more enthusiastic and confident in myself.

When you create your own affirmations and say them out loud in front of the mirror with passion, belief and enthusiasm, it becomes a powerful way of super charging yourself both mentally and physically.

A great exercise is to get a blank piece of paper and write the title Areas To Work On; you need to write down what areas of your life you want to change or improve. This is a wonderful time for some self-reflection and honesty with yourself. You might write down for example:

Have more self-confidence.

Have more belief in myself.

Have more compassion.

Take more action.

Show more gratitude.

Improve my health.

Be a better spouse.

Have less stress.

Be happier.

On another blank page you need to take what you have written from the Areas to Work On list and put them into positive specific statements under the title Daily Affirmations. Use the present tense as if the change or improvement that you are seeking has already happened to you. Use short powerful sentences that are easy to remember. Remember, these are your affirmations, the more that they come from you and that you feel totally passionate about them, the stronger and more powerful that they will be.

Remember, to make your affirmations extra powerful, repeat them in front of the mirror in the morning and in the evening as a part of your daily routine. Say them with total belief, confidence and with passion. Talking to yourself in front of the mirror might feel unusual at first, but I promise you the feeling is great. You will instantly feel better both physically and mentally.

Click on the image below for 21 powerful affirmations that I hope will make significant changes to your daily life.

The Power Of Affirmations

The Power Of Affirmations

 

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5 Ways To Know Your Self Worth

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5 Ways To Know Your Self Worth

Focusing on your sense of “self” is very important in so many different ways. When you think about it, you are probably surrounded by the word “self” each day more than you realize. From self-care, self-esteem and self-belief to self-confidence, self-respect and self-worth, people are constantly trying to find ways to better themselves in different areas of their lives.

If you ask most people if they know their self-worth, they will probably be quick to say yes. But, if you took that question further and asked them how they know it, you will likely be met with some hesitation. The reality is, most people think they know about self-worth, but do not fully understand what it is or how it differs from other areas of “self”.

So, how can you truly know your self-worth? What can you do to increase it? What are your strengths, gifts and abilities? Let’s take a look at a few ways to have a better understanding of what really is your self-worth.

1. Don’t Judge Your Own Emotions

You can boost your sense of self-worth by accepting your thoughts and feelings. You might not always like them, and you might find yourself at odds with them from time to time. But, whatever thoughts and emotions come into your head, let them in. Then, you can work through them effectively. Emotions demand to be felt. It is how you respond to them that matters. Don’t ignore them and limit your true value. Embrace the wonderful unique person who you are.

 

Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.Robert Tew

 

2. Question Your “Shoulds”

When you think about the things you “should” do, it might leave you feeling unmotivated and overwhelmed. For example, if you say to yourself, “I should go for a run this evening,” and then you don’t end up doing it, how do you think you will feel? Chances are, you will struggle with some level of guilt. This can snowball into not feeling good about yourself and questioning how much that you value yourself and your self-worth.

Instead, fill your life with things that you “will” do. The word “will” implies that it is more of a promise and a commitment, rather than a burden. Saying “I will run a mile this evening” is much more motivating and allows you to prove exactly who you are and what you can do.

 

Anything is possible when you have a path, a plan, and a desire to take action. Dean Graziosi

 

3. Don’t Worry About the Acceptance of Others

It seems all too natural to worry about what other people think of us. Social media can make things even worse. If you find yourself constantly “looking for likes” or some kind of validation from friends, family, or even strangers, you are looking at your self-worth in the wrong place by looking through someone else’s lens and standards.

It can be hard to give up this habit. Everyone wants to be accepted. But, you won’t find what you are worth in the opinions of others. You have the power to see yourself for how great you really are. When you are able to internalize this power and recognize your true value and self-worth, you won’t put so much emphasis on what others think of you. You will get to know who you are, what you are really worth, and you can be confident in that.

4. Let Yourself Off The Hook

Many times, people cannot see their true self-worth because they are holding on to past guilt. Almost everyone has regrets. Whether you did something when you were young that you should not have, or perhaps you wronged someone in some way, the past is the past.

You need to learn to forgive yourself and let yourself off the hook. By holding onto that guilt, you will never be able to see what you are really worth. It will feel like a ball and chain holding you back. But, you have the key to break free, if you just give yourself the chance. If you would be willing to show someone else forgiveness and acceptance for their wrongdoings, you owe it to yourself to do the same. Give yourself a break.

5. Look at Your Gifts

If you are still having a hard time understanding your self-worth, take a look at your natural skills. Everyone has certain gifts in life. Your talents are going to be different from someone else’s – that’s what makes the world work!

Think about a few things that you are really good at. Or, something that you really enjoy doing. Go even further by creating a list of your talents and skills. They don’t need to be huge. In fact, writing a list of several “little things” can make you see just how important and valuable that you are. Take a look at that list whenever you are feeling down or devalued, and practice those talents and skills as often as possible.

By keeping these skills and talents of yours in mind, you can start to celebrate your self-worth. When you have a better understanding of your real value, you are more likely to prioritize other things like self-care, self-esteem and self belief. Each of which are different, but they are all connected in some way. But, it starts with knowing your self-worth. And, chances are, it is much more than you might think.

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6 Signs Of A Strong Friendship

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6 Signs Of A Strong Friendship

There is nothing quite like a strong friendship. Having someone that you can truly count on for anything and everything can completely change the way you think and feel. Unfortunately, far too often in today’s society, we seem to focus more on how many friends we have.

Or, worse, how many acquaintances we can keep in touch with via social media. But, having a true, strong friendship is something that cannot be replaced or replicated with lukewarm substitutes.

Are you already thinking about someone in your life who fits that description? Or, are you wondering if you truly have a strong friendship with one (or more) of the people who are closest to you?

While every friendly relationship is different and unique, there are some common factors associated with a strong bond and true friendship. Let’s take a look at a few of them so you can feel even more confident in your close friendships, and grow even deeper with the people in your life who truly matter.

1. Communication is Always a Priority

It is easy to talk to your friends when everything in your life is on track. Sharing laughs, light conversation, and exchanging stories are all important parts of a healthy friendship.

But, a strong friendship goes deeper. It allows you to communicate with that person, no matter what.  That includes telling them about your struggles or anything you might be going through. It also includes communicating effectively when you are not getting along.

Through proper communication, especially when things are hard, you will build trust within that relationship. Going through difficult things together will make you stronger individuals, and stronger friends.

2. You Know You Are Equals

Almost everyone has known at least one person in their lives who seems to think they’re “better” than everyone else.

Strong friendships need to be based on equality. You and your friend should always be on the same playing field when it comes to who you are and how you are living your life. If you embrace your differences and do not see one as superior, you can take comfort in knowing your friendship is sincere.

3. Respect

Even the best of friends clash from time to time. You might have similar personalities, but no two people are exactly alike.

But, if you can still show your friend respect (and receive it from them) even in times of turmoil, your friendship will be stronger than any disagreement you might have. When someone chooses to respect you even when they are upset with you, it shows that they value your relationship more than their pride.

4. You Can Be Yourself

Do you ever feel like you have to put on a show for other people? Or, are you afraid to let your true personality shine through when you are in certain crowds?

A strong friendship is one that allows you to be yourself. If there is someone in your life who truly likes you for who you are, hold onto that friendship tightly! Most people spend far too much time pretending, whether it’s online or in-person. Someone who loves your quirks and uniqueness is someone who loves you, as a person.

Honesty is also a huge part of being yourself, and a huge part of a strong friendship. Friendships should be based on trust, and that starts with being honest. Telling the truth about how you feel and what you think is important. If your friend actively listens, appreciates, and comments on that truth, you can take comfort in knowing how secure your relationship is.

5. You Experience Joy

While a true friend should be there for you during hard times, the bulk of your relationship should be joyful and fun! Again, think about that person in your life who makes you smile. Is there someone who you are always happy to be around? Does thinking about your friendship cause your heart to race?

Strong friendships should absolutely be joyful. You should find yourself laughing a lot, and being completely at ease with one another. That person may be the first one you think of when you want to experience something new or go somewhere different, just because you know that you will have more fun with them around.

6. You Respect Boundaries

No matter how great your friendship is, no two people can be together 24/7. A great friend will understand that and respect your boundaries. Alternatively, they might be going through something that they are not ready to talk about. If you can respect those boundaries, it shows them how much faith you have in your friendship.

Many people are too quick to think the term “boundaries” as being negative. But, boundaries are completely healthy and necessary in a strong relationship of any kind. Having someone in your life who respects those boundaries understands what it takes to build upon that strength. 

Having a strong friendship – even just one – can add so much to your life. Take a look at your current friendships. Is there one that stands out to you with these characteristics? If so, do what you can to continue to build and grow that strength, and make sure that friend knows how important they are to you on a regular basis.

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

Have you ever had moments where you feel completely inadequate? Maybe a specific situation comes up and you think there is no way that you would ever be good enough to do what is needed. Or, maybe you feel that way all the time and you can’t seem to get past it.

Thinking that you are not good enough and having low self-esteem tend to go hand-in-hand, but they are slightly different.

Thankfully, you can work on both of them by changing your thinking habits and banishing some of that negative self-talk from your mindset. Whether you think you are not good enough in certain situations or you have a hard time believing that you are good enough for almost anything, it doesn’t have to be that way forever.

Let’s look at a few things you should always keep in mind when those thoughts come in, and how you can start to convince yourself of your true worth.

1. You Are Not Alone

Thinking that you are not good enough can cause a lonely existence. You might not want to put your burdens on others, so you don’t talk about it. You might also think that everyone else is perfectly happy with who they are, and are confident in everything that they do.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

The reality is, you never know what other people are fully thinking/feeling. What you can count on, though, is that there are so many others who feel just like you, and are constantly wondering if they are “enough”. Knowing that you are not alone can help you to work through your feelings without feeling so isolated.

2. You Have Your Own Skills

A common reason why people tend to think they are not good enough is because they don’t have a specific talent or skill that someone else has. But you probably have something that person doesn’t, too.

Everyone has their own abilities and things that make them unique. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, keep your mind on your talents and what makes you special.

“If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you!” – T. Harv Eker

3. You Can’t Be Perfect

Perfection is a fruitless thing to chase. Many people who question their self-worth do so because they are perfectionists.

But, if you set such a high standard for yourself, you will always be disappointed. Perfection doesn’t exist, and while you can strive to be your best, it is important to understand human error and limits. That doesn’t mean the things you do are some how “less” than great. But, striving for perfection is something that can make you feel inadequate.

4. You Are Worthy of Loving Yourself

Love tends to be the answer for so many things, including any pain or turmoil that you might be going through. Thinking that you are not good enough is an easy way to cause yourself sadness and pain. Those thoughts can quickly snowball and you might start to think about more negative things about yourself.

Instead of fueling those negative thoughts, choose love. Love is like a permanent band-aid for the pain that you are going through. It is a great way to comfort yourself, provide reassurance, and get a clearer picture of who you really are and all of the wonderful things that you can offer the world. By choosing self-love, you can start to see yourself in a more positive light, and push those negative thoughts away.

“We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself.” – Mae West

5. Mistakes Can Be a Good Thing

Do you ever find yourself feeling especially inadequate when you “fail”? While that is not uncommon, that word should really be removed from your vocabulary.

Everyone “fails” at times, because again, perfection is not attainable. When you start to consider anything less than perfection to be a failure, it is easy to beat yourself up and think that you will never amount to the things that you truly want.

But, when you start to view your failures and mistakes as good things and stepping stones, you can completely shift your perspective and realize that not only are you good enough, but you are also resilient and strong. Some of the biggest “failures” in history went on to be the most successful people because they learned from their mistakes. They looked at the things that went wrong and considered how they could change them.

It is important to use your mistakes as a way to learn and grow. When you are able to do that, you will find a greater sense of fulfillment when things finally come together and you get it “right”.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordon

6. Gratitude Goes a Long Way

It might not always feel easy to accept and be grateful for who you are. But, it is incredibly important. Instead of thinking about the things you don’t have or areas where you are not “good enough”, choose to actively think about and pursue the positive. Focus on what you are grateful for. The more that you do that, the easier it will be to banish those thoughts of doubt and insecurity. I like to start every day by using my journal and begin by writing down three things that I am grateful for.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie

Once you really start to think about it, you will find that you have more to be grateful for than you may have initially realized, and that way of thinking can help you to establish healthier, more positive thoughts about yourself that will last a lifetime.

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