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Live the Life You Were Born to Do

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Live the Life You Were Born to Do

You want more out of life.

Right?

Whether it’s a more fulfilling job, more passion in your life, or more money to live life to the fullest…

You’re craving more.

That’s why you’re here, after all — to grab more of what life has to offer and make it real in your own life.
Usually, my audience are the ones with a whole lotta gold on the inside. They are people who aren’t okay with just being average.

They are people who know that life is short and every day is a gift and it’s meant to be lived as an adventure — because, otherwise, what’s the point?

But here’s the thing, most people don’t tell you about the wanting, the visualizing, the dreaming: it’s hard.

Especially when the picture in your head doesn’t match the reality in front of you…

When you know that you are meant for so much more than what you are doing right now…

Well…it feels like crap, honestly.

It feels as if you are spending your days working for someone who doesn’t value you.

It feels like you are going through the motions but not really enjoying every moment.

It feels like waking up in the morning with a first thought of “ugh… how many times I can I get away with ‘snooze’”?”

I mean, seriously. When you believe that life is a precious gift, but you start the day with “ugh”?! You know how messed up that is! But you can’t seem to find a way out.

And it’s one thing for some people who are content with the status quo, who are fine if all their life is home to work, fast food take-outs and extra-strong cups of coffee in between.

But for the people who know that a better life is within their reach — who have the smarts and skills and potential to actually get there — waking up in a life that’s just okay… can be really hard and painful.

But that pain is there for a reason. Discomfort is what leads us to change. It’s the catalyst, the spark, for something new to come into your life.

A Side Hustle is a business that you build on the side of your day job. It’s an additional revenue stream (that can replace your full-time job, if you want) and a way to tap into your passions.

In my #1 international bestseller What If It Does Work Out?: How a Side Hustle Can Change Your Life, I interviewed my friend and serial entrepreneur, James Altucher, about challenging conventional wisdom and taking risks. Here is an excerpt.

Susie:What facts do you tell people who still believe in the old world order (safe corporate job, 401(k), single paycheck)?

James:I don’t like to tell people they are wrong. Nobody listens when you tell them that.

We want to believe (I want to believe) that I am right all the time.

So I don’t tell people when I think they are wrong. I just point out the times I realized I was wrong.

1. 401(k)s

I thought it was good to save away every month in a 401(k). Little did I realize the amount of fees and wrong decisions 401(k) managers constantly make. Nor did I realize that even when the company matches, I would have been far better off investing in myself, or simply having my own cash in the bank rather than waiting until I am near 60.

2. Owning a home

I get it. Many people want “roots.” Many people think rent is throwing money out. But you never really own your home. Try missing a mortgage payment, or a property tax payment, and see how quickly the land from underneath you is taken away. And I learned the hard way that the amount of equity I build is no match for maintenance, renovation, and the thousand other little nicks and expenses that owning a house entails.

Sure, some of the time (and there are a million anecdotes), homeownership works. But as an investment, it has all the worst qualities. You would never invest in a company/stock, for instance, where:

  • You use 400% leverage.
  • It can go down as much as 50% while you hold it.
  • It is totally illiquid. (You can’t sell it during the times you most NEED to sell it.)
  • It requires constant payments to hold onto the investment.

I could go on.

3. Jobs are “safe.”

Many people go to college thinking that even if they can’t do their highest passions in life, they at least can have a “Plan B” that includes a safe job.

Unfortunately, incomes have been going straight down while inflation is going up.

The average salary for people ages 18-35 has gone from $36,000 in 1992 to $33,000 now, and it’s only getting lower.

How do you start living the life that you were born to do? For starters, you could begin by starting a side hustle that you will be passionate about.

Here are the essentials that you need to start a successful Side Hustle….

 

Live the Life You Were Born to Do

 

Pinpoint a passion. Most people have a few, but just choose one that fits these criteria: You are really good at it, people need it, and you can be paid for it. It can be anything from teaching calligraphy to planning parties to freelancing as a logo creator. Don’t over-think it! Your business will change over time, so just begin.

Use your network. It’s bigger than you think. Don’t be afraid to let your contacts know that you’re open for business by posting your work on social media and starting an email list. Most people will support you. After some time my corporate clients became some of my biggest supporters and even coaching clients (most had, or wanted to begin, their own hustles)!

Schedule weekly hustle hours. Like a work appointment or meeting, this is non-negotiable.

Collaborate with other hustlers and entrepreneurs at every opportunity. The bigger your community the more “luck” you will have.

Once you have a little traction, hire an affordable virtual assistant who can help you with the time consuming but non-revenue generating work – I recommend Fiverr.com and Brickwork India.

Starting a side hustle is the 21st century way to start a business.

Now, if the idea of starting a business makes you start to sweat, it’s probably because of one of these two reasons:

You’re way too busy. You work a demanding job, maybe you have kids, and you have hobbies and a social life that you don’t want to give up. You’re a doer. You’re constantly in motion. You definitely don’t have time to start a business.

Or…

You’re smart with money. Financial security is very important to you because the world runs on dollars and cents. Starting your own business would be amazing…but you won’t risk your financial future without solid proof that it can make you real money.

Just like you, I’m an idealist but I’m also a realist. A business takes time and resources to grow. We can’t just dream it into existence.

But…

That’s why Side Hustling is your entry pass to the life you want. It’s not just about making money and doing work that you love, it’s also about being whip smart with your time and intentionally using it (maybe for the first time) to serve YOU.

Building a Side Hustle doesn’t have to take tons of time. (I built mine to six figures while working my crazy Sales Director job at a Fortune 500 company.)

It doesn’t have to cost loads of money. (I didn’t invest a dime into my coaching business until it paid for itself.)

All you need is a smart, strategic plan of action. You need to know that you’re taking the RIGHT steps that will move you forward in a big way.

There is a Chinese proverb that says, “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is today.” If you want a side hustle, start today. There is no reason to wait. Conditions are never perfect — the timing is never “right.” If you yearn for a hustle, start now and buckle up. Because what transpires just might astonish you.

Susie Moore is a British-born former Fortune 500 Sales Director, advisor to startups in New York City and Silicon Valley and #1 bestselling author of What If It Does Work Out? Sign up for her free Side Hustle workshop here.

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

Have you ever had moments where you feel completely inadequate? Maybe a specific situation comes up and you think there is no way that you would ever be good enough to do what is needed. Or, maybe you feel that way all the time and you can’t seem to get past it.

Thinking that you are not good enough and having low self-esteem tend to go hand-in-hand, but they are slightly different.

Thankfully, you can work on both of them by changing your thinking habits and banishing some of that negative self-talk from your mindset. Whether you think you are not good enough in certain situations or you have a hard time believing that you are good enough for almost anything, it doesn’t have to be that way forever.

Let’s look at a few things you should always keep in mind when those thoughts come in, and how you can start to convince yourself of your true worth.

1. You Are Not Alone

Thinking that you are not good enough can cause a lonely existence. You might not want to put your burdens on others, so you don’t talk about it. You might also think that everyone else is perfectly happy with who they are, and are confident in everything that they do.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

The reality is, you never know what other people are fully thinking/feeling. What you can count on, though, is that there are so many others who feel just like you, and are constantly wondering if they are “enough”. Knowing that you are not alone can help you to work through your feelings without feeling so isolated.

2. You Have Your Own Skills

A common reason why people tend to think they are not good enough is because they don’t have a specific talent or skill that someone else has. But you probably have something that person doesn’t, too.

Everyone has their own abilities and things that make them unique. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, keep your mind on your talents and what makes you special.

“If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you!” – T. Harv Eker

3. You Can’t Be Perfect

Perfection is a fruitless thing to chase. Many people who question their self-worth do so because they are perfectionists.

But, if you set such a high standard for yourself, you will always be disappointed. Perfection doesn’t exist, and while you can strive to be your best, it is important to understand human error and limits. That doesn’t mean the things you do are some how “less” than great. But, striving for perfection is something that can make you feel inadequate.

4. You Are Worthy of Loving Yourself

Love tends to be the answer for so many things, including any pain or turmoil that you might be going through. Thinking that you are not good enough is an easy way to cause yourself sadness and pain. Those thoughts can quickly snowball and you might start to think about more negative things about yourself.

Instead of fueling those negative thoughts, choose love. Love is like a permanent band-aid for the pain that you are going through. It is a great way to comfort yourself, provide reassurance, and get a clearer picture of who you really are and all of the wonderful things that you can offer the world. By choosing self-love, you can start to see yourself in a more positive light, and push those negative thoughts away.

“We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself.” – Mae West

5. Mistakes Can Be a Good Thing

Do you ever find yourself feeling especially inadequate when you “fail”? While that is not uncommon, that word should really be removed from your vocabulary.

Everyone “fails” at times, because again, perfection is not attainable. When you start to consider anything less than perfection to be a failure, it is easy to beat yourself up and think that you will never amount to the things that you truly want.

But, when you start to view your failures and mistakes as good things and stepping stones, you can completely shift your perspective and realize that not only are you good enough, but you are also resilient and strong. Some of the biggest “failures” in history went on to be the most successful people because they learned from their mistakes. They looked at the things that went wrong and considered how they could change them.

It is important to use your mistakes as a way to learn and grow. When you are able to do that, you will find a greater sense of fulfillment when things finally come together and you get it “right”.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordon

6. Gratitude Goes a Long Way

It might not always feel easy to accept and be grateful for who you are. But, it is incredibly important. Instead of thinking about the things you don’t have or areas where you are not “good enough”, choose to actively think about and pursue the positive. Focus on what you are grateful for. The more that you do that, the easier it will be to banish those thoughts of doubt and insecurity. I like to start every day by using my journal and begin by writing down three things that I am grateful for.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie

Once you really start to think about it, you will find that you have more to be grateful for than you may have initially realized, and that way of thinking can help you to establish healthier, more positive thoughts about yourself that will last a lifetime.

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

What are existential questions?

Existential questions are usually deep, philosophical questions that question just that — our very existence.

They can be great conversation starters and they can also sometimes make for a passionate discussion. The following existential questions can be a great way to get to know someone better and perhaps even learn new things about yourself.

The word existential comes from the Latin word “existentia”, which means to exist. Existential questions challenge our way of thinking, our beliefs and our perspective.

Is there a right or wrong answer to an existential question? Perhaps not, as each question usually just asks more questions.

I have put together the following list of thought provoking existential questions so that you can perhaps start an internal conversation with yourself or start an interesting debate with your friends.

50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

 

1. Are there limits to human creativity?

2. What makes something beautiful?

3. How do we know if we’re doing the right thing?

4. Who am I?

5. What is one thing that every human should get to experience in their life?

6. Do you believe in a power greater than humanity?

7. Are we given enough time?

8. Is privacy a right?

9. What is the best way for a person to attain happiness?

10. Are we alone in the universe?

11. What is love?

12. How would you define genius?

13. What do you think your purpose is?

14. If babies are considered innocent, when do people cease to be innocent?

15. Is it better to expand your knowledge or to deepen it?

16. Why do you think we are here?

17. How important is ‘play’ in living a healthy and fulfilling life?

18. Do you have a right to be happy, or should you earn it?

19. What happens when I die?

20. What worries me the most about the future?

21. What is a person? Is it the mind, or the body?

22. Would the world be a better place if all leaders were women? If you answered yes, why?

23. What activity have I done that has made me feel the most alive?

24. Does truth exist without evidence?

25. If I had to instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would I give?

26. Does a person have a soul? If so, where is it?

27. Is intelligence or wisdom more useful?

28. Is it more important to love or be loved?

29. What would make the world a better place?

30. How should we measure our lives? In years? In moments? In accomplishments? Something else?

31. What is the difference between living and simply existing?

32. If you died today, would you be satisfied with the life you’ve lived?

33. What advice would you tell your younger self?

34. Which is worse: failing or never trying?

35. Is a minimum wage a good idea? What about a maximum wage?

36. What is the most important goal every person should have?

37. Can anything ever really be considered ‘true’ or is everything subjective?

38. Is the world a better place with humans in it?

39. If extra-terrestrial life was discovered, how do you think humanity would react?

40. Is happiness just a mixture of chemicals circulating through our bodies?

41. Where do you think we go when we die?

42. Have I done anything lately worth remembering?

43. Can you ever have full control over your own life?

44. How do you know that you are not dreaming right now?

45. Is one lifetime enough?

46. What matters most in my life?

47. Is a person ever truly evil? If so, are they born that way?

48. What is the meaning of life?

49. Is humanity going in the right or wrong direction?

50. What does it mean to live a good life?

I hope that you enjoyed these thought provoking existential questions. I hope that they perhaps made you think about your beliefs, yourself and the world around you (the bigger picture). If you discuss these questions with a friend, remember, there is probably no right and wrong answers, usually just a matter of opinion.

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

I clearly remember when I was 18, then 25 and in then what seems like a flash, I have recently celebrated by 50th birthday. While some people might dread the thoughts of hitting such a milestone. (more…)

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