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How to Deal With Rude and Disrespectful People

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How to Deal With Rude and Disrespectful People

 

While many people that you will interact with on a daily basis will be friendly and polite, it is not uncommon to come across rude and disrespectful people too from time to time. Whether it is at work, taking public transportation, or simply going for a walk – not everyone you meet will always be friendly!

So, how do you respond to people who might be rude or disrespectful to you? The best thing that you can do is to remain calm and keep your cool. Falling into the trap of becoming equally-rude will not help anyone.

That being said, it is not always easy to do the right thing when you come across these people in your day-to-day life. So, let’s go over a few useful tips that you can use the next time you interact with someone who is disrespectful or rude to you.

Don’t Assume the Worst

It can easy to label someone who is rude or unkind to you right away. But, it is important to remember that no one is perfect, and everyone has bad days. Think about a time when you may have been a little disrespectful to someone. You wouldn’t want someone else to judge you based on one poor interaction, would you?

You never know what someone might be going through. Try to give people the benefit of the doubt, even if they are disrespectful toward you. In doing so, you are more likely to remain calm and kind. That kind of attitude may even rub off on the rude individual, and make their day a bit brighter.

Remove Yourself From the Situation

Often, when someone is rude to us, it can be tempting to stick around and argue, or at least defend ourselves. Unfortunately, that rarely solves any of the drama, and often makes it worse.

Things people say can be hurtful and discouraging. But, walking away and dropping the conversation can keep things from getting even worse. You will likely even keep yourself from saying something you might later regret.

Walking away allows for emotions to calm down instead of escalating. If the rude person is someone you know, you can always talk with them later when they are in a more stable state of mind and you can have a respectful conversation.

You Can’t Break a Habit

Some people are rude once in awhile because they are having a bad day. For others, it’s a real habit. They are disrespectful because that is simply how they have acted for a long time. Unfortunately, it is a hard habit to break, and you can’t force someone to change their ways.

It is important to understand that if someone is habitually rude, you should never take it personally. Again, disrespectful talk can be very hurtful, and it can be very hard not to feel attacked and take it personally when someone is rude to you. But, if someone is struggling with their rudeness, they likely say things without even thinking. You can’t put too much stock in those words, so don’t let them bring you down!

Be an Example

Rude behavior is contagious. With that in mind, it is important not to respond to a disrespectful person with more disrespect. As hard as it might be at first, responding to rude behavior with kindness and positivity – can be just as contagious!

Whether you are dealing with a friend, co-worker, or even a waiter at a restaurant, always choose kindness and compassion over disrespect and rudeness, no matter how that person may be treating you. Instead of letting their bad attitude change the way you act, let your positive one change the way they are acting. Again, you cannot force change when it comes to someone’s rude behavior. But, leading by example can make a big difference.

Offer to Help

Consider someone’s rude behavior from an analytical perspective. Why are they being rude? Are they having a bad day? Did something happen to them? If it is someone that you know and someone that you are comfortable with, you might consider asking them if they’re okay?

Habitual rudeness is one thing, but if someone usually has a positive personality that has suddenly changed, it is likely due to a negative experience or stressful time in their life. Sometimes, offering to help or lending a hand in some way can be exactly what that individual needs.

People often use rudeness or anger as a way to mask the hurt and struggle that they are feeling inside. Breaking down that barrier by offering your support can be the first step in that individual turning things around for the better.

Understanding the Difference Between Rudeness and Harassment

There’s a fine line between someone being rude to you and someone harassing you. While it is important to remain on an even keel when dealing with rude people, you don’t have to (and shouldn’t) accept any kind of harassment.

If you feel personally threatened or that you are in a hostile environment, you must stick up for yourself or report the incident to the proper authorities. Typically, your instincts will let you know the difference between rudeness and harassment.

When it comes to dealing with rude and disrespectful people, it is best to avoid drama as much as possible. Stay firmly-rooted in your own emotions and actions, and don’t let the actions of others drag you down. Instead, work on being a person that can bring those people up!

You will undoubtedly cross paths with rude and disrespectful people now and then. Whether you know them personally or not, “dealing” with them doesn’t require much. By staying calm, showing kindness and letting your positivity shine through, you could do more for those people than you realize.

 

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

Have you ever had moments where you feel completely inadequate? Maybe a specific situation comes up and you think there is no way that you would ever be good enough to do what is needed. Or, maybe you feel that way all the time and you can’t seem to get past it.

Thinking that you are not good enough and having low self-esteem tend to go hand-in-hand, but they are slightly different.

Thankfully, you can work on both of them by changing your thinking habits and banishing some of that negative self-talk from your mindset. Whether you think you are not good enough in certain situations or you have a hard time believing that you are good enough for almost anything, it doesn’t have to be that way forever.

Let’s look at a few things you should always keep in mind when those thoughts come in, and how you can start to convince yourself of your true worth.

1. You Are Not Alone

Thinking that you are not good enough can cause a lonely existence. You might not want to put your burdens on others, so you don’t talk about it. You might also think that everyone else is perfectly happy with who they are, and are confident in everything that they do.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

The reality is, you never know what other people are fully thinking/feeling. What you can count on, though, is that there are so many others who feel just like you, and are constantly wondering if they are “enough”. Knowing that you are not alone can help you to work through your feelings without feeling so isolated.

2. You Have Your Own Skills

A common reason why people tend to think they are not good enough is because they don’t have a specific talent or skill that someone else has. But you probably have something that person doesn’t, too.

Everyone has their own abilities and things that make them unique. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, keep your mind on your talents and what makes you special.

“If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you!” – T. Harv Eker

3. You Can’t Be Perfect

Perfection is a fruitless thing to chase. Many people who question their self-worth do so because they are perfectionists.

But, if you set such a high standard for yourself, you will always be disappointed. Perfection doesn’t exist, and while you can strive to be your best, it is important to understand human error and limits. That doesn’t mean the things you do are some how “less” than great. But, striving for perfection is something that can make you feel inadequate.

4. You Are Worthy of Loving Yourself

Love tends to be the answer for so many things, including any pain or turmoil that you might be going through. Thinking that you are not good enough is an easy way to cause yourself sadness and pain. Those thoughts can quickly snowball and you might start to think about more negative things about yourself.

Instead of fueling those negative thoughts, choose love. Love is like a permanent band-aid for the pain that you are going through. It is a great way to comfort yourself, provide reassurance, and get a clearer picture of who you really are and all of the wonderful things that you can offer the world. By choosing self-love, you can start to see yourself in a more positive light, and push those negative thoughts away.

“We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself.” – Mae West

5. Mistakes Can Be a Good Thing

Do you ever find yourself feeling especially inadequate when you “fail”? While that is not uncommon, that word should really be removed from your vocabulary.

Everyone “fails” at times, because again, perfection is not attainable. When you start to consider anything less than perfection to be a failure, it is easy to beat yourself up and think that you will never amount to the things that you truly want.

But, when you start to view your failures and mistakes as good things and stepping stones, you can completely shift your perspective and realize that not only are you good enough, but you are also resilient and strong. Some of the biggest “failures” in history went on to be the most successful people because they learned from their mistakes. They looked at the things that went wrong and considered how they could change them.

It is important to use your mistakes as a way to learn and grow. When you are able to do that, you will find a greater sense of fulfillment when things finally come together and you get it “right”.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordon

6. Gratitude Goes a Long Way

It might not always feel easy to accept and be grateful for who you are. But, it is incredibly important. Instead of thinking about the things you don’t have or areas where you are not “good enough”, choose to actively think about and pursue the positive. Focus on what you are grateful for. The more that you do that, the easier it will be to banish those thoughts of doubt and insecurity. I like to start every day by using my journal and begin by writing down three things that I am grateful for.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie

Once you really start to think about it, you will find that you have more to be grateful for than you may have initially realized, and that way of thinking can help you to establish healthier, more positive thoughts about yourself that will last a lifetime.

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

What are existential questions?

Existential questions are usually deep, philosophical questions that question just that — our very existence.

They can be great conversation starters and they can also sometimes make for a passionate discussion. The following existential questions can be a great way to get to know someone better and perhaps even learn new things about yourself.

The word existential comes from the Latin word “existentia”, which means to exist. Existential questions challenge our way of thinking, our beliefs and our perspective.

Is there a right or wrong answer to an existential question? Perhaps not, as each question usually just asks more questions.

I have put together the following list of thought provoking existential questions so that you can perhaps start an internal conversation with yourself or start an interesting debate with your friends.

50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

 

1. Are there limits to human creativity?

2. What makes something beautiful?

3. How do we know if we’re doing the right thing?

4. Who am I?

5. What is one thing that every human should get to experience in their life?

6. Do you believe in a power greater than humanity?

7. Are we given enough time?

8. Is privacy a right?

9. What is the best way for a person to attain happiness?

10. Are we alone in the universe?

11. What is love?

12. How would you define genius?

13. What do you think your purpose is?

14. If babies are considered innocent, when do people cease to be innocent?

15. Is it better to expand your knowledge or to deepen it?

16. Why do you think we are here?

17. How important is ‘play’ in living a healthy and fulfilling life?

18. Do you have a right to be happy, or should you earn it?

19. What happens when I die?

20. What worries me the most about the future?

21. What is a person? Is it the mind, or the body?

22. Would the world be a better place if all leaders were women? If you answered yes, why?

23. What activity have I done that has made me feel the most alive?

24. Does truth exist without evidence?

25. If I had to instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would I give?

26. Does a person have a soul? If so, where is it?

27. Is intelligence or wisdom more useful?

28. Is it more important to love or be loved?

29. What would make the world a better place?

30. How should we measure our lives? In years? In moments? In accomplishments? Something else?

31. What is the difference between living and simply existing?

32. If you died today, would you be satisfied with the life you’ve lived?

33. What advice would you tell your younger self?

34. Which is worse: failing or never trying?

35. Is a minimum wage a good idea? What about a maximum wage?

36. What is the most important goal every person should have?

37. Can anything ever really be considered ‘true’ or is everything subjective?

38. Is the world a better place with humans in it?

39. If extra-terrestrial life was discovered, how do you think humanity would react?

40. Is happiness just a mixture of chemicals circulating through our bodies?

41. Where do you think we go when we die?

42. Have I done anything lately worth remembering?

43. Can you ever have full control over your own life?

44. How do you know that you are not dreaming right now?

45. Is one lifetime enough?

46. What matters most in my life?

47. Is a person ever truly evil? If so, are they born that way?

48. What is the meaning of life?

49. Is humanity going in the right or wrong direction?

50. What does it mean to live a good life?

I hope that you enjoyed these thought provoking existential questions. I hope that they perhaps made you think about your beliefs, yourself and the world around you (the bigger picture). If you discuss these questions with a friend, remember, there is probably no right and wrong answers, usually just a matter of opinion.

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

I clearly remember when I was 18, then 25 and in then what seems like a flash, I have recently celebrated by 50th birthday. While some people might dread the thoughts of hitting such a milestone. (more…)

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