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How to Deal With Rude and Disrespectful People

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How to Deal With Rude and Disrespectful People

 

While many people that you will interact with on a daily basis will be friendly and polite, it is not uncommon to come across rude and disrespectful people too from time to time. Whether it is at work, taking public transportation, or simply going for a walk – not everyone you meet will always be friendly!

So, how do you respond to people who might be rude or disrespectful to you? The best thing that you can do is to remain calm and keep your cool. Falling into the trap of becoming equally-rude will not help anyone.

That being said, it is not always easy to do the right thing when you come across these people in your day-to-day life. So, let’s go over a few useful tips that you can use the next time you interact with someone who is disrespectful or rude to you.

Don’t Assume the Worst

It can easy to label someone who is rude or unkind to you right away. But, it is important to remember that no one is perfect, and everyone has bad days. Think about a time when you may have been a little disrespectful to someone. You wouldn’t want someone else to judge you based on one poor interaction, would you?

You never know what someone might be going through. Try to give people the benefit of the doubt, even if they are disrespectful toward you. In doing so, you are more likely to remain calm and kind. That kind of attitude may even rub off on the rude individual, and make their day a bit brighter.

Remove Yourself From the Situation

Often, when someone is rude to us, it can be tempting to stick around and argue, or at least defend ourselves. Unfortunately, that rarely solves any of the drama, and often makes it worse.

Things people say can be hurtful and discouraging. But, walking away and dropping the conversation can keep things from getting even worse. You will likely even keep yourself from saying something you might later regret.

Walking away allows for emotions to calm down instead of escalating. If the rude person is someone you know, you can always talk with them later when they are in a more stable state of mind and you can have a respectful conversation.

You Can’t Break a Habit

Some people are rude once in awhile because they are having a bad day. For others, it’s a real habit. They are disrespectful because that is simply how they have acted for a long time. Unfortunately, it is a hard habit to break, and you can’t force someone to change their ways.

It is important to understand that if someone is habitually rude, you should never take it personally. Again, disrespectful talk can be very hurtful, and it can be very hard not to feel attacked and take it personally when someone is rude to you. But, if someone is struggling with their rudeness, they likely say things without even thinking. You can’t put too much stock in those words, so don’t let them bring you down!

Be an Example

Rude behavior is contagious. With that in mind, it is important not to respond to a disrespectful person with more disrespect. As hard as it might be at first, responding to rude behavior with kindness and positivity – can be just as contagious!

Whether you are dealing with a friend, co-worker, or even a waiter at a restaurant, always choose kindness and compassion over disrespect and rudeness, no matter how that person may be treating you. Instead of letting their bad attitude change the way you act, let your positive one change the way they are acting. Again, you cannot force change when it comes to someone’s rude behavior. But, leading by example can make a big difference.

Offer to Help

Consider someone’s rude behavior from an analytical perspective. Why are they being rude? Are they having a bad day? Did something happen to them? If it is someone that you know and someone that you are comfortable with, you might consider asking them if they’re okay?

Habitual rudeness is one thing, but if someone usually has a positive personality that has suddenly changed, it is likely due to a negative experience or stressful time in their life. Sometimes, offering to help or lending a hand in some way can be exactly what that individual needs.

People often use rudeness or anger as a way to mask the hurt and struggle that they are feeling inside. Breaking down that barrier by offering your support can be the first step in that individual turning things around for the better.

Understanding the Difference Between Rudeness and Harassment

There’s a fine line between someone being rude to you and someone harassing you. While it is important to remain on an even keel when dealing with rude people, you don’t have to (and shouldn’t) accept any kind of harassment.

If you feel personally threatened or that you are in a hostile environment, you must stick up for yourself or report the incident to the proper authorities. Typically, your instincts will let you know the difference between rudeness and harassment.

When it comes to dealing with rude and disrespectful people, it is best to avoid drama as much as possible. Stay firmly-rooted in your own emotions and actions, and don’t let the actions of others drag you down. Instead, work on being a person that can bring those people up!

You will undoubtedly cross paths with rude and disrespectful people now and then. Whether you know them personally or not, “dealing” with them doesn’t require much. By staying calm, showing kindness and letting your positivity shine through, you could do more for those people than you realize.

 

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8 Ways to Take Care of Yourself Every Day

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Self-care is a term that gets thrown around a lot lately, to the point where it’s easy to ignore or blow it off as some kind of “buzz word”. But, it’s so much more than that, and when you are willing to take self-care seriously, you might just start to see how much easier it will be to get through each day. (more…)

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The Practice of Ho’oponopono Can Clear Stress and Negativity from Your Life

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One method of reducing stress that you may not have heard of before is the Hawaiian practice of Ho’oponopono. Many of us deal with some level of stress on a regular basis. While it is almost impossible to get rid of stress completely from your life, there are many effective ways to reduce it. Too much stress can cause a variety of negative health issues, these include:

  • Heart disease
  • Headaches
  • Nausea
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Diabetes

Ho’oponopono originated in Hawaii, and translates directly into English as “correction” or “to make right”. The practice focuses on reconciliation and forgiveness by using an affirmation to clear the mind of any negative thoughts and stress.

The benefits to someone who practices Ho’oponopono regularly are:

  • Reduction of stress
  • Improvement in physical and mental health
  • Improved relationships with others
  • Control over emotions
  • A happier/more positive life

How Does Ho’oponopono Work?

Ho’ponopono does not require much teaching or practice, yet it is powerful for getting rid of bad memories or feelings. Ho’oponopono is a simple practice that allows you to release negativity that is being held within you. It also sends out the desire for reconciliation into the universe. This is achieved by using just four easy steps. The steps of H’oponopono are:

1. I’m Sorry: In life, it can be very easy to feel like the victim. We are often quick to blame other people or other circumstances for our own negative thoughts. In reality, you are in control of your thoughts. You are responsible for the negative feelings that have manifested inside. It is not always easy to admit that you have allowed your consciousness to introduce those negative thoughts – and that you have believed them. By saying sorry, you are recognizing that you are responsible for the negative thoughts or emotions that you might have. Apologizing to yourself has a powerful healing power and will help you to move on with your life.

2. Forgive Me: Once you have said that you are sorry, forgiveness is the next natural step. Don’t think so much about who you’re asking to forgive you. Instead, focus on the feeling of genuine remorse as you ask for that forgiveness.

3. Thank You: Gratitude has the power to completely change your outlook in life. Thank a friend, thank yourself, thank the universe or God or whoever you want to. The more that you are grateful, the more things you will have to be grateful for. Get into the habit of being more grateful every day.

4. I Love You: There is perhaps nothing more powerful in the world than the power of love. It doesn’t matter who the words are spoken to as long as the feeling behind them is genuine. Love yourself, your body, the air that you breathe, the world around you and all of the people in it. The power of love has the power to heal and banish any negative thoughts and stress from our lives.

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Why is Ho’oponopono So Powerful?

I’m sorry. Forgive me. Thank you. I love you.

So, what makes these simple affirmations so powerful?

You will probably agree that the four healing affirmations of Ho’oponopono are all positive things. When you can don’t have to convince yourself of that, and you just naturally “know” it, it is easier to push away negative thoughts and block out stress by filling yourself with love and gratitude.

Making Ho’oponopono a Habit

Because the affirmations of Ho’oponopono are universally accepted, anyone can put them into practice and allow them to change the way that they think and feel. Whether you use the affirmations as a daily reminder to yourself, or you focus on each of the four areas individually in order to rid yourself of negativity, they can make a big difference in your life. Stress will always be there and ignoring it will only make things worse. By recognizing that no other person or situation has control over your thoughts, you can feel more confident in getting rid of any negativity and stress that might be affecting you.

Start by realizing the importance of self, and how your negative connotations toward others or toward external factors could be controlling you more than you think. Once you start looking inward instead of outward, you can start to re-gain control over which thoughts you choose to listen to and which thoughts you choose to ignore. Always remember, the power to clear away stress and negativity starts from within.

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