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9 Things To Stop Worrying About!

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9 Things To Stop Worrying About!

Worrying is seriously bad for your health, and I mean seriously bad. It can cause anxiety, loss of appetite, headaches, stress in our relationships, have a negative effect on our job performance, cause high blood pressure, and deprive us of sleep. Excessive worrying can be very stressful and stress is a killer!

Many of us have spent days and nights worrying about many different things in our lives only for the situation to pass, and for a voice in our head to tell us that we should not have worried at all.

I am certainly no stranger to worrying either; I have tortured myself in the past, worrying about job security, paying the bills, finding my passion, following my dreams and so many other things over the years. Every worry and drama that my mind had built up came and passed, and do you know what? I survived every situation. My only regret is that I wish I never lost a moment’s sleep over any one of them. Yes, I survived being unemployed during a recession; I have traveled to more countries since taking a cut in salary than I ever did before, I always found a way to pay my bills, and I am currently in the process of following my dreams.

Here is a list of 9 Things You Should Stop Worrying About Now.

Other Peoples Opinions Of You

This is the one I feel the strongest about. Please, for your own piece of mind, stop worrying about what other people think about you. What you think about yourself is what matters the most. So please cut out, cut off and disregard what anyone else thinks about you. Don’t let anyone else dictate your life for you. You deserve so much more than that.

Your Mistakes

We all make mistakes. We have all made choices in life that when we look back now we wish we had made a different decision. But do you know what? Life goes on. Yeah, you might have messed up. You might have made a bad choice, but then again who hasn’t? Dust yourself off and just move on. We all know that some of the greatest lessons  of life are learned from our mistakes.

Your Past

We have all faced obstacles and challenges in our past. But there is no need to run from or be ashamed of who you are, or where you came from. So stop letting what happened to you distract you from your exciting goals of the future. Learn from your struggles, and learn to just fight harder next time. The only way you can continue to be harmed by something that already happened is if you let it do so.

 

9 Things To Stop Worrying About!

Your Future

Two lessons that I learned about the future are, you cannot predict it, and you cannot control it. So, Stop worrying about the future because you are missing out on the best time of your life, and that is in the here and now. Focus on today and what you can do to live life to the fullest.

Your Bills

In the past I worried if I would have enough money to pay the mortgage or the electricity bills on time. I look back now and I remember having sleepless nights and almost going into bad health because of bills! Was I mad? For sure I paid some bills a few weeks later than I hoped. But instead of worrying about being able to pay my bills on time, I should have used my energy to organize my finances. I only sorted my finances out when I got my act together, got serious, and put together a personal finance plan. I temporally cut cable TV; I stopped smoking forever and going to the coffee shop two times a day. Only then could I pay all of my bills, pay off my credit card and begin to actually save for the future.

 

9 Things To Stop Worrying About!

Social Media

Only the other day, I heard one of the guys in work saying ‘The link that I shared only got three likes from my friends!’ We are living in a time when many people are seeking approval from social media. Their selfies that are posted, tweeted and pinned are now blemish free thanks to modern day apps where we can look years younger and wrinkle free. When I meet many of my friends, they all seem to look ten years older than their retouched images posted online. Stop posing, stop pouting and just be you. Take a look in the mirror, that is who you really are. People want to see the real you, not posed, not perfect, just you. Anyone who doesn’t like it, that is their loss, not yours.

 

9 Things To Stop Worrying About!

Having ‘The Perfect Body’

You have the perfect body for YOU and that is all that matters. Stop striving for perfection, it just doesn’t exist. Try to eat as healthy as you can, stay in shape and improve your health by working out. Once a while, if  you want reach for the Doritos and order a pizza go for it! Enjoy yourself. Everyone deserves a treat.

Your Job

We leave school or college looking forward to the joys and rewards of having a job. Only to be confronted by challenges such as bullying, job security, pressure, targets and deadlines. We have been programmed that ‘we are lucky to have a job.’ Well I am of the opinion that if you work hard, don’t cause any trouble, arrive on time and get your job done, well then “they” are lucky to have you! You are not defined by your job; you define who you are. Don’t give up on your dreams, your passion or yourself. Follow your heart and go for it.

 

9 Things To Stop Worrying About!

Getting Old

Getting older is a part of life. You have more experience and you are wiser now than you have ever been before. Stop worrying about the odd grey hair or wrinkle, instead just enjoy the present where you exist in right now. You’ll only be this old once, so do all the amazing things that you always wanted to do. Stop wishing you were younger. Go and live your life to the fullest.

 

I have found that using my journal to write my thoughts down on paper really helps me. It helps me to focus on what really matters in life. I also make a habit to start each day by writing down three things that I am grateful for. The roof over my head, my health, my wife, my family, my positivity, my home… the list goes on and on.
Once you change your focus from the negative to the positive and stop worrying you will see that you have no reason in the world to be worried. Stop worrying, live your life, embrace it and enjoy every moment.

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

Have you ever had moments where you feel completely inadequate? Maybe a specific situation comes up and you think there is no way that you would ever be good enough to do what is needed. Or, maybe you feel that way all the time and you can’t seem to get past it.

Thinking that you are not good enough and having low self-esteem tend to go hand-in-hand, but they are slightly different.

Thankfully, you can work on both of them by changing your thinking habits and banishing some of that negative self-talk from your mindset. Whether you think you are not good enough in certain situations or you have a hard time believing that you are good enough for almost anything, it doesn’t have to be that way forever.

Let’s look at a few things you should always keep in mind when those thoughts come in, and how you can start to convince yourself of your true worth.

1. You Are Not Alone

Thinking that you are not good enough can cause a lonely existence. You might not want to put your burdens on others, so you don’t talk about it. You might also think that everyone else is perfectly happy with who they are, and are confident in everything that they do.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

The reality is, you never know what other people are fully thinking/feeling. What you can count on, though, is that there are so many others who feel just like you, and are constantly wondering if they are “enough”. Knowing that you are not alone can help you to work through your feelings without feeling so isolated.

2. You Have Your Own Skills

A common reason why people tend to think they are not good enough is because they don’t have a specific talent or skill that someone else has. But you probably have something that person doesn’t, too.

Everyone has their own abilities and things that make them unique. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, keep your mind on your talents and what makes you special.

“If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you!” – T. Harv Eker

3. You Can’t Be Perfect

Perfection is a fruitless thing to chase. Many people who question their self-worth do so because they are perfectionists.

But, if you set such a high standard for yourself, you will always be disappointed. Perfection doesn’t exist, and while you can strive to be your best, it is important to understand human error and limits. That doesn’t mean the things you do are some how “less” than great. But, striving for perfection is something that can make you feel inadequate.

4. You Are Worthy of Loving Yourself

Love tends to be the answer for so many things, including any pain or turmoil that you might be going through. Thinking that you are not good enough is an easy way to cause yourself sadness and pain. Those thoughts can quickly snowball and you might start to think about more negative things about yourself.

Instead of fueling those negative thoughts, choose love. Love is like a permanent band-aid for the pain that you are going through. It is a great way to comfort yourself, provide reassurance, and get a clearer picture of who you really are and all of the wonderful things that you can offer the world. By choosing self-love, you can start to see yourself in a more positive light, and push those negative thoughts away.

“We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself.” – Mae West

5. Mistakes Can Be a Good Thing

Do you ever find yourself feeling especially inadequate when you “fail”? While that is not uncommon, that word should really be removed from your vocabulary.

Everyone “fails” at times, because again, perfection is not attainable. When you start to consider anything less than perfection to be a failure, it is easy to beat yourself up and think that you will never amount to the things that you truly want.

But, when you start to view your failures and mistakes as good things and stepping stones, you can completely shift your perspective and realize that not only are you good enough, but you are also resilient and strong. Some of the biggest “failures” in history went on to be the most successful people because they learned from their mistakes. They looked at the things that went wrong and considered how they could change them.

It is important to use your mistakes as a way to learn and grow. When you are able to do that, you will find a greater sense of fulfillment when things finally come together and you get it “right”.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordon

6. Gratitude Goes a Long Way

It might not always feel easy to accept and be grateful for who you are. But, it is incredibly important. Instead of thinking about the things you don’t have or areas where you are not “good enough”, choose to actively think about and pursue the positive. Focus on what you are grateful for. The more that you do that, the easier it will be to banish those thoughts of doubt and insecurity. I like to start every day by using my journal and begin by writing down three things that I am grateful for.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie

Once you really start to think about it, you will find that you have more to be grateful for than you may have initially realized, and that way of thinking can help you to establish healthier, more positive thoughts about yourself that will last a lifetime.

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

What are existential questions?

Existential questions are usually deep, philosophical questions that question just that — our very existence.

They can be great conversation starters and they can also sometimes make for a passionate discussion. The following existential questions can be a great way to get to know someone better and perhaps even learn new things about yourself.

The word existential comes from the Latin word “existentia”, which means to exist. Existential questions challenge our way of thinking, our beliefs and our perspective.

Is there a right or wrong answer to an existential question? Perhaps not, as each question usually just asks more questions.

I have put together the following list of thought provoking existential questions so that you can perhaps start an internal conversation with yourself or start an interesting debate with your friends.

50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

 

1. Are there limits to human creativity?

2. What makes something beautiful?

3. How do we know if we’re doing the right thing?

4. Who am I?

5. What is one thing that every human should get to experience in their life?

6. Do you believe in a power greater than humanity?

7. Are we given enough time?

8. Is privacy a right?

9. What is the best way for a person to attain happiness?

10. Are we alone in the universe?

11. What is love?

12. How would you define genius?

13. What do you think your purpose is?

14. If babies are considered innocent, when do people cease to be innocent?

15. Is it better to expand your knowledge or to deepen it?

16. Why do you think we are here?

17. How important is ‘play’ in living a healthy and fulfilling life?

18. Do you have a right to be happy, or should you earn it?

19. What happens when I die?

20. What worries me the most about the future?

21. What is a person? Is it the mind, or the body?

22. Would the world be a better place if all leaders were women? If you answered yes, why?

23. What activity have I done that has made me feel the most alive?

24. Does truth exist without evidence?

25. If I had to instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would I give?

26. Does a person have a soul? If so, where is it?

27. Is intelligence or wisdom more useful?

28. Is it more important to love or be loved?

29. What would make the world a better place?

30. How should we measure our lives? In years? In moments? In accomplishments? Something else?

31. What is the difference between living and simply existing?

32. If you died today, would you be satisfied with the life you’ve lived?

33. What advice would you tell your younger self?

34. Which is worse: failing or never trying?

35. Is a minimum wage a good idea? What about a maximum wage?

36. What is the most important goal every person should have?

37. Can anything ever really be considered ‘true’ or is everything subjective?

38. Is the world a better place with humans in it?

39. If extra-terrestrial life was discovered, how do you think humanity would react?

40. Is happiness just a mixture of chemicals circulating through our bodies?

41. Where do you think we go when we die?

42. Have I done anything lately worth remembering?

43. Can you ever have full control over your own life?

44. How do you know that you are not dreaming right now?

45. Is one lifetime enough?

46. What matters most in my life?

47. Is a person ever truly evil? If so, are they born that way?

48. What is the meaning of life?

49. Is humanity going in the right or wrong direction?

50. What does it mean to live a good life?

I hope that you enjoyed these thought provoking existential questions. I hope that they perhaps made you think about your beliefs, yourself and the world around you (the bigger picture). If you discuss these questions with a friend, remember, there is probably no right and wrong answers, usually just a matter of opinion.

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

I clearly remember when I was 18, then 25 and in then what seems like a flash, I have recently celebrated by 50th birthday. While some people might dread the thoughts of hitting such a milestone. (more…)

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