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7 Reasons to Start Loving Yourself More!

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7 Reasons to Start Loving Yourself More!

Everyone notices things about themselves that they wish they could change. Whether those changes are physical, emotional, or even changes to your personality, it is easy to understand that none of us are ‘perfect.’ But, there is a difference between recognizing our flaws and not giving ourselves enough love.

It can be easy for most people to put their time and energy into loving others. It makes us feel good and appreciated. That is a natural reaction, but if you are constantly pouring yourselves into the happiness and love of others you could be ignoring someone very important: You.

So, what is the big deal about loving yourself? It can do more for your general mindset and well-being than you might think. There are many benefits to loving yourself more, and it is easy to get started right away so you can reap the rewards! Understanding more about yourself can change so many things about your life. Let’s look at some of the best reasons you should start practicing more self-love today.

1. You Are Strong

Everyone goes through hardships in life, and they are all different. Some people have been through more struggles than others. If you have gone through a difficult time and made it out on the other side, that is something to recognize! You are stronger than you probably give yourself credit for.

But, it doesn’t take a life-changing event to realize your own strength. Something as simple as raising a child every day or dealing with a difficult job proves your endless strength. Recognize that strength within you and learn to love your immovable foundation.

2. You Are Unique

Your uniqueness makes you who you are. Far too often we look at our individuality and our ‘quirks’ as flaws. Instead, you should love the things that are specific to you. No one else has them, and you never know who could be envious of something about yourself that you consider to be less than perfect. When you embrace your unique qualities, you will be able to let them shine even more and exude confidence.

3. You Have Talent

It is easy to see certain obvious talents other people have and compare yourself to them. You might think that just because you can’t do something like play a sport or a musical instrument that you don’t have any talents to offer the world.

The good news? Everyone has at least one talent – usually more! Sometimes we can confuse the things we wish we were good at, with the talents we actually have. You may not have discovered what your true talent is yet, or you may just not realize how good you are at something! If you feel like you don’t have any talents to offer, try asking a close friend or family member what they think your talents might be. There is a good chance they will give you a list about yourself that you may have never recognized otherwise.

4. You Have the Perfect Body

One of the biggest downfalls we face in loving ourselves is body image. Far too often we compare ourselves to images we see on TV, movies, or in glossy magazines. We feel pressured to look a certain way and feel as though we can never live up to society’s standards of body perfection.

The way you look already should be considered your standard of body perfection. Every curve, line, and bump is absolutely perfect because it is unique to you! Your body is just another expression of your beautiful individuality and uniqueness. Again, no one else has the same body as you. Embrace your body because it is the only one like it in the entire world.

5. You Are A Loving Person

People who don’t often value or love themselves are busy showing a ton of love to others! That, in and of itself, is an incredible characteristic to have. You have a lot of love to give, and there is a good chance people recognize that about you easily. Think about what other people might say about you when describing your character.

Since you have so much love to give, now is the time to start loving yourself, too! You might be surprised that the more self-love you are able to show, the better you will be able to show it to others, too.

6. You Have a Unique Perspective

One of the best reasons for loving yourself more is your own perspective. You may hear things in music like no one else does. You see colors a certain way, find interesting ways to describe your food, and let your imagination take flight when you read a good book. No one has the exact same perspective as you. Because of that, you can choose to keep your perspective on things positive. The entire world is up to your personal interpretation. If you love your life, you can love yourself!

7. Other People Love You

Even if you are not able to fully realize it, other people truly love and care for you. It’s your closest friends and family members who probably want you to love yourself more than anyone else. If the shoe were on the other foot, and someone you cared for didn’t love themselves, how would it make you feel? That’s likely how those closest to you feel about your relationship with yourself.

Because other people love you, you deserve to love yourself too. You actually owe it to yourself to start giving yourself as much care as others give you, and as much love as you want to give them in return.

Some of the reasons in this article might seem obvious to you, while you may have never thought about some of them before. Whatever the case, there are so many more reasons to start loving yourself more, and the best part is that you can start right now. The bottom line? You deserve as much love from yourself as anyone else. Allowing yourself to feel that kind of love might be challenging at first, but once you take the time to do it, you can be completely transformed.

I really hope you enjoyed this article.

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

Have you ever had moments where you feel completely inadequate? Maybe a specific situation comes up and you think there is no way that you would ever be good enough to do what is needed. Or, maybe you feel that way all the time and you can’t seem to get past it.

Thinking that you are not good enough and having low self-esteem tend to go hand-in-hand, but they are slightly different.

Thankfully, you can work on both of them by changing your thinking habits and banishing some of that negative self-talk from your mindset. Whether you think you are not good enough in certain situations or you have a hard time believing that you are good enough for almost anything, it doesn’t have to be that way forever.

Let’s look at a few things you should always keep in mind when those thoughts come in, and how you can start to convince yourself of your true worth.

1. You Are Not Alone

Thinking that you are not good enough can cause a lonely existence. You might not want to put your burdens on others, so you don’t talk about it. You might also think that everyone else is perfectly happy with who they are, and are confident in everything that they do.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

The reality is, you never know what other people are fully thinking/feeling. What you can count on, though, is that there are so many others who feel just like you, and are constantly wondering if they are “enough”. Knowing that you are not alone can help you to work through your feelings without feeling so isolated.

2. You Have Your Own Skills

A common reason why people tend to think they are not good enough is because they don’t have a specific talent or skill that someone else has. But you probably have something that person doesn’t, too.

Everyone has their own abilities and things that make them unique. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, keep your mind on your talents and what makes you special.

“If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you!” – T. Harv Eker

3. You Can’t Be Perfect

Perfection is a fruitless thing to chase. Many people who question their self-worth do so because they are perfectionists.

But, if you set such a high standard for yourself, you will always be disappointed. Perfection doesn’t exist, and while you can strive to be your best, it is important to understand human error and limits. That doesn’t mean the things you do are some how “less” than great. But, striving for perfection is something that can make you feel inadequate.

4. You Are Worthy of Loving Yourself

Love tends to be the answer for so many things, including any pain or turmoil that you might be going through. Thinking that you are not good enough is an easy way to cause yourself sadness and pain. Those thoughts can quickly snowball and you might start to think about more negative things about yourself.

Instead of fueling those negative thoughts, choose love. Love is like a permanent band-aid for the pain that you are going through. It is a great way to comfort yourself, provide reassurance, and get a clearer picture of who you really are and all of the wonderful things that you can offer the world. By choosing self-love, you can start to see yourself in a more positive light, and push those negative thoughts away.

“We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself.” – Mae West

5. Mistakes Can Be a Good Thing

Do you ever find yourself feeling especially inadequate when you “fail”? While that is not uncommon, that word should really be removed from your vocabulary.

Everyone “fails” at times, because again, perfection is not attainable. When you start to consider anything less than perfection to be a failure, it is easy to beat yourself up and think that you will never amount to the things that you truly want.

But, when you start to view your failures and mistakes as good things and stepping stones, you can completely shift your perspective and realize that not only are you good enough, but you are also resilient and strong. Some of the biggest “failures” in history went on to be the most successful people because they learned from their mistakes. They looked at the things that went wrong and considered how they could change them.

It is important to use your mistakes as a way to learn and grow. When you are able to do that, you will find a greater sense of fulfillment when things finally come together and you get it “right”.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordon

6. Gratitude Goes a Long Way

It might not always feel easy to accept and be grateful for who you are. But, it is incredibly important. Instead of thinking about the things you don’t have or areas where you are not “good enough”, choose to actively think about and pursue the positive. Focus on what you are grateful for. The more that you do that, the easier it will be to banish those thoughts of doubt and insecurity. I like to start every day by using my journal and begin by writing down three things that I am grateful for.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie

Once you really start to think about it, you will find that you have more to be grateful for than you may have initially realized, and that way of thinking can help you to establish healthier, more positive thoughts about yourself that will last a lifetime.

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

What are existential questions?

Existential questions are usually deep, philosophical questions that question just that — our very existence.

They can be great conversation starters and they can also sometimes make for a passionate discussion. The following existential questions can be a great way to get to know someone better and perhaps even learn new things about yourself.

The word existential comes from the Latin word “existentia”, which means to exist. Existential questions challenge our way of thinking, our beliefs and our perspective.

Is there a right or wrong answer to an existential question? Perhaps not, as each question usually just asks more questions.

I have put together the following list of thought provoking existential questions so that you can perhaps start an internal conversation with yourself or start an interesting debate with your friends.

50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

 

1. Are there limits to human creativity?

2. What makes something beautiful?

3. How do we know if we’re doing the right thing?

4. Who am I?

5. What is one thing that every human should get to experience in their life?

6. Do you believe in a power greater than humanity?

7. Are we given enough time?

8. Is privacy a right?

9. What is the best way for a person to attain happiness?

10. Are we alone in the universe?

11. What is love?

12. How would you define genius?

13. What do you think your purpose is?

14. If babies are considered innocent, when do people cease to be innocent?

15. Is it better to expand your knowledge or to deepen it?

16. Why do you think we are here?

17. How important is ‘play’ in living a healthy and fulfilling life?

18. Do you have a right to be happy, or should you earn it?

19. What happens when I die?

20. What worries me the most about the future?

21. What is a person? Is it the mind, or the body?

22. Would the world be a better place if all leaders were women? If you answered yes, why?

23. What activity have I done that has made me feel the most alive?

24. Does truth exist without evidence?

25. If I had to instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would I give?

26. Does a person have a soul? If so, where is it?

27. Is intelligence or wisdom more useful?

28. Is it more important to love or be loved?

29. What would make the world a better place?

30. How should we measure our lives? In years? In moments? In accomplishments? Something else?

31. What is the difference between living and simply existing?

32. If you died today, would you be satisfied with the life you’ve lived?

33. What advice would you tell your younger self?

34. Which is worse: failing or never trying?

35. Is a minimum wage a good idea? What about a maximum wage?

36. What is the most important goal every person should have?

37. Can anything ever really be considered ‘true’ or is everything subjective?

38. Is the world a better place with humans in it?

39. If extra-terrestrial life was discovered, how do you think humanity would react?

40. Is happiness just a mixture of chemicals circulating through our bodies?

41. Where do you think we go when we die?

42. Have I done anything lately worth remembering?

43. Can you ever have full control over your own life?

44. How do you know that you are not dreaming right now?

45. Is one lifetime enough?

46. What matters most in my life?

47. Is a person ever truly evil? If so, are they born that way?

48. What is the meaning of life?

49. Is humanity going in the right or wrong direction?

50. What does it mean to live a good life?

I hope that you enjoyed these thought provoking existential questions. I hope that they perhaps made you think about your beliefs, yourself and the world around you (the bigger picture). If you discuss these questions with a friend, remember, there is probably no right and wrong answers, usually just a matter of opinion.

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

I clearly remember when I was 18, then 25 and in then what seems like a flash, I have recently celebrated by 50th birthday. While some people might dread the thoughts of hitting such a milestone. (more…)

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