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18 Things To Let Go Of In 2018

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18 Things To Let Go Of In 2018

With the New Year fast approaching sometimes comes thoughts of making New Year’s resolutions. Whether you make a resolution every year or not, they are not always that easy to keep. In fact, many of us end up ‘giving up’ on the resolutions that we planned by the time Spring time comes around.

So, as we get closer to 2018, why not take a different approach to a resolution? Instead of giving yourself a lofty goal that might seem a bit overwhelming at times, think of the things that you can let go of. Letting go of certain things from your life can make a major positive difference in how you feel. Plus, because you are just getting rid of several small things, it is less likely that you will feel overwhelmed, or as though your goals are impossible to achieve.

Let’s take a look at 18 things that you should let go of in 2018. Throw out as many of these negative or weighty aspects of your life as possible, and you could end up having your best year yet!

1. Negative Self-Talk

Before you start letting go of the things surrounding you, you have to look at yourself. Let this be the year where you lift yourself up, and stop putting yourself down. Rid negative self-talk from your vocabulary, and you will be sure to start feeling more confident and positive about yourself.

2. Negative Friends

After you look at yourself, take a look at your close inner circle. Are any of your friends bringing you down, or holding you back in some way? Sometimes, we do not realize the negative impact those closest to us can have on our well-being. It can be a hard decision to make, but sometimes it is necessary to purge the negative relationships from your life.

3. Spending Money

Money is a necessary evil, and everyone seems to want more and to spend even more than they have. Make this the year where you stop spending money excessively. It can be a struggle at first, but by creating a solid spending plan, and cutting out any impulsive purchases will make it much easier. By the end of the year, you will be surprised at just how much money you may have saved!

4. Overindulging

We live in a world where it is easy to say ‘I deserve this.’ While it is okay to treat yourself once in awhile, let go of overindulging on things like food, alcohol, or even big expenses. You will feel better, look better, and you will have more confidence in your willpower in the future.

5. The Past

It is not always easy to ‘forgive and forget.’ But, holding onto negativity from the past can really drag down your present and future. Do your best to let go of anything bad that may have happened to you in the past, and start with a clean slate.

6. Over Scheduling

As a society, we seem to be busier than ever. It is easy to want to cram as much as possible into your days. This year, try to clear up your schedule so that you can have more time for yourself and the things that you enjoy to do.

7. Always Saying “Yes”

People-pleasing can be a huge problem for some people. It is one thing to want to make others happy. That’s normal, and compassionate. But, when you continuously go out of your way to please others, even if it’s at your own expense, you can sometimes be get taken advantage of. Choose what you say ‘yes’ to carefully. Don’t let your mouth overload your back.

8. Taking It Personally

It can be easy to hear something someone says and take immediate offense. Whether a comment is directed at you or not, try not to take everything so personally. When you are able to do that, you will feel a weight lifted off your shoulders.

9. Social Media Impact

It is not easy to let go of social media altogether. But, try getting rid of its overall importance in your life. Let it take a back seat to real experiences, and real interactions with the people around you.

10. Technology

Letting go of technology, as a whole might be impossible. But, like social media, it shouldn’t take over your life. Make a conscious effort to spend more time without watching TV or having your cell phone glued to your hand, even if you have to put your phone out of reach and keep your TV switched off for longer periods of time. When you lessen your dependency on technology, you will be able to experience so much more going on around you.

11. Comparing

Don’t compare yourself to other people. No matter how much confidence you have, you will always find something that won’t quite ‘measure up.’ It’s not worth your time or effort. Instead just try to be the very best version of yourself.

12. Saying “I Can’t”

This is different from negative self-talk: It is a matter of talking yourself out of doing things. Be open to new experiences and possibilities and don’t let feelings of “I can’t” get in the way of the many things that you can do this year.

13. Letting Others Make Your Choices

Sometimes, it is easy to let others walk all over us. Let this be the year where you take control of your life and make more of your own decisions, big and small. By making your own choices you will build your confidence as you do so, even through the triumphs and the occasional struggle.

14. Making Excuses

If you need to get things done, get them done. If you need to go somewhere, go there. Stop making excuses for yourself, and focus on individual goals and tasks. You can complete them without excuses getting in your way.

15. Gossiping

Talking about others will never make you feel better about yourself. And, you could lose good friends in the process. Stop the gossip and negative chatter from your conversations.

16. Putting Fear in Control

Kick your fears to the curb this year! Take more chances and take control by diminishing the fears that have paralyzed you from doing what you want to do in the past. Make 2018 the year that you really start to believe in yourself!

17. Procrastination

You will likely find that by letting go of some things like technology, social media, etc., will make it much easier for you to get rid of procrastination and putting things off that need to get done. 2018 is the year to just do it!

18. Putting Down Others

Like gossiping, putting down others will not make you feel better about yourself. In fact, you will likely feel much better about yourself when you stop doing it.

Don’t limit yourself to just this list alone – This is a ‘starter pack’ to make 2018 your best year ever. Take a look at your life, and consider the things you could let go of that will benefit you and take action.

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

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6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough

Have you ever had moments where you feel completely inadequate? Maybe a specific situation comes up and you think there is no way that you would ever be good enough to do what is needed. Or, maybe you feel that way all the time and you can’t seem to get past it.

Thinking that you are not good enough and having low self-esteem tend to go hand-in-hand, but they are slightly different.

Thankfully, you can work on both of them by changing your thinking habits and banishing some of that negative self-talk from your mindset. Whether you think you are not good enough in certain situations or you have a hard time believing that you are good enough for almost anything, it doesn’t have to be that way forever.

Let’s look at a few things you should always keep in mind when those thoughts come in, and how you can start to convince yourself of your true worth.

1. You Are Not Alone

Thinking that you are not good enough can cause a lonely existence. You might not want to put your burdens on others, so you don’t talk about it. You might also think that everyone else is perfectly happy with who they are, and are confident in everything that they do.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

The reality is, you never know what other people are fully thinking/feeling. What you can count on, though, is that there are so many others who feel just like you, and are constantly wondering if they are “enough”. Knowing that you are not alone can help you to work through your feelings without feeling so isolated.

2. You Have Your Own Skills

A common reason why people tend to think they are not good enough is because they don’t have a specific talent or skill that someone else has. But you probably have something that person doesn’t, too.

Everyone has their own abilities and things that make them unique. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, keep your mind on your talents and what makes you special.

“If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you!” – T. Harv Eker

3. You Can’t Be Perfect

Perfection is a fruitless thing to chase. Many people who question their self-worth do so because they are perfectionists.

But, if you set such a high standard for yourself, you will always be disappointed. Perfection doesn’t exist, and while you can strive to be your best, it is important to understand human error and limits. That doesn’t mean the things you do are some how “less” than great. But, striving for perfection is something that can make you feel inadequate.

4. You Are Worthy of Loving Yourself

Love tends to be the answer for so many things, including any pain or turmoil that you might be going through. Thinking that you are not good enough is an easy way to cause yourself sadness and pain. Those thoughts can quickly snowball and you might start to think about more negative things about yourself.

Instead of fueling those negative thoughts, choose love. Love is like a permanent band-aid for the pain that you are going through. It is a great way to comfort yourself, provide reassurance, and get a clearer picture of who you really are and all of the wonderful things that you can offer the world. By choosing self-love, you can start to see yourself in a more positive light, and push those negative thoughts away.

“We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself.” – Mae West

5. Mistakes Can Be a Good Thing

Do you ever find yourself feeling especially inadequate when you “fail”? While that is not uncommon, that word should really be removed from your vocabulary.

Everyone “fails” at times, because again, perfection is not attainable. When you start to consider anything less than perfection to be a failure, it is easy to beat yourself up and think that you will never amount to the things that you truly want.

But, when you start to view your failures and mistakes as good things and stepping stones, you can completely shift your perspective and realize that not only are you good enough, but you are also resilient and strong. Some of the biggest “failures” in history went on to be the most successful people because they learned from their mistakes. They looked at the things that went wrong and considered how they could change them.

It is important to use your mistakes as a way to learn and grow. When you are able to do that, you will find a greater sense of fulfillment when things finally come together and you get it “right”.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordon

6. Gratitude Goes a Long Way

It might not always feel easy to accept and be grateful for who you are. But, it is incredibly important. Instead of thinking about the things you don’t have or areas where you are not “good enough”, choose to actively think about and pursue the positive. Focus on what you are grateful for. The more that you do that, the easier it will be to banish those thoughts of doubt and insecurity. I like to start every day by using my journal and begin by writing down three things that I am grateful for.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie

Once you really start to think about it, you will find that you have more to be grateful for than you may have initially realized, and that way of thinking can help you to establish healthier, more positive thoughts about yourself that will last a lifetime.

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

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50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

What are existential questions?

Existential questions are usually deep, philosophical questions that question just that — our very existence.

They can be great conversation starters and they can also sometimes make for a passionate discussion. The following existential questions can be a great way to get to know someone better and perhaps even learn new things about yourself.

The word existential comes from the Latin word “existentia”, which means to exist. Existential questions challenge our way of thinking, our beliefs and our perspective.

Is there a right or wrong answer to an existential question? Perhaps not, as each question usually just asks more questions.

I have put together the following list of thought provoking existential questions so that you can perhaps start an internal conversation with yourself or start an interesting debate with your friends.

50 Thought Provoking Existential Questions

 

1. Are there limits to human creativity?

2. What makes something beautiful?

3. How do we know if we’re doing the right thing?

4. Who am I?

5. What is one thing that every human should get to experience in their life?

6. Do you believe in a power greater than humanity?

7. Are we given enough time?

8. Is privacy a right?

9. What is the best way for a person to attain happiness?

10. Are we alone in the universe?

11. What is love?

12. How would you define genius?

13. What do you think your purpose is?

14. If babies are considered innocent, when do people cease to be innocent?

15. Is it better to expand your knowledge or to deepen it?

16. Why do you think we are here?

17. How important is ‘play’ in living a healthy and fulfilling life?

18. Do you have a right to be happy, or should you earn it?

19. What happens when I die?

20. What worries me the most about the future?

21. What is a person? Is it the mind, or the body?

22. Would the world be a better place if all leaders were women? If you answered yes, why?

23. What activity have I done that has made me feel the most alive?

24. Does truth exist without evidence?

25. If I had to instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would I give?

26. Does a person have a soul? If so, where is it?

27. Is intelligence or wisdom more useful?

28. Is it more important to love or be loved?

29. What would make the world a better place?

30. How should we measure our lives? In years? In moments? In accomplishments? Something else?

31. What is the difference between living and simply existing?

32. If you died today, would you be satisfied with the life you’ve lived?

33. What advice would you tell your younger self?

34. Which is worse: failing or never trying?

35. Is a minimum wage a good idea? What about a maximum wage?

36. What is the most important goal every person should have?

37. Can anything ever really be considered ‘true’ or is everything subjective?

38. Is the world a better place with humans in it?

39. If extra-terrestrial life was discovered, how do you think humanity would react?

40. Is happiness just a mixture of chemicals circulating through our bodies?

41. Where do you think we go when we die?

42. Have I done anything lately worth remembering?

43. Can you ever have full control over your own life?

44. How do you know that you are not dreaming right now?

45. Is one lifetime enough?

46. What matters most in my life?

47. Is a person ever truly evil? If so, are they born that way?

48. What is the meaning of life?

49. Is humanity going in the right or wrong direction?

50. What does it mean to live a good life?

I hope that you enjoyed these thought provoking existential questions. I hope that they perhaps made you think about your beliefs, yourself and the world around you (the bigger picture). If you discuss these questions with a friend, remember, there is probably no right and wrong answers, usually just a matter of opinion.

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

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30 Life Lessons That I Would Tell My Younger Self

I clearly remember when I was 18, then 25 and in then what seems like a flash, I have recently celebrated by 50th birthday. While some people might dread the thoughts of hitting such a milestone. (more…)

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