So how can you fit in meditation, journaling, affirmations, reading your goals and some physical exercise into your morning routine? Most people have just enough time in the morning to take a shower, get dressed, before grabbing a coffee and running out of the door. By waking up a little earlier every day you will have more than enough time to get more things done than you ever thought possible.
Waking up an hour or two earlier in the morning can at first seem like almost an impossible task, especially if you are a night owl like I once was. Yet, we already know that it is possible for us to wake up earlier when we have strong enough reasons to do so, such as knowing that we have to catch a flight or we have an important meeting to attend. If I told you that that by waking up a little earlier each morning you will be able to fit in your exercise program, journaling, your meditation and the opportunity to change your life forever would you be willing to give it a try? Waking up earlier will help you feel more positive, be more productive and get more things done. Waking up earlier will fill you full of inspiration and you will feel more energized throughout the day.
Almost every successful person is an early-riser, and if you want to achieve more in life, you should make waking up earlier a positive habit of yours. Here are some really useful tips which you can use to make waking up earlier an easier and enjoyable habit.
1. Early To Bed, Early To Rise:
The average person needs at least seven to eight hours of sleep to help them feel healthy and fresh throughout the day. If you want to wake up earlier, it is important that you go to sleep earlier as well, so that you will not hit the snooze button because you are still feeling tired. Make it a habit to go bed at around 10 pm. You might find it hard to fall asleep earlier at first, especially if you have been sleeping late, but soon your mind and body will adjust to this new positive change.
Blue light emitted from your phone, iPad, laptop etc. Is neither healthy for your eyes or your overall health and it actually keeps you from falling asleep. Turn off all of your electronic devices at least one hour before you want to fall asleep. If you want to read a book before you sleep, read a physical book rather than reading from a device like an iPad, Kindle etc.
3. Plan The Morning:
Make a list of all the things that you want to get done the next morning and make sure you have planned your day ahead. This will make you feel excited and more motivated to wake up earlier if you know what you are going to do rather than just waking up without a reason in your head.
4. Don’t Hit The Snooze Button:
Most people cannot resist pressing the snooze button in the morning just to get a few more minutes of sleep. If you are one of these people, try to put your alarm clock away from where you sleep. If you put your alarm on the other side of the room, you will force yourself to get out of bed to have to turn off the alarm. Once you are out of bed, you will simply start your day rather than pressing the snooze button one more time.
5. Stop Eating Late:
It is important that you stop eating after 8 pm. Food gives you energy and as a result it is more difficult to fall asleep if you are still feeling physically energetic. Develop the habit of eating a light meal at least two hours before you go to bed. Don’t snack after the last meal of the day.
6. Avoid Caffeine:
Caffeinated drinks will prevent you from falling asleep, therefore try not to consume tea or coffee for at least five hours before you want to go to sleep. This is a necessary step in developing the habit of waking up earlier.
7. Bedtime Rituals:
If you find it hard to shut your mind down before falling asleep, develop a nighttime ritual. You can do some light cleaning around the house or prepare things for the next day, like getting your clothes and journal ready. You can even get your breakfast prepared to save you some extra time in the morning. Some people like to write in their journal before going to bed because it helps them to get their thoughts on paper, which might keep them up otherwise. Try to clear your head of any excessive thinking by doing some little things that will calm you down and relax you. You can also pick the clothes you want to wear for the next day, which will also save you the trouble in the morning.
8. Dim the Lights:
Turn on just a night-light or a lamp for an hour before you plan to go to bed. It will automatically prepare your brain for sleep and you will feel tired. If you want to go to bed at 10 pm, turn off all the lights at 9 pm. Dimmed lights will naturally make you feel more sleepy and you will be more prepared to fall asleep as soon as your head hits your pillow.
9. Take Your Time:
If you want to wake up earlier, it is important that you start the process of waking up early gradually. If you go to sleep at around 2 am, you will not be able to magically wake up at 6 am even if you want to. Start going to bed fifteen minutes earlier than usual every night and slowly, your sleeping routine will change.
10. Affirmations and Goals:
Say your affirmations out loud and then read your list of exciting goals. This is a powerful positive way of programing your mind while you sleep.
Waking up earlier is not an easy habit to develop and many people give up because they simply believe that they are not able to wake up any earlier. But this is not true, as anyone can wake up earlier if they just set themselves the goal to do so and change their sleeping habits. Almost every successful person wakes up a few hours earlier than the average person. I want you to be more than average. I want you to wake up in the morning full of enthusiasm and vitality. If you want to feel more confident and positive throughout the day, you should develop this wonderful habit of rising earlier than everyone else. It is not that difficult to become a morning person, but it will take some time to condition your mind and body to work together to achieve waking up earlier.
By following these few simple steps, you will soon become an early bird and really start enjoying being an advanced early riser. It is so calm and peaceful in the morning, and you will have more time to plan your day, enjoy more valuable ‘you time’ and you will be able to catch up on your thoughts before you do other things.
As an advanced early riser you will feel more organized and productive because you will have more time to achieve all of the exciting goals and tasks that you have set for yourself for each day.
5 Ways To Know Your Self Worth
Focusing on your sense of “self” is very important in so many different ways. When you think about it, you are probably surrounded by the word “self” each day more than you realize. From self-care, self-esteem and self-belief to self-confidence, self-respect and self-worth, people are constantly trying to find ways to better themselves in different areas of their lives.
If you ask most people if they know their self-worth, they will probably be quick to say yes. But, if you took that question further and asked them how they know it, you will likely be met with some hesitation. The reality is, most people think they know about self-worth, but do not fully understand what it is or how it differs from other areas of “self”.
So, how can you truly know your self-worth? What can you do to increase it? What are your strengths, gifts and abilities? Let’s take a look at a few ways to have a better understanding of what really is your self-worth.
1. Don’t Judge Your Own Emotions
You can boost your sense of self-worth by accepting your thoughts and feelings. You might not always like them, and you might find yourself at odds with them from time to time. But, whatever thoughts and emotions come into your head, let them in. Then, you can work through them effectively. Emotions demand to be felt. It is how you respond to them that matters. Don’t ignore them and limit your true value. Embrace the wonderful unique person who you are.
Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy. – Robert Tew
2. Question Your “Shoulds”
When you think about the things you “should” do, it might leave you feeling unmotivated and overwhelmed. For example, if you say to yourself, “I should go for a run this evening,” and then you don’t end up doing it, how do you think you will feel? Chances are, you will struggle with some level of guilt. This can snowball into not feeling good about yourself and questioning how much that you value yourself and your self-worth.
Instead, fill your life with things that you “will” do. The word “will” implies that it is more of a promise and a commitment, rather than a burden. Saying “I will run a mile this evening” is much more motivating and allows you to prove exactly who you are and what you can do.
Anything is possible when you have a path, a plan, and a desire to take action. ― Dean Graziosi
3. Don’t Worry About the Acceptance of Others
It seems all too natural to worry about what other people think of us. Social media can make things even worse. If you find yourself constantly “looking for likes” or some kind of validation from friends, family, or even strangers, you are looking at your self-worth in the wrong place by looking through someone else’s lens and standards.
It can be hard to give up this habit. Everyone wants to be accepted. But, you won’t find what you are worth in the opinions of others. You have the power to see yourself for how great you really are. When you are able to internalize this power and recognize your true value and self-worth, you won’t put so much emphasis on what others think of you. You will get to know who you are, what you are really worth, and you can be confident in that.
4. Let Yourself Off The Hook
Many times, people cannot see their true self-worth because they are holding on to past guilt. Almost everyone has regrets. Whether you did something when you were young that you should not have, or perhaps you wronged someone in some way, the past is the past.
You need to learn to forgive yourself and let yourself off the hook. By holding onto that guilt, you will never be able to see what you are really worth. It will feel like a ball and chain holding you back. But, you have the key to break free, if you just give yourself the chance. If you would be willing to show someone else forgiveness and acceptance for their wrongdoings, you owe it to yourself to do the same. Give yourself a break.
5. Look at Your Gifts
If you are still having a hard time understanding your self-worth, take a look at your natural skills. Everyone has certain gifts in life. Your talents are going to be different from someone else’s – that’s what makes the world work!
Think about a few things that you are really good at. Or, something that you really enjoy doing. Go even further by creating a list of your talents and skills. They don’t need to be huge. In fact, writing a list of several “little things” can make you see just how important and valuable that you are. Take a look at that list whenever you are feeling down or devalued, and practice those talents and skills as often as possible.
By keeping these skills and talents of yours in mind, you can start to celebrate your self-worth. When you have a better understanding of your real value, you are more likely to prioritize other things like self-care, self-esteem and self belief. Each of which are different, but they are all connected in some way. But, it starts with knowing your self-worth. And, chances are, it is much more than you might think.
6 Signs Of A Strong Friendship
There is nothing quite like a strong friendship. Having someone that you can truly count on for anything and everything can completely change the way you think and feel. Unfortunately, far too often in today’s society, we seem to focus more on how many friends we have.
Or, worse, how many acquaintances we can keep in touch with via social media. But, having a true, strong friendship is something that cannot be replaced or replicated with lukewarm substitutes.
Are you already thinking about someone in your life who fits that description? Or, are you wondering if you truly have a strong friendship with one (or more) of the people who are closest to you?
While every friendly relationship is different and unique, there are some common factors associated with a strong bond and true friendship. Let’s take a look at a few of them so you can feel even more confident in your close friendships, and grow even deeper with the people in your life who truly matter.
1. Communication is Always a Priority
It is easy to talk to your friends when everything in your life is on track. Sharing laughs, light conversation, and exchanging stories are all important parts of a healthy friendship.
But, a strong friendship goes deeper. It allows you to communicate with that person, no matter what. That includes telling them about your struggles or anything you might be going through. It also includes communicating effectively when you are not getting along.
Through proper communication, especially when things are hard, you will build trust within that relationship. Going through difficult things together will make you stronger individuals, and stronger friends.
2. You Know You Are Equals
Almost everyone has known at least one person in their lives who seems to think they’re “better” than everyone else.
Strong friendships need to be based on equality. You and your friend should always be on the same playing field when it comes to who you are and how you are living your life. If you embrace your differences and do not see one as superior, you can take comfort in knowing your friendship is sincere.
Even the best of friends clash from time to time. You might have similar personalities, but no two people are exactly alike.
But, if you can still show your friend respect (and receive it from them) even in times of turmoil, your friendship will be stronger than any disagreement you might have. When someone chooses to respect you even when they are upset with you, it shows that they value your relationship more than their pride.
4. You Can Be Yourself
Do you ever feel like you have to put on a show for other people? Or, are you afraid to let your true personality shine through when you are in certain crowds?
A strong friendship is one that allows you to be yourself. If there is someone in your life who truly likes you for who you are, hold onto that friendship tightly! Most people spend far too much time pretending, whether it’s online or in-person. Someone who loves your quirks and uniqueness is someone who loves you, as a person.
Honesty is also a huge part of being yourself, and a huge part of a strong friendship. Friendships should be based on trust, and that starts with being honest. Telling the truth about how you feel and what you think is important. If your friend actively listens, appreciates, and comments on that truth, you can take comfort in knowing how secure your relationship is.
5. You Experience Joy
While a true friend should be there for you during hard times, the bulk of your relationship should be joyful and fun! Again, think about that person in your life who makes you smile. Is there someone who you are always happy to be around? Does thinking about your friendship cause your heart to race?
Strong friendships should absolutely be joyful. You should find yourself laughing a lot, and being completely at ease with one another. That person may be the first one you think of when you want to experience something new or go somewhere different, just because you know that you will have more fun with them around.
6. You Respect Boundaries
No matter how great your friendship is, no two people can be together 24/7. A great friend will understand that and respect your boundaries. Alternatively, they might be going through something that they are not ready to talk about. If you can respect those boundaries, it shows them how much faith you have in your friendship.
Many people are too quick to think the term “boundaries” as being negative. But, boundaries are completely healthy and necessary in a strong relationship of any kind. Having someone in your life who respects those boundaries understands what it takes to build upon that strength.
Having a strong friendship – even just one – can add so much to your life. Take a look at your current friendships. Is there one that stands out to you with these characteristics? If so, do what you can to continue to build and grow that strength, and make sure that friend knows how important they are to you on a regular basis.
6 Things To Remember When You Think That You’re Not Good Enough
Have you ever had moments where you feel completely inadequate? Maybe a specific situation comes up and you think there is no way that you would ever be good enough to do what is needed. Or, maybe you feel that way all the time and you can’t seem to get past it.
Thinking that you are not good enough and having low self-esteem tend to go hand-in-hand, but they are slightly different.
Thankfully, you can work on both of them by changing your thinking habits and banishing some of that negative self-talk from your mindset. Whether you think you are not good enough in certain situations or you have a hard time believing that you are good enough for almost anything, it doesn’t have to be that way forever.
Let’s look at a few things you should always keep in mind when those thoughts come in, and how you can start to convince yourself of your true worth.
1. You Are Not Alone
Thinking that you are not good enough can cause a lonely existence. You might not want to put your burdens on others, so you don’t talk about it. You might also think that everyone else is perfectly happy with who they are, and are confident in everything that they do.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
The reality is, you never know what other people are fully thinking/feeling. What you can count on, though, is that there are so many others who feel just like you, and are constantly wondering if they are “enough”. Knowing that you are not alone can help you to work through your feelings without feeling so isolated.
2. You Have Your Own Skills
A common reason why people tend to think they are not good enough is because they don’t have a specific talent or skill that someone else has. But you probably have something that person doesn’t, too.
Everyone has their own abilities and things that make them unique. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, keep your mind on your talents and what makes you special.
“If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you!” – T. Harv Eker
3. You Can’t Be Perfect
Perfection is a fruitless thing to chase. Many people who question their self-worth do so because they are perfectionists.
But, if you set such a high standard for yourself, you will always be disappointed. Perfection doesn’t exist, and while you can strive to be your best, it is important to understand human error and limits. That doesn’t mean the things you do are some how “less” than great. But, striving for perfection is something that can make you feel inadequate.
4. You Are Worthy of Loving Yourself
Love tends to be the answer for so many things, including any pain or turmoil that you might be going through. Thinking that you are not good enough is an easy way to cause yourself sadness and pain. Those thoughts can quickly snowball and you might start to think about more negative things about yourself.
Instead of fueling those negative thoughts, choose love. Love is like a permanent band-aid for the pain that you are going through. It is a great way to comfort yourself, provide reassurance, and get a clearer picture of who you really are and all of the wonderful things that you can offer the world. By choosing self-love, you can start to see yourself in a more positive light, and push those negative thoughts away.
“We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself.” – Mae West
5. Mistakes Can Be a Good Thing
Do you ever find yourself feeling especially inadequate when you “fail”? While that is not uncommon, that word should really be removed from your vocabulary.
Everyone “fails” at times, because again, perfection is not attainable. When you start to consider anything less than perfection to be a failure, it is easy to beat yourself up and think that you will never amount to the things that you truly want.
But, when you start to view your failures and mistakes as good things and stepping stones, you can completely shift your perspective and realize that not only are you good enough, but you are also resilient and strong. Some of the biggest “failures” in history went on to be the most successful people because they learned from their mistakes. They looked at the things that went wrong and considered how they could change them.
It is important to use your mistakes as a way to learn and grow. When you are able to do that, you will find a greater sense of fulfillment when things finally come together and you get it “right”.
“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordon
6. Gratitude Goes a Long Way
It might not always feel easy to accept and be grateful for who you are. But, it is incredibly important. Instead of thinking about the things you don’t have or areas where you are not “good enough”, choose to actively think about and pursue the positive. Focus on what you are grateful for. The more that you do that, the easier it will be to banish those thoughts of doubt and insecurity. I like to start every day by using my journal and begin by writing down three things that I am grateful for.
“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie
Once you really start to think about it, you will find that you have more to be grateful for than you may have initially realized, and that way of thinking can help you to establish healthier, more positive thoughts about yourself that will last a lifetime.