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4 Positive Steps To Get You Out Of Your Comfort Zone.

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Last year I clearly remember reading blogs from successful freelancers. Many blogs, many freelancers. They had pictures attached to their blogs. A picture of an oceanfront, a rain forest, some even had pictures of themselves surfing waves. Oh how I loved their pictures. Oh how jealous I was. So jealous. I wanna be there. I want to be in a rainforest with monkeys, I want to be sipping margeuritas by the ocean. (I’ll pass on the surfing though. I couldn’t swim to save anyone’s life let alone my own.) I so desperately wanted to be one of those freelancers writing stories from exotic locations around the world.

I read their stories for over a year. They were interesting. There was no scientific formula, no Rubik’s cube to solve. They all managed to get there in their own ways. The more I read, the more I realized that I could do this too. Why couldn’t I? Why can’t everybody? After one full year of reading success stories it was time for me to take some serious action so that I could be the next freelancer on the block writing stories from who knows where. I had no location in mind at the time, really. I didn’t even have a plan. All I had was a fierce determination and a never fail attitude. That was good enough for me to get started.

Perhaps you should know a little about me so you don’t think I’m some hot shot from Canada that had things handed to her and life was easy. Au contraire. I struggled financially and personally most of my life. In and out of jobs, in and out of relationships, owned a hair salon that closed after 3 years and left me declaring bankruptcy (this, I might add, happened very recently, like 2012 recently). Left an abusive relationship in 2013 that left me broke, homeless and scrambling to survive. Nope, it hasn’t been easy, but remember I’m a warrior.

Up until July 2015 I was a full time hairstylist and have been for the last 20 something years. A profession I could always fall back on when my other ventures went to shit. Hairstyling takes its toll on even the fittest of people. At 52 years old I had received my first, and last, cortisone shot for shoulder pain caused by my job. I had had enough. I was not going to be a pin cushion for the rest of my life just to work to pay bills to survive. No thanx. Let’s get back to those darn successful freelancers.

I’m a writer. I’ve always been a writer. Daily diaries, journaling, letters to ex boyfriends behaving badly and eventually a newsletter and a blog. Yes I could write. Time to kick this into high gear, make money doing this, hang up my shears and go sip margeuritas by the ocean. Here’s my formula and trust me, it’s not rocket science. So keep in mind this formula is for freelance writers but it applies to any freelancer or entrepreneur at all really. It’s about you, your passion and your gift.

1. Write and connect with as many freelancers as you can.

Be prepared to work for free in the beginning. For about 4 months or so I worked for free and I still submit guest articles. Expect to put in long hours each day while you’re working on making your dream come true. Work on perfecting your craft so the big guys will take notice. I got a whack of no’s. I have pages and pages in my binder of no’s. Don’t give up. Remember fierce determination.

2. Social media is your best friend. Really it is.

Use it. Reach out to many site and page owners to get attention. Jump up and down and wave your arms in the air if you have to get noticed. Like pages, comment on blogs, tweet, update, chirp, twerk, good grief, you name it, just do it. Someone will notice you and see how awesome you are. Period.

3. Remind yourself daily how awesome and successful you are.

Positive self-talk is crucial. You might not be there yet but your brain doesn’t know the difference. Keep telling it how awesome you are. Your brain will believe whatever you tell it. Tell your brain, every single day, that you are an awesome writer (or whatever it is you are awesome at) and tell your brain that you are sought out by all the big guns. You tell your brain whatever you have to but make sure it’s positive.

4. Set a time frame.

Mark a date on your calendar. Make it bold and scary. Don’t be too lenient. If you want something in 6 months, then set that date. My goal was scary. There was no way no how I was going to spend another winter in Northern Ontario Canada. The clock was ticking and I had to move fast, work hard and push full steam ahead. Expect to do that. Prepare for hard work.

I am writing this article on my laptop from my balcony in Guatemala. When I look up I can see three volcanoes and one of the most beautiful lakes in the world, Lake Atitlan. My apartment costs me $300/mth (Cdn) everything included and I’m totally loving this life. I’m not telling you this to brag or make you jealous. I am telling you this because if I can do it, so can you.

A round of margueritas for everyone!

Iva

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8 Ways to Take Care of Yourself Every Day

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8 Ways to Take Care of Yourself Every Day

Self-care is a term that gets thrown around a lot lately, to the point where it’s easy to ignore or blow it off as some kind of “buzz word”. But, it’s so much more than that, and when you are willing to take self-care seriously, you might just start to see how much easier it will be to get through each day. (more…)

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The Top 8 Most Important Things in Life

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The Top 8 Most Important Things in Life

It is easy for people to speculate and debate about the most important things in life. You have probably heard that “the best things in life are free” or that “love is all you need”, but what about what are the most important? What do you really need in this life in order to find contentment and fulfillment? (more…)

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The Practice of Ho’oponopono Can Clear Stress and Negativity from Your Life

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One method of reducing stress that you may not have heard of before is the Hawaiian practice of Ho’oponopono. Many of us deal with some level of stress on a regular basis. While it is almost impossible to get rid of stress completely from your life, there are many effective ways to reduce it. Too much stress can cause a variety of negative health issues, these include:

  • Heart disease
  • Headaches
  • Nausea
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Diabetes

Ho’oponopono originated in Hawaii, and translates directly into English as “correction” or “to make right”. The practice focuses on reconciliation and forgiveness by using an affirmation to clear the mind of any negative thoughts and stress.

The benefits to someone who practices Ho’oponopono regularly are:

  • Reduction of stress
  • Improvement in physical and mental health
  • Improved relationships with others
  • Control over emotions
  • A happier/more positive life

How Does Ho’oponopono Work?

Ho’ponopono does not require much teaching or practice, yet it is powerful for getting rid of bad memories or feelings. Ho’oponopono is a simple practice that allows you to release negativity that is being held within you. It also sends out the desire for reconciliation into the universe. This is achieved by using just four easy steps. The steps of H’oponopono are:

1. I’m Sorry: In life, it can be very easy to feel like the victim. We are often quick to blame other people or other circumstances for our own negative thoughts. In reality, you are in control of your thoughts. You are responsible for the negative feelings that have manifested inside. It is not always easy to admit that you have allowed your consciousness to introduce those negative thoughts – and that you have believed them. By saying sorry, you are recognizing that you are responsible for the negative thoughts or emotions that you might have. Apologizing to yourself has a powerful healing power and will help you to move on with your life.

2. Forgive Me: Once you have said that you are sorry, forgiveness is the next natural step. Don’t think so much about who you’re asking to forgive you. Instead, focus on the feeling of genuine remorse as you ask for that forgiveness.

3. Thank You: Gratitude has the power to completely change your outlook in life. Thank a friend, thank yourself, thank the universe or God or whoever you want to. The more that you are grateful, the more things you will have to be grateful for. Get into the habit of being more grateful every day.

4. I Love You: There is perhaps nothing more powerful in the world than the power of love. It doesn’t matter who the words are spoken to as long as the feeling behind them is genuine. Love yourself, your body, the air that you breathe, the world around you and all of the people in it. The power of love has the power to heal and banish any negative thoughts and stress from our lives.

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Why is Ho’oponopono So Powerful?

I’m sorry. Forgive me. Thank you. I love you.

So, what makes these simple affirmations so powerful?

You will probably agree that the four healing affirmations of Ho’oponopono are all positive things. When you can don’t have to convince yourself of that, and you just naturally “know” it, it is easier to push away negative thoughts and block out stress by filling yourself with love and gratitude.

Making Ho’oponopono a Habit

Because the affirmations of Ho’oponopono are universally accepted, anyone can put them into practice and allow them to change the way that they think and feel. Whether you use the affirmations as a daily reminder to yourself, or you focus on each of the four areas individually in order to rid yourself of negativity, they can make a big difference in your life. Stress will always be there and ignoring it will only make things worse. By recognizing that no other person or situation has control over your thoughts, you can feel more confident in getting rid of any negativity and stress that might be affecting you.

Start by realizing the importance of self, and how your negative connotations toward others or toward external factors could be controlling you more than you think. Once you start looking inward instead of outward, you can start to re-gain control over which thoughts you choose to listen to and which thoughts you choose to ignore. Always remember, the power to clear away stress and negativity starts from within.

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