Worrying is seriously bad for your health, and I mean seriously bad. It can cause anxiety, loss of appetite, headaches, stress in our relationships, have a negative effect on our job performance, cause high blood pressure, and deprive us of sleep. Excessive worrying can be very stressful and stress is a killer!

Many of us have spent days and nights worrying about many different things in our lives only for the situation to pass, and for a voice in our head to tell us that we should not have worried at all.

I am certainly no stranger to worrying either; I have tortured myself in the past, worrying about job security, paying the bills, finding my passion, following my dreams and so many other things over the years. Every worry and drama that my mind had built up came and passed, and do you know what? I survived every situation. My only regret is that I wish I never lost a moment’s sleep over any one of them. Yes, I survived being unemployed during a recession; I have traveled to more countries since taking a cut in salary than I ever did before, I always found a way to pay my bills, and I am currently in the process of following my dreams.

Here is a list of 9 Things You Should Stop Worrying About Now.

Other Peoples Opinions Of You

This is the one I feel the strongest about. Please, for your own piece of mind, stop worrying about what other people think about you. What you think about yourself is what matters the most. So please cut out, cut off and disregard what anyone else thinks about you. Don’t let anyone else dictate your life for you. You deserve so much more than that.

Your Mistakes

We all make mistakes. We have all made choices in life that when we look back now we wish we had made a different decision. But do you know what? Life goes on. Yeah, you might have messed up. You might have made a bad choice, but then again who hasn’t? Dust yourself off and just move on. We all know that some of the greatest lessons  of life are learned from our mistakes.

Your Past

We have all faced obstacles and challenges in our past. But there is no need to run from or be ashamed of who you are, or where you came from. So stop letting what happened to you distract you from your exciting goals of the future. Learn from your struggles, and learn to just fight harder next time. The only way you can continue to be harmed by something that already happened is if you let it do so.

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Your Future

Two lessons that I learned about the future are, you cannot predict it, and you cannot control it. So, Stop worrying about the future because you are missing out on the best time of your life, and that is in the here and now. Focus on today and what you can do to live life to the fullest.

Your Bills

In the past I worried if I would have enough money to pay the mortgage or the electricity bills on time. I look back now and I remember having sleepless nights and almost going into bad health because of bills! Was I mad? For sure I paid some bills a few weeks later than I hoped. But instead of worrying about being able to pay my bills on time, I should have used my energy to organize my finances. I only sorted my finances out when I got my act together, got serious, and put together a personal finance plan. I temporally cut cable TV; I stopped smoking forever and going to the coffee shop two times a day. Only then could I pay all of my bills, pay off my credit card and begin to actually save for the future.

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Social Media

Only the other day, I heard one of the guys in work saying ‘The link that I shared only got three likes from my friends!’ We are living in a time when many people are seeking approval from social media. Their selfies that are posted, tweeted and pinned are now blemish free thanks to modern day apps where we can look years younger and wrinkle free. When I meet many of my friends, they all seem to look ten years older than their retouched images posted online. Stop posing, stop pouting and just be you. Take a look in the mirror, that is who you really are. People want to see the real you, not posed, not perfect, just you. Anyone who doesn’t like it, that is their loss, not yours.

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Having ‘The Perfect Body’

You have the perfect body for YOU and that is all that matters. Stop striving for perfection, it just doesn’t exist. Try to eat as healthy as you can, stay in shape and improve your health by working out. Once a while, if  you want reach for the Doritos and order a pizza go for it! Enjoy yourself. Everyone deserves a treat.

Your Job

We leave school or college looking forward to the joys and rewards of having a job. Only to be confronted by challenges such as bullying, job security, pressure, targets and deadlines. We have been programmed that ‘we are lucky to have a job.’ Well I am of the opinion that if you work hard, don’t cause any trouble, arrive on time and get your job done, well then “they” are lucky to have you! You are not defined by your job; you define who you are. Don’t give up on your dreams, your passion or yourself. Follow your heart and go for it.

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Getting Old

Getting older is a part of life. You have more experience and you are wiser now than you have ever been before. Stop worrying about the odd grey hair or wrinkle, instead just enjoy the present where you exist in right now. You’ll only be this old once, so do all the amazing things that you always wanted to do. Stop wishing you were younger. Go and live your life to the fullest.

 

I have found that using my journal to write my thoughts down on paper really helps me. It helps me to focus on what really matters in life. I also make a habit to start each day by writing down three things that I am grateful for. The roof over my head, my health, my wife, my family, my positivity, my home… the list goes on and on.
Once you change your focus from the negative to the positive and stop worrying you will see that you have no reason in the world to be worried. Stop worrying, live your life, embrace it and enjoy every moment.

Damien-Thomas

 

Damien Thomas

I believe that personal development is an exciting lifelong process as well as a wonderful journey of self-discovery. It is my sincere wish that I can help people to believe in themselves, believe in their dreams, and most importantly, to take action to achieve the life of their dreams.